Thoughts & Life #14

People who set traps for others get caught themselves. People who start landslides get crushed. Proverbs 26:27 (GN)


What you sow, you reap goes a familiar saying. In my local language they say when you point accusing fingers at another person, remember the other remaining four fingers are pointing right back at you.

Why do we sometimes set traps for others to fall in so that we can get ahead? In my mind’s eye, such a person will end up falling into a “bigger trap”.

Learn to lift others up, because you will have many hands lifting you up back in return
Learn to celebrate others and rejoice with them as they make progress, it will be your turn soon too.
Learn to patiently wait for your time; it will be your turn to be celebrated soon.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Coming Through…

My Tuesday Trickles(Inspired by  Jacqueline) for this week:
Sometimes you find yourself at a point where nothing seems to be working.
Sometimes it feels like a tight corner
Sometimes it feels like you are at a cross road
Sometimes the world seems to be on top of you
Sometimes the load you carry is heavier than you thought it would be.

god-will-make-a-wayHere is a song especially for you written and song by Don Moen: Just an excerpt of the lyrics
God will make a way where there seems to be no way
He works in ways we can not see
He will make a way for you
He will be your guide, hold you closely to his side
with love and strength for each new day
He will make a way
He will make a way

So breath, You are coming through…

You can listen to the full song with just a click above

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

How Do You Define a Good Woman?

I found this post by Teeketha interesting… Who is a good woman?…. Well I certainly want to attempt being a better woman. Enjoy reading and visiting her page for more fabulous stuff.

A Thomas Point of View

Growing up, I’ve always known about the Proverbs woman. She was thought of as a mysterious and unattainable goal. She was without a doubt perfect. But, we mere women could never be perfect. Even with all our achievements and our humble hearts we could never really be a Proverbs woman right?

In my posts about dating and men this week I asked the question of what is a good man. I wanted to be able to define what I think are some key characteristics of good men. I asked my male friends on Facebook to define what a good man is to them. They did and I was challenged by another blogger, Davina over at Davina Lyons to do the same with women.

I did.


Women didn’t respond. Now, I don’t know if it was because they didn’t see the post appear in theirtimeline or the fact that they…

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My Volunteer Experiences

This post was inspired by the daily prompt word for today – Volunteer

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Most times we think volunteer work is meant to be only recognized when offered in a big organization. I say no that’s not how it works. You can personally volunteer to use your spare time to make a difference in your neighborhood; in the life of some one.

I am volunteering my time to help give psycho social/therapeutic counseling to a person who is struggling with depression. This for me is using my social work skill to help this person get emotional support and balance.

I recently spent  my one month annual leave in helping to plan for the celebration of the elderly in my community. My role included drafting and typing of letters ; sourcing and following up sponsors; sourcing for medical personnel and organizations to give free medical check up; helping with promotional materials etc. Some of my colleagues berated me for wasting my rest time of  the year. I laughed each time I heard this but it was a task I enjoyed doing even though I needed my rest. All I could think of was the difference my efforts will make. And it was a worthwhile venture.

Volunteering is hard work, a sacrifice, and a learning experience. I would do it again and again.

Keep shinning your volunteer light in your little corner. It’s making more difference than you can imagine.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

It’s Ok to Take Care of Yourself


Many women toil from “dawn to dawn” -By this phrase, I mean even at 2am, 3am, 4am some women are up working to feed their families. The woman who owns and runs a food canteen or is a food vendor must be up before the cock crows in order to be ready for her customers

As a career woman, she works hard at the office and her muscles ache all over her body. All she wants is to crash on a bed and sleep but no way as she opens the door to her home, she doesn’t even take off her clothes, sometimes even her shoes – kitchen work here I come!!! depositphotos_26021557-vector-cartoon-of-overworked-housewife

Family members are waiting to have dinner and guess what they want a meal that will take that extra effort. Imagine your husband talking about taking pounded yam at 10pm

marthapoundingyams…seriously “Mi o le wa ku o” (I can’t die o). I am blessed moi dear husband” does not make such demands.

My point here:

Woman, You Must really take of yourself; take care of your health. Have me time…find a day to lazy away doing something that you love and relaxing too.


Throw off your “busy hat”.

Ok I know its a week day but plan a me relaxing time soon!!!

Photo Credit: 1) InterfaceLift 2)Deposit Photos  2) Cornell College- Women Antiquity 3) Lips, Lashes Pro

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Girls Should not Command Boys?!

Celebrating the Girl child and changing stereotype minds on gender equality.


As we mark another International Girl child day, this drama in my home comes to mind. I’d like to share it with you again.

This years theme: Girls Progress= Goals Progress- What Counts for Girls

Boys and girls 1 Siblings quarreling

It was a week day and we just came home from work and school. I decided to take a few minutes to rest on the couch in the living room before heading for the kitchen. My kids dropped their school bags in the room and shortly they emerged having an argument as usual. I looked up and wondered what the sibling fight was about this time again. My son was pointing an accusing finger at his sister and she was challenging him as well. Out came these words repeatedly from my son’s lips:

“Girls should not command girls!”

I was caught off guard…while thinking to myself but many men answer to the…

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