Do you feel happy all the time with the person you are in love with? Definitely NO!
Does that make you fall out of love with your partner? Possibly for some…
Where I’m I going with this?
I am just concerned about how we fall out of love in this generation simply because we are not feeling that happiness with our partner or spouse.
Every now and then you are here the lines: “Oh I have to be happy”, “My happiness matters”, “I have to do what makes me happy”. Did you notice the “I’s”, “My”. We are a people or should I say a generation of Me…me…me
Have you ever thought that Love is much more than what we make it be?
What is Love? Not easy to define sometimes but I’ll try
It is a good feeling: but doesn’t always feel good. So Love is more than just a feeling of butterflies
Love is a Choice: You can actually choose to love someone or choose not to. That’s when we say we fall out of love.
Love is not something out of control: So you are feeling so ecstatic about that woman/man; you can’t breathe, you can sleep, you can’t wait to be with him or her every time. Hmmm…love is definitely exciting but why does it sometimes Feazel away? Point here If he or she is married to someone better control that your love feeling or else risk becoming unhappy soon as he/she will also cheat on you soon.
Love can be pain staking/painful: Sometimes you are misunderstood for loving or your acts of love. Sometimes you have to go the extra mile to do something special. Love is willing to do so much more for the one it loves.
Love is humble: It is not self-seeking; it is not arrogant. You must know that you can be wrong so admit it when you are to your partner or spouse.
Love fights- Be very sure that you will engage in arguments and have fights with the one you love. It is perfectly normal and I don’t mean physically punching each other. So misunderstandings help you both to get to know each other as you handle your conflicts rightly.
Love is a stickler or should I say a sticker: It doesn’t just walk away simply because some things are not perfect. It doesn’t give up easily on its partner or spouse. Love is a stickler or should I say a sticker
Love is committed- Love does not stay only on days it feels good.
Is your love all about making you feel good?
Love is much more than happiness
I really don’t how to say this forgive me if it seems like I am ranting…
We need to love more…our marriages need to be more than just about ourselves and how we feel. You have a right and need to be happy in your marriage relationship but how much are you willing to give it to make it work?
Love is so much more…selfless and unselfish.
Before you walk away are you loving right?!
Adebisi Adetunji (C)