Stop! Don’t End it All…Winning Against Depression…It is Possible

Something mind boggling has been happening: in the past few days, the news reported about four different attempts by four individuals to commit suicide. There are many hypotheses about what could have made these individuals to end their lives ranging from failure of exam perhaps for the student victim; business gone sour, loss of money, depression to even the idea of blaming witches for hypnotizing them. Whatever the reasons are no human being should end it that way…Life is precious and is a gift.

Depression is usually triggered by an unexpected life crisis/event. It affects the mood, thoughts, and activities.

It is said that more women are likely to experience depression than women. Partly responsible is women’s biological experiences with menstruation cycle, pregnancy, menopause and more.  There is need to understand what depression is; its signs and symptoms in order to be able to deal with it. I am not medical personal but as a human being and social worker, I want to speak from my heart that it is possible to win the battle over depression.
So before defining what depression is; its signs and symptoms and how to get the help I want to start with words of hope:

You can handle Depression
 Understand that you are not alone in this challenge. There are people who are going through the same things you are going through. With the right treatment, they are coping and living normal lives. Many have overcome their depression.

Whatever you are going through is for a season. You can come through even stronger and better.

When one door closes always remember that another will open

If you are depressed because you are in debt hey it is not the end of the world. Understand that you can get out of that debt and you will as you take things one day at a time. Look for options and ways you can begin to reasonable pay back at your pace.

If your partner or spouse cheated on you, it is not the end of the world and it is not your fault. It is he/she’s loss. Your life matters not because he or she is in it but because you are worth loving, so love yourself and move on.

If you are battling with a long term illness, remember today is another day that you are alive. Concentrate on happy thoughts and moments in your life and know that you are strong and can come through.

Don’t follow through with that suicide thought. You are important, you are loved, and there is so much more you can achieve with your life. Suicide is an attempt to end one’s life. Suicide is an attempt to end one’s life. Your life matters!!

So let’s get down to what Depression is, signs/symptoms:

Depression is a downward feeling that drags on for a very long time.
A feeling of loneliness, worthlessness.
A state of giving up hope.
A state of being that believes the worst has happened and cannot be remedied.
A feeling that can trigger withdrawal from normal activities.
A feeling that wants to shut out help from others.
A feeling of hopelessness.
A feeling that says you don’t really matter anymore, give up.
Thoughts of wanting to hurt yourself.
Thoughts of death and suicide.

Causes of Depression:
• Loss of a job
• Loss of a loved one
• Failing an exam as a student
• Bankruptcy
• Lack of money
• Serious medical condition

How to get help if you are depressed
• Visit and speak with your family doctor.
• Talk to someone about your issues or what you are feeling ( Friend, spouse, parent, teacher) Anyone you trust.
• Speak to a counselor or social worker
• Talk to your pastor or religious leader
• Engage in interesting and relaxing activities such as sports, going to the cinema in the company of friends, attending parties( weddings, birthdays, house warming etc) like in Nigeria we like partying.
• See your psychologist or Psychiatrist ( it doesn’t mean that you are mentally incapable as culture tends to stigmatize such persons in some places).

Whatever you do fight this thing call depression, you can do it!

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NOTE: If you need someone to share your thoughts with…reach me via my email…bisimodupe1975@gmail.com. Together we can support each other. Loads of love from my heart.

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Interesting Take Away from the training “Effective Family Planning Projection on Social Media” Presentation by Mrs Stella Akinso

Family Planning is having children by choice not by chance.

Data/Statistics of maternal deaths is not just figures…these are real people…human beings.

Family Planning is able to prevent 40% of maternal mortality. Women of reproductive age at high birth risks include:
• Those who get pregnant too early in age.
• Giving birth at very short intervals
• Too old an age

Government and policy makers need to wake up and take necessary action to end maternal and child mortality. Family planning is key to the sustainable millennium goals.

It is time to stop the lines – “Only 1 woman/person died”. No woman should have to die giving life to another.

OUR Population is multiplying and not just doubling in Nigeria. We should ask ourselves do we have resources to cater for our increasing population? 2 million youths get churned out into the labor market every year and there are no jobs!

Family planning is not saying don’t have children but have only the number you can cater for. Men need to get more involved in making an informed choice about family planning for their family.

Benefits of Family Planning
• More working-age people supporting few number of children
• Access to sex education and contraceptive
• Slow population growth
• Results in better breastfeeding as the mother can give enough time for proper care of the baby without having a too early pregnancy.

How a young person should refuse sexual advances: Communicate NO properly. Use your facial expression, hands and tone of voice to say NO. If the other person insists on touching you inappropriately push if you have to and walk away…Don’t be passive and stand there…WALK AWAY.

Stella Akinso is the State Team Leader for Nigerian Urban Health Initiative 2, Oyo.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Guest Interview : Toyin Odedele-Odugbesan (WhatsupIbadan) / CEO Geomeridien

At an on-going training for Social Media Bloggers on Effective Family Planning Projection organized by DEVCOMS NETWORK, I met this fantastic Lady doing great things.

Her story is real, funny and inspiring for every woman out there and even men.

I will sum up her story with these words:

Where you think there is nothing, therein lies your future

Toyin Odedele-Odugbesan is the co-founder of a blog platform named: WhatsupIbadan where she works alongside her husband as Marketing manager. Toyin is also the CEO Geomeridien travel and tours business intertwined with community service.

How did she get here?
Toyin was offered a Diploma admission into the Olabisi Onabanjo University in Ogun State Nigeria to study Transport and Management. It was not what her heart was set on doing but you know how parents will want their child to start any available course instead of waiting at home to write JAMB again. This will mean another year of wait.

Toyin’s words: My first thought when I was offered this course (Transport & Management) was the “Agberos”(Bus conductors) or at best a Taxi Cab driver. For like three months I didn’t attend classes.

It was like she had been sentenced to the worst kind of course which had no future prospect little did she know that therein laid her dream career ticket.

Bisi: So what changed things for you?
Toyin: My first-semester result was bad. I barely passed, this woke me up. I, therefore, determined to study hard. As time passed by and I came to a realization that transportation covered is a wide field and offers me an array of career opportunities. I found out that there were different categories of transport such as Land, Air, Water, Cargo to Ship. I discovered that I could work in Customs service, VIO, Ministry of works and transport, tourism and much more. Soon I fell in love with my course.

Initially, she thought of studying Economics at the BSc level after finishing her diploma instead she went further with a degree in Transport and Management.

Bisi: What happened after your first degree?
Toyin: The Tourism aspect of my course struck me most and it became my passion this led me to do a Masters in Tourism and Hospitality Management in India.

Bisi: What did it feel like studying in a foreign country?
Toyin: At first it was difficult adjusting to the new culture. I found my way gradually and began to mingle. Where I come from we greet everyone but I noticed people kept to themselves. I started to take the initiative to say hello to people I meet every day from the security man to the gadner and my schoolmates too. People began to warm up to me. Over there in India far away from home, I engaged in community service visiting Orphanage homes and even organized a summer event that brought rich and poor children’s children together. This I did in collaboration with my colleagues in school, lecturers who bought into our idea. It was a rich rewarding and fulfilling time.

Bisi: When did you start your business?
Toyin: All these community service activities inspired me to start my Travels and Tours business back in India even as a student. Now we are also here in Nigeria. Our business name is Geomeridien Travels & Tours.

Bisi: So what is next for you?
Toyin: I continue to look for ways I can reach out more to my communities and make a difference.

Bisi: Your Life’s Motto/Inspiration

Toyin: What you give to life is what life gives back to you.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Dear Diary…The Soup thief was caught But a threat is under way…TBEE Writes #18

 

Dear diary,
The thief that stole I and Lizzy’s pot of soup has finally been caught! Heehee…she is going to pay for it. Was it our hatched plan of getting her caught that did the magic? Yes we had intended to set a trap for the thief but as providence would have it she was caught right in the act stealing another person’s pot of jollof rice. You won’t believe who this thief is…It is the “effizy” and popular girl Romoke who behaved like her parents owned all the money in the world. Romoke carries herself like she didn’t even visit the toilet like the rest of us (Pardon me if I caused you to squeeze your face). Her fake shakara has caught up with her. Why couldn’t she make her own meals from the big monies she always talked about? If she can’t cook at least she could at least hire someone or buy from the bukas or restaurants in the school.
It was a big disgrace to have been caught like that. Now, am I sure Romoke was the one who stole our pot of soup? Well she is the only one that has been caught so she is the prime suspect in any other food theft. As far as I am concerned she will pay for my pot of soup…very costly one at that!

Apart from the saga with Romoke, DT my boyfriend now knows about Dr. Bosun’s new found idea that I accompany him as his P.A to a presentation. I thought he would hit the roof but he took the matter calmly. In fact he even said that I should go with him to the presentation and that he would be watching my back. My own plan is to fane that I am sick when the day finally arrives. DT smiled and told me that I should simply play along and that if Dr. Bosun tries anything his boys will be waiting. Now, this got me worried. “I don’t want anybody getting hurt DT”, I said. He smiled and told me that they will only teach him a lesson for daring to harass me his girlfriend. I tried to tell him that he and I could get into serious trouble with this his plan. DT had this wicked smile on his face which made me to wonder again about what I really knew about my boyfriend. Anyway we chatted about other things and thought of going out on a special date. This made me happy and I felt special but there was this knot in my stomach. Something is not adding up.

After DT left I got a call from Peter my class governor again. This is beginning to become a habit. He said he just wanted to know how I was feeling about the Dr. Bosun’s matter. I told him that I was ok then he quickly added that he hadn’t been seeing me at the school chapel for services. Peter is beginning to sound like my parents. “I go when I have time”, I said. He gently encouraged me to try and make it on Sunday. Hmmm, Peter the evangelist, I said and we both busted out laughing. We said our goodbyes and then I lay on my bed suddenly comparing Peter with DT, I mean in terms of how they handled Issues. I sighed and prayed that this matter of Dr. Bosun will not spiral into something out of control. I just want to graduate from the university in one peace.
Good night dear diary.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Guest Post: Wearing Different Hats on a Shoe By Adebisi Adetunji

I met Ashley from Pockets full of Love blog. She juggles school with blogging and I simply love the fact that she has it all planned out. Thanks for the privilege to share some of my thoughts on your page.

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HATS AND SHOE

At a dinner party and awards event I attended once, the host and CEO of the organization also played the role of MC at the event. He won over the crowd. He was a natural. That night, I started to admire our host because of his willingness to play different roles. If you would like to be a jack of all trades too, here are a few pointers.

How to fit into different roles comfortably

  • Never underestimate what you can do, or who you can be. Try out a new role, and apply for a new job position. The role just might fit you well.
  • Be on time to act out your role or else someone else will take your place and possibly do it better.
  • Don’t mix up your different roles. Play and act out one role at a time, so you won’t get overwhelmed and your roles don’t…

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Shout Out to My Blogging Community and Friends

Where have I been? At the phone clinic trying to fix my Android. It hasn’t been funny and its why I haven’t been able to visit your pages and read all your juicy stories and post. It is difficult posting as well as my battery isn’t charging due to a bad charging port. Really frustrating.
I hope  my “technical doctor” can fix this problem ASAP. Miss you all.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)