Looking Back at My Adolescent Years – Creating Safe Places for Young People

A safe place connotes a conducive and enabling environment to be yourself and pursue your goals and dreams without fear or any inhibition. We all need that safe place to blossom and flourish.

At a Youth Mentoring program by Beehyve Initiative.

What does a “safe place mean to a young person? This takes me down memory lane to my adolescent years. Look I’m not that old *wink… Lol😀.

As a teenager while growing up I and my sisters – we are four by the way, had more male friends than girls. The percentage was 90-10%… I am serious here…. So you can imagine the “fear & terror”, this must have brought to my parents… Hahaha. As African parents or any parent at all there is that extra carefulness you adopt when it comes to raising girls. Often you will hear parents especially mom’s like mine say something like this : “Eyin omo yi, e ma doju timi o!”. Meaning ‘Don’t bring shame to the family “, and by that they mean” do not get pregnant o“! “Becareful with boys”. Are you following my gist? So four teenage girls in the hands of my parents was a huge task in their minds.

Yearly we would organize our special Boxing day party for all the teenagers in our neighborhood and Youth group in church and we would have a hard time trying to get more girls to come to our party. I was the chairman organizing committee leader and sometimes I will hope and pray that my father will not adjust his glasses to access why we had more boys in attendance… “poor me”.

But you know what, admist all the adolescent age drama with friends and parents I felt safe and was able to express myself. I don’t know who taught my parent this wisdom I am about to share but it worked!

Instead of policing us and putting all our activities under a microscope my parents decided to have an open door policy. Our friends whether males or females were allowed to visit our home and they even get to gist with my parents. My Dad will engage us all in a friendly discussion and soon we would all be laughing. My friends back then thought my dad and mum were cool. While dad engages us in a gist, mum will be busy serving snacks or any food available in the pot. Unknown to us it was a strategy to learn more about who our friends were; possibly investigate what we have been up to. Mostly for us, we felt free to bring our friends home and be ourselves.

Now did we ever experienced that parent versus adolescent clashes? Of course plenty… Lol. However our parents open door policy was a check mate for us. Anytime Dad begins to raise some extra questions about a particular friend we were quick to understand that something wasn’t right because he hardly complained about our friends. So without having to breath down our necks, I and my siblings always found ways to cut off such friendship. I found out that I could speak to my mum intimately about my crushes and issues with the opposite sex.

Every time we have a chance to talk about our adolescent years at family reunions, it is usually with fond memories. 💑 Of course life is never perfect but we thoroughly enjoyed those years.

So back to my gist about creating Safe Places for Young People, I say it is doable. Mostly adults have the major responsibility of making young persons feel safe. We can do this by creating an enabling environment where young people can:
1. Be free to express themselves.
2. Have a listening ear who will be there for him or her.
3. Have a loving home environment.
4. Have a space and opportunities that allows them access to information about life: their wellbeing and reproductive health.
5. Give room for them to bring to the table their questions about issues that trouble people in their age group without fear of being judged.

The International Youth Day is celebrated every 12th of August yearly and this year’s theme is “Creating Safe Places for Young People”.

As a parent are you intentional about creating a safe place for your adolescents? Instead of adopting the “body guard” approach create an atmosphere that allows your children to express themselves. Build a relationship that gives room for conversations that will help guide them in making informed and right choices.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN) Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

 

Empowering School Girls Through Table Tennis Championship

I believe strongly in “Doing Something about the Change you want to See”, or nothing will change. If we want more girls to participate and benefit from sports then someone must drive and motivate them.

It is a delight to witness the birth of the Funke-treasure Table Tennis Championship (F3TC) for girls. And the Maiden edition is kicking off in my city – Ibadan, Oyo State. 🙌

For many great achievers or persons who stand out in their chosen field of profession someone believed in and mentored them. One woman who stands out in the world of Tennis is Serena Williams. Serena and her sister Venus were groomed by their father from age 3…Wow! Today they are world champions.

When you identify a child’s gift, nuture it. Catch them young and help chat a great future

So come September 18-21, 2018 the F3TC competition will be birthing the next generation of World champions in Table Tennis… You better believe it because I do!

Aim of the competition :

  • To Motivate girls to participate more in sports and therefore become more confident, independent and not be afraid to compete.
  • To produce formidable female players who will represent the nation(Nigeria) in Table Tennis.
  • Reawaken interest in Table Tennis as a sport.

How Schools and Girls can Participate

Click on this link F3TC and download a registration form. Each school has the privilege of nominating and registering 2 girls.

What You Stand to gain

  • Two-day coaching clinic embedded in the championship.
  • Winning School /girl gets Branded Table Tennis Board, a trophy, a medal, certificate of participation.
  • The winning Girl goes home with a brand new laptop.
  • Continues coaching and mentoring for exceptional girls and opportunities to travel outside the country.

Funke Treasure is a multiple award winning international broadcast journalist ; a speech coach who offers training and mentorship in broadcasting, journalism, management & Leadership skills. 

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media consultant – @debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN) Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

If She Can… Sure You Can Girls! 👸

Hello there,
I am literarily smiling😊 and feeling good as I write this. As always my ears and eyes are sharp to pick up on women who are doing great in their chosen field or carrier. Breaking the glass ceiling in fields thought to be a “man’s turf” is exciting for me. And I always tell my daughter at every opportunity that presents itself that she can be anything she dreams of.

So let me introduce you to Prof. Mrs Taiye Fasola whom I met recently at my children’s end of school sessions party.

She was the Keynote speaker and this woman had a wealth of experience to share with students, teachers and parents.

Prof. Fasola is the first Female Professor in the department of Botany, University Ibadan since the institution was established in 1948. Taiye Fasola went on to achieve another ground breaking feat. She is the first Professor of Ethnobotany and Economic Botany in Nigeria 🙌🙌. I salute and celebrate this great woman who became “a First” in these areas opening up the door for other young women to aspire.

Her story did not start on a smooth slate. Prof. Fasola had her fair share of struggle and failure but somewhere in between she had to decide that she wanted to be the best in her career. As a student after getting a low GPA in her first year, she woke up and buried herself in her books; the library became her friend. Today she looked back and is happy with the results of her hardworking and determination.

You can be anything you dream of. Do not let your background keep your back on the ground

Do not give in or give up.

Success knows no gender. If you are determined and willing, you will achieve your goals and succeed

Make up your mind to go forward in the pursuit of your dream and success. Find out what and who you need to get you there.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN) Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

 

When Life Happens, Don’t Let it Shut You Down

Everything on a Palm Tree is useful. Every hard lesson of life is useful. Make yours a spring board

If you have been following my blog, you must have noticed that I have been erratic at publishing posts. Yes… Other life issues took my attention and sapped so much energy that I could barely post anything. And then in the midst of the Chaos and pressure my laptop got smashed against the staircase in my office 😥my dear son in trying to help me carry it tripped and slammed it on the floor…. You don’t want to know how that felt… Fury, anger, frustration and a depressive mood… That laptop was my mobile office and work space! Now I am praying hard to get a new laptop… As for my dear son all he could do was to offer apologetic words and I could only just stare at him for a while… Apologies had to be accepted, there is nothing anyone of us can do about it. The impact affected the hard drive of my laptop and there is no solution about repair. Life moves on…

When Your Child breaks something of value becareful how you react. It could have been you… Control your temper.

Life happens and your worst nightmare shows up- stay positive and optimistic

Look for a way to work Around Things

Ever since the incident I have looked for alternative means to carry out my writing tasks ; editing and basically struggle to meet my deadlines. However I decided to drop some tasks and let them be for now until I can get a new work laptop. Thanks to dear friends and neighbors who borrow me a few hours to work with their laptops.

Life goes on… It’s not the end of the world
So forgive my erratic posts, I hope to keep posting on the go using my Android phone. Enjoy the rest of your week.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN) 
Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee
Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

 

 

New Beginning: Inspiring Quotes for August #Happy New Month

I logged in this morning and discovered that this August post from last year is trending on my page … I guest it’s the “August Feeling’😁 So here I am Wishing a great and beautiful month. The holidays are here especially for school children ensure that they enjoy their vacation.
Loads of love 💞💞🌹 from me to you.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

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Happy new month! And its a new beginning.

New beginnings come to those who step out in faith. Dr. Robert Wiegel 

If you follow your purpose, the profit will follow you. TD Jake’s.

The thought of a new beginning is scary because you don’t want to risk failing. Step out in faith.

It is one thing to remember past successes/failure and another to remain in the past. Time to move into new things… New success stories.

You can not keep living in the old way(sin) and expect change.

Behold I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. Isaiah 43:19

Courage does not mean a lack of fear, but rather the gumption to stand firm in threatening circumstances because your trust is on the Lord. Steven J. Cole. 

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Inspiring Thoughts for Thursday -To Earn More, Increase your Value

Me bringing value to my work and business. ☺️

What value are you bringing to that group, job, career, and office?

It is whatever Value that you are bringing that people pay for.

Where you are deficient, get people to help you.

Increase your value through self development. Take a course, go for a training ; Read a lot more… Just Learn something new.

One good way to increase your value is to take a look at the market trends, find out what new skills are been sourced for by business owners and organizations and acquire such skills. Reposition yourself for greatness!

Enjoy your day 😘

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN) 
Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee
Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

Friday Photo Thought #NelsonMandela

A friend shared this photo on a page I belonged to and I thought it was important to share: May we be empowered to care for our older persons as men and women.

A society that does not value its older people denies its roots and endangers its future. Let us strive to enhance their capacity to support themselves for as long as possible. And when they cannot do so anymore to care for them” – Nelson Mandela 

Adebisi Adetunji (C)