Tinz… You’ve got to leave behind in 2016


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Hey… It’s 31st of December, 2016 already!! How time flies and before you know it the clock bell will be ringing loudly at midnight….saying it’s 2017. I like to think of it as a “Clean Slate or sheet if you like” . A blank check too… Sounds nice to have a blank check to fill in any amount I want on the first day of a new year… *wink*.

Now the question is this will your slate be clean or filled with bsggages from the outgoing year?  Funny how we pen down new goals and pursuit when we have refused to get rid of heavy loads that have hindered us from achieving our goals before.

No one pours new wine into an old wine skin

Neither should you pour old wine into a new wine skin..
I mean let everything be new.

So what are these “tinzs” you must leave behind in 2016?
I believe you know already!! Don’t ignore that uneasiness; that tightness in your heart.
Do a soul search and make up your mind to drop unnecessary baggage in 2016.

Now to what I think you should do away with in other to be light enough to run in the new year :

Failures… Stop blaming yourself; Stop whinging ; Stop Wishing. Just Drop it and move on OR try again with a new method.

Hurts and Pains… So your husband/wife, boyfriend/Girlfriend, Dad! Mum, Siblings, colleague, boss, neighbors, best friend hurt you!!! And you simply carry it in your heart and wear it on your face like a logo. Hmmm…. Do you seriously want to keep wearing that logo in 2017?

Antidote for hurts /pains is Forgiveness. Forgive not because he/she deserves it; not because it is ever easy….some hurts cut deeply…Just forgive for You. I mean your peace of mind.

And seriously we all need others to forgive us too one time or the other.img_20161227_124237

Fear…Time to drop that fear that is holding you back… Time to let go of that fear of bad things happening… Just Trust God to take care of you and things. I have found Him to be dependable.
Bad stuff did happen in, 2016… How easy is it to let go….? Hmmm… Life doesn’t stop because bad stuff happen… It just goes on….So go on you must for you will have lots of reasons to smile ahead.

Successes… Ha ha… Sounds like what you should hold unto. Time to let go and move unto bigger things. Stop holding unto your success like a trophy that will break. Trophies are lined up on a shelve as more are added with new wins.

You can achieve more in the new year
You can do better than what you’ve done so far
New battles to fight
New race to run
Exciting things to come…can you feel it… See it!

Wishing you a great new year!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

A basket of fruits and a Bride: Family Pre-wedding Introduction in Yoruba Culture

When a couple decides to take things further by tying the knot. In Africa or at least Nigeria the lovers speak to their parents and a date is fixed for what we call “family Introduction” as the Yorubas call it.

The groom to be’s  family members will go visiting their in laws with a basket of fruits. Sometimes the basket of fruits can be more than one accompanied with bottles of  wine.


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Both families meet and are introduced to themselves. After this fun meeting because it is usually a party time as the bride to be’s family prepare a table for their in laws to be.

In the end a date is fixed for the traditional wedding and church/court/Nikki wedding.

The bride’s family also give the groom’s family a carton of biscuits, bottle of wine and pack of sweets as a take away gift.


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Family support and approval is very important in the decision to get married.

This post was inspired by my  brother in law’ s “Family Introduction”. Congratulations namesake – Bisicrown  and Opeyemi. img_20161225_164904

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

A Chicken filled Christmas …. Lots of Love to YOU

It’s just a few hours to Christmas day.
.. Yahi… Feels good! My family and I woke up to have a chicken filled day. Guess what?! We only bought one and got phone calls of chicken gifts.
I was thinking of all the stress of killing (in Nigeria we get to sort our chickens at home) and preparing the chickens because I have had a long week of hard work recording a serial drama on Female genital mutilation and cutting.

Lucky me my dear husband offered to take the live chickens to the market to pay someone to take care of killing and packaging. A big relief but soon I got another call… Another chicken arrived at our door steps!! I screamed… Seriously I should be grateful for the blessing of chickens… But all I could think of was all the work involved in preparing them.
This was number four chicken! Whew… OK I decided to spread the love by passing the chicken unto someone…. Haaaaa…. Escape root!

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Enough of my ranting… If you happen to be in the neighborhood please drop by for a piece of chicken this Christmas!! After all there is love in sharing….wink*

Love you… Have a blessed Christmas. May your joy be full and may God’s Love fill your home and life.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

How to give in to your spouse

When your wife wants something or says no to something…Agree with her.
When your husband says no to something or an issue cooperate with him.

Heeeheee…Sounds like giving in to your spouse puts you in a tight corner…

Marriage is a give and take relationship
A little to the right…a little to the left and harmony, peace and love grows.

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Life’s Lessons from a Book #16

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Here is a few lessons I have been  learning from this book by Dr. Myles Munroe. His legacy lives on even after he’s gone to be with the Lord.

Vision is the idea that never leaves you; the dream that won’t go away; the passion that won’t subside, the irritating’ desire that’s so deep you can’t enjoy your current job because you are thinking about what you wish you were doing.

You were not born to do everything.

Focus on doing something well and it will become the source of your prosperity – it will make room for you in the world.

Understand your own vision then you will not need to be jealous of another.

Surround yourself with people who have bigger dreams than you.

What are you going to do with your life?
Where are you headed?

I am still reading and enjoying it. 

My thoughts

 There is so much more to your life. You’ve got to have a passion, a vision… Go for it! 

Happy weekend!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Hurting? How to Heal and Move On

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When life puts your back on the ground don’t stay down get up.

Those who get up from a fall can begin to walk again. What if lt is a broken leg? At least you can start the process of mending and healing.

This post is inspired by a story I heard recently. A man breaks a girl’s heart or vice versa and the individual gets stuck In that experience. Sounds familiar right? Oh.. but I have moved on… Really? Check out how you treat yourself and the opposite gender.

Do other men or women have to pay for your past hurt?
Are you still having trust issues… I mean a bad case of mistrust?
Then surely you are still hurting.

How to stop hurting
* Acknowledge that you are hurt don’t live in denial.
* Understand that love does not stop with that person who had hurt you in the past.
* Understand that all men are not the same or women if you like.
* There are still good men/women out there in the world.
* There is someone waiting to love and cherish you.
* Sometimes relationship hurts happen because of bad choices. Pay attention to early warning signs the next time so you won’t get hurt again.
* Seriously Stop Punishing YOURSelf

For I Know the plans I have for you. Plans of good and not of evil, to give you a hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

Photo Credit : ATea Cup story- tumbir. Com

Adebisi Adetunji (C)


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Fibi- Pregnant but must go Through a Rite

Fibi was eight months pregnant. It was time for the rite to be performed. She dreaded it but it must be done. Everything was set for the celebration. Her entire family was not going to be quiet about it…they wanted to show her off. Their eight months pregnant daughter must go the way of other women in their community.

The day finally arrived  and the circumciser was ready with her tools.

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Fibi’s screams could be heard miles away as she was cut. Dancing and celebration filled the atmosphere, Fibi had made them all proud. Her unborn child can now safely pass through the birth canal without fear of been touched by the forbidden clitoris.  The community’s belief is that it would cause the baby’s death. 

But Fibi started to bleed. She was later rushed to the hospital. No one was sure mother and baby would pull through.

Another case of female genital mutilation and cutting only this one endangers pregnant women as their culture demands that they get circumcised at 8months into conception.

As a mother I know what it is like going through Labour pains. Already without been circumcised, the  birth experience for any mother can come with a number of  complications so why increase the risk.  I have undergone surgery at the hospital during the birth of my first baby due to excessive bleeding. My  vagina was also cut (not circumcision) by my doctor as my second baby found her way into the world. She was a big baby. The after effect of these cuts is best imagined.

Why should a woman be circumcised one month to the delivery of her baby? This is simply a double torture.

As to the believe that the baby can die if the mother is not circumcised before birth… This is not TRUE. I am a living proof and so are many other mothers who were not circumcised and had healthy and living babies.

Please help spread the word:

Female Circumcision /genital mutilation and cutting has no medical, physical or Spiritual benefits.

Instead many girls /women struggle on with the negative effects years after it had been done. That is if they live to tell their stories.

Female genital mutilation and cutting is a known cause of prolonged Labour as the scared birth canal might be too narrow for the baby to pass through. It simply puts mother and child at risk.

#EndFGM.

Photo Credit : Unicef

Adebisi Adetunji (C)