Wrapped delicately in a beautiful blanket
I tried to hold, curdle and love her
As her mother i thought of how best to care for and nurture her
Already familiar with the drill i brazed myself for what lay ahead
There will be many sleepless nights; nights of breastfeeding her
Butterflies in my stomach as i anticipated the excitement of watching her grow
The days of hard work will be many
But i look forward to seeing a growing and blossoming woman
My baby, My blog on her own journey of blossoming into a beautiful flower
Celebrating four months, 52posts and 1,436 hits. Its been a great privilege, pleasure and delight meeting all my new friends in the blogging community. Thank you all for taking the time to visit, read, like and comment. I’ll definitely not forget to appreciate my family and friends who have been following my posts.
Enjoy your small beginnings as a Great future rises in the horizon as i am enjoying mine.
Funny I was trying to post this on my other site but it landed here instead. Well i did re-posted it on the actual site but hey somebody might just be encouraged reading it here, so I’ll leave it for a while. Have a Great & Fabulous day!!
God saves the best wine for later. The best is yet to come
John 2: 10 …Every man at the beginning doth set forth good wine; and when men have well drunk, then that which is worse: but thou hast kept the good wine until now.
So if you are wondering when you’ll get out of that deep mud or you just simply want a change…something better…something new, send a prayer up to the father. Something special, supernatural will happen for you. Wait…wait for it…He makes all things beautiful in its time.
Don’t know what to say to Him, then say this simple prayer:
Heavenly father i know you love and care about me,thank you. Lord i simply need a change, send me help; send me provision and help me to patiently wait in Jesus name. Amen
Hello there…i have been quiet these past few days, missed you all. First it was having to deal with a number of deadlines, then my internet connection became a little bit of a challenge. So sorry to be behind in posting this…i mean the fashion Friday post! But here it is…meet this fabulous young make up artist. These are her words about herself and why she does what she does plus a few make up tips. Have fun reading my 50th Post!!! Its been exciting…
I’ve always been a lover of art since I was a little girl and I’ve grown to appreciate different genres of art even more, from music to pencil drawing to paintings, to hand crafts, to aerobics, to dance and the likes. However, my keen interest in makeup came to be because this is one area of art that allows one to combine various colours in such a manner that one can convey different emotions both internally and externally. Internally i enjoy watching the height of anxiety and satisfaction my clients feel during and after their makeover. I simply can’t find the words to express the emotion.
Externally because makeup artistry itself has different categories whereby you can have the everyday makeup, to the bridal makeup and the dramatic abstract or runway makeup.
This among other things thrill me about makeup and it surprises people that I didn’t train in any makeup school whenever they ask me.
Being vast in the art of makeup has so many advantages personally and financially. Making up builds self confidence and makes one stand out amongst the crowd. Also, as a profession, the art of make up is a source of income. Even as a student, being a makeup artist gives me independence and financial freedom.
Makeup however has some dos and don’t, especially for those who don’t know the technical application and those who have very sensitive skin. As they say, too much of everything is not good. Thus, makeup should not be worn overnight, one must know the product that works well for one’s skin and one must learn to apply the right product in the right quantity. I am a 400L Law student at the University of Ibadan, Oyo state Nigeria and the last child of my parents. I believe God has blessed me with the magic fingers that crafts beautiful faces.
Amazing the magic flowing through the hands of this Law Student. Wish Bolu great success in her career as a makeup artist
Occupation: Student/Makeup artist
Instagram: @lummiesque, @lipsandlashespro
Facebook: Onayemi Boluwabade
For bookings, call 09096718580
Mummy: ( IN HER HEAD) I forget that i also have a mummy
This conversation took place at my house on the day Grandma(my mum) visited.
Being a mummy can sometimes make you forget that you also have a mummy. Most times i forget that i am also someone’s daughter…(chuckle). When was the last time you showed some love to your mum?
Ok….so you had a bad experience while growing up. She disappointed you…hurt you…wasn’t there for you….bla…bla…bla. We can’t control the past but we sure do have a choice in how the present looks. What i am about to say may seem like…”you can’t possibly be asking me to do that”?! Ok…but i am….
Painful as it might seem show some love to your mum, because you are a mummy in the making or already a mummy going to be a grandma yourself soon too. Let go of the past hurt/pain so you can be a better mum.
And if you are a mother or grandma who has a strained relationship with your daughter, don’t let fear stop you from reaching out to that daughter you hurt so badly. Life is too short to be mad for the rest of your life. Let forgiveness and love wash up the dirt of hurt…it gives you a fresh breath of air.
Data Phido is the Executive Director at African Radio Drama Association, Lagos, since 1996 to present (19years) She Studied Theater Development at the University of California, Los Angeles.
Ibadan babe is what she calls me sometimes. We have met on phone and communicated via e-mails/social media but every time we connect there is something so warm about her personality. Her voice tells me that she cares deeply for people and her actions lend credence to this. Data Phido is talented and has created a number of development oriented radio drama all geared towards achieving social change. She is a trainer and a mentor who continues to share her experience in various parts of Nigeria and the world.
My experience with her is something I want to share in this post. I and a few of my colleagues at work have this maternal and child health education programme ( Abiye) we produce for the grass root on radio. Our passion took us into working with community hospitals and health workers and invariable we were faced with a number of helpless cases. It was heart breaking to meet a 16year old girl who was said to have been impregnated by her boss’s husband. She was a child trafficking victim and a house maid. At the time we met her she had being delivered of her baby and we found her in the hospital with no one to care for her. A Good Samaritan brought her in as an emergency case. My team and I put heads together to think of how to handle the situation. Data Phido played a key role in helping us get this young mother out of the hospital.
This young mother’s case was to be the first case of teenage mothers my Abiye team would meet. It started to bother us and this gave birth to a seminar for girls in public schools who were the vulnerable group. Again Data Phido and her NGO, ARDA supported 12 vulnerable girls giving them education support. She and her organization in no small way ensured that we got the needed transportation to get the girls to the venue of the seminar. The smiles on the faces of these girls I would remember for a long time.
Yet again we needed school support for a 5year old blind boy who was a victim of measles. He had being enrolled in a school for the handicap to equip him with skills for a brighter future but his parents didn’t have enough resources to purchase materials needed for school. This time again, Data Phido and her team joined others to support this young boy and another boy who is an orphan to get the much needed educational support.
It would seem that Data had abundant resources but no she only sacrificed out of her meagre means. In fact at some point I felt she should have just said no to our asking again and again but a YES to make life better for another girl, boy, baby or mother came. Data Phido for me is a woman making a difference through her skills as a writer, trainer, and her little resources to make the world a better place in her own little way.
On top of all the development project work, travels, writing she has to deal with, she makes out time to be loving wife and mother. She is a good cook who delights her family’s palate with delightful dishes:
All work and no play they say, makes Jack a dull boy. If you are a hardworking person, you must know how to rest. Data knows how to take time off to relax.
Still haven’t met her in person but she inspires me and many other girls, boys and women.
How can College girls look trendy, stylish, fashionable and still be comfortable? Attending lectures/classes is pretty much what a college life is wrapped around for any student apart from the other interesting side attractions. Guys have it easy when it comes to what to wear but with girls… it is a different kettle of fish. Girls always need something stylish and trendy, yet easy to wear outfits. I remember my days on campus, i simply wanted something comfortable that makes it easy to move in between running to catch a good sit for a lecture before the other 300 or so students; rush to the library to finish an assignment; go do a field work for a practical project; jump on the campus shuttle bus and so on. The thing uppermost on any girl’s mind is how to be stylish, smashing, and able to get guys taking a double look at you. I mean catch the attention of that guy that would make it all the more fun! Sometimes the trick is not necessarily about having a full wardrobe but simply knowing how to combine what you have.
Check out how you can combine pants of various colours with different tops:
A cute and stylish black short dress on the right bag and slip-on. Seriously i didn’t know these colours could turn out this fine…
You can cut and sew African fabrics called Ankara to a simple dress like this:
Still other easy wears:
So take a second look at your wardrobe and try something new.
Photo Credit: Thanks Jolivia for posing for these pictures.
Every child needs a listening and available parent
Every child has a right of protection from sexual predators
Every child needs a parent to watch out for house helps with a tendency to abuse that child
Every child has a right to be safe from an uncle, cousin or teacher’s sexual abuse
Every child deserve the right to be able to talk about any unwanted physical touch without being blamed for it
Every child has a right to be protected from pornography. I remember an adult who came on holiday’s to our home who made us watch pornography
Every child has a right to feel safe around her father without fear of being molested
Every child who has been abused sexually deserve to be shown love and given the necessary therapy to overcome the trauma.
Every sexual predator of children must be made to face the full consequence of this action under the law
Every child deserve to mature before being married off
Every child who has been sexually assaulted need the adults in their life to take care of the source of the assault quickly.
Stories of fathers who rape their daughters like this one: Father, 40, sexually abuses, 7-year-old daughter. is despicable, heartbreaking and needs to absolutely STOP! Lets join our voices in speaking and taking action against every child sexual abuse.
Photo Credit: Ololade Adetunji (An art done in Primary 4 at Graceful Oaks Nursery and Primary School, Ibadan)
This is the first blog in the category: Fashion Friday. Meet Jolivia(Her Brand name) who inspired the idea of having a day to transverse the world of fashion.
Jolivia is a student at the University of Ibadan studying, Zoology. She started making bead accessories/jewelries two years ago while in her 2nd year. Beads are small decorative object that comes in a variety of shapes and sizes of materials such as stones, shell, glass, wood, bone, plastic or pearl. In her words she started learning to make beads accessories because she didn’t want to be idle; universities were on strike then. She also had a passion for designing; It started out as a past time/doing what you love but now she is taking care of her school bills/final project with the money she makes from making beads jewelries. Jolivia dreams of becoming an entrepreneur/brand name in the bead accessory making industry as soon as she graduates. Each time I set eyes on her collection, I fall head over heels in love with bead jewelries. So I decided to do a piece on her work to encourage her and as well get people to patronize.
Beads accessories seem to be trending among the female folk. Instead of gold or silver chains/bracelets, ladies now have a touch of beads to complement their attire. It’s a wide collection that can fit into an office, casual, party and occasional wears.
While growing up every woman wanted badly to invest in gold jewellery. My mum had this very heavy laden gold jewellery which weighted tons. After a while the big heavy weight gold jewellery went out of fashion. People patronized gold smiths to make new easy to wear ones by melting their old gold jewelries. Some others sold theirs to solve serious family financial crunch or simply just made some good money out of their gold jewellery.
I still remember while I was in college/university, girls wanted badly to have gold accessories. It was something to show off. People wore gold ear rings, necklaces, bracelets, nose rings and even ankle chains. One of my roommates was willing to go as far as getting an aristo (Rich older man) to help her achieve the dream of owning gold jewelries.
Times and seasons have changed things tremendously. Bead accessories seems to be more trending than gold accessories in most occasions (weddings, birthday parties etc.) these days.
WHY SOME LADIES PREFER BEADS TO GOLD
• Beads can be arranged in different patterns and designs as desired.
• They come in different colours which makes it possible to match them right with any type of cloth.
• They are creatively used in designing clothes, garments.
• They are skin friendly; Some people react to gold(skin allergy)
• They are fashionable
• It can be both complex and simple
• Sometimes beads celebrates culture
• Beads are also used for interior decoration
• Some people prefer heavy jewellery to cover their sunken neck and that is workable with beads.
Among the list of one -word prompt that should inspire me to write a blog, the word, Love caught my attention. And it’s a mix bag of love and regret. Have you ever being in love with someone that you regretted loving in the first place? I have, my supposed first love in my early twenties turned out to be a fake. I mean he pretended to be many things he was not and yours truly was head over heels in love despite that inner warning that something was too good to be true about this guy. I got lucky or should i say i was blessed that the truth came out before i got badly burnt. I was so heart broken but i knew that i had to make that choice of letting go and trusting that a new and fulfilling love would come my way down the line again. Now what was fake about him? He was an impostor and a 419( dupes people). Ask me how i fell in love with such a guy; i honestly don’t know. I might as well say that i didn’t see it coming, whatever… i was just simply too in love.
So again i ask:
is love enough to stay in an abusive relationship;
is love enough to get married to someone who makes it all a secret affair;
is love enough to become committed to a person whom you come from way too different culture;
is love enough to not know anything about a person’s past and you still go ahead to keep a serious relationship?
You will have to answer these questions and more yourself. However from my perspective, Love is not enough! Yeah…believe it or not that’s how i feel about it. Now Love is definitely sweet and holds a promise of feeling wanted; sharing your life with another. But a relationship is a serious matter that should not be entered into lightly. “Common lighten up…don’t make your life too complex”…someone says to me. Well look at the so many complex situations people have gotten themselves into simply because of oh…i just love him/her. I could die if i don’t get her! Really…soon the same guy begins to treat her like a piece of trash (forgive my language)
Seriously if you intend to have a serious love relationship with someone then your love(emotion) must wear a google on your forehead and at the back of your head! Where i come from we say Love don begin wear google for back and front(Pidgin). The summary is take a good look before taking a leap.
Why do we many times have things together in other areas of our lives and when it comes to Love matters, we simply become dumb? I say we take a lot of precaution, do a lot of research; watch out for good signs and the bad signs before making that business or career choice but think love is just something that doesn’t have to make sense. Falling in love doesn’t make sense most times but Hmmn…Love should make sense in so many ways.
If i love someone and our blood group turns out to be AS meaning that there is a likely hood of giving birth to a child who is an SS, then medically we might both need to think again; especially if both of us intend to have kids together.
If you have both been at it for a while now and you are just not compatible in so many obvious ways, you are only preparing for big battles ahead.
If he or she says oh, baby/honey i don’t want us to get our families involved let this marriage just be between us, that is definitely a RED FLAG!
Where i come from you don’t just get married without your family’s support. The moment you introduce a dude or a girl as the love of your life, they will smile. As soon as your partner leaves, your father or mother will have a private meeting with you and ask you a number of questions. I call it examination room! You’ll get questions like: Where is he from? Who are his parents? What kind of job does he/she do? Do they have any family inherited diseases like psychosis in particular! After answering all their questions, they would still go and do a private background check. So funny and not funny because you’ll be feeling like, is it a crime to get married!?
Some people are of the opinion that the modern day couple should be more independent in their choice of who they choose to make a commitment to. Sure why not! But there are warning signs we should heed less we get into a regrettable relationship. Hopefully it will not be one that leaves an indelible scar for life. Some people don’t recover from love relationship that turned sour for whatever reason. So think again, is love really enough?
I am not a love relationship expert but i would like to say look closely before taking that final leap. And my friend if you have been in a love relationship that ended badly don’t despair. In the horizon is a rising sun of new love. Cheers!