The In-between of Our Lives

While surfing through and visiting blogs to read new posts I came by this interesting post by Folakemi – “Children as retirement Plan”.

Fola shares the story of an 85 year old woman whose children seem to have abandoned. She has 5 children who can not be found except for 2 sons who still won’t take her in. Thankfully the state government took her in. The gist is that this woman now 85years old is troublesome and so couldn’t live with anyone. She has had 5 husband’s none of whom are available or willing to take care of her.

This woman’s story got me thinking. Our attitude, character and choices will have an impact on our lives even at old age. I am not judging this old woman… I mean every one of us have a fair share of lives upside and downside.

I read the story of an old man who died leaving not so much in terms of silver and gold for his children but left a lot of integrity, honesty and kindness behind. His daughter was particularly mad with him for not been like other fathers who left great riches. She ended up landing an inclusive big package job with a company owned by someone whom her father had shown great kindness to when he was looking for a job. She is earning a 7 figure salary now.

The In-betweens of Our lives matter. What we do now will affect our tomorrow.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Dear Diary…Something Terrible Happened on Campus…TBEE Writes #19

I dragged my body out of bed lazily this morning really feeling tired and exhausted from studying till 2 a.m last night. It is not easy to be a student o! You see my goal is to get  first class and so far my grades from the first year are looking good. Our exams are coming up two weeks from now and I hope to read my handouts and notes from cover to cover.

Hurriedly I got ready for class and on my way, I scrolled through my text messages and sure enough, DT had sent me like three early morning love notes. I smiled and felt this is how to pamper a girl you love. DT knows how to make my world spin. I looked forward to catching up with him after lectures. My zeal for the day was rejuvenated but on getting to the lecture theater I saw students standing in groups and talking. Something was definitely up…my chest became heavy … I prayed and hoped it was not another bad news of losing one of our course mates. So far this semester there hasn’t been any fatal incidence apart from the lady who burnt her roommate with electric Iron. Thank goodness it the girl in question is fine.

I walked towards where Lizzy was standing with Peter the class governor and some others. “Guys, why is everyone standing outside instead of been seated in the lecture hall”, I said. Lizzy held her folder containing a few notebooks around her chest looking really blue. Agitated I asked, “will someone tell me what is going on here”! Peter responded finally, “It’s Dr. Bosun”. My heart started to race, “hope he is not…”Lizzy finally got her voice back, “no he is not dead but critically injured and in the hospital”.

The whole gist came tumbling out. The previous night, Dr. Bosun was attacked somewhere around the campus. His car was vandalized and he was seriously beaten. This meant that his class for this morning was automatically canceled. I was flabbergasted and not happy even though I had just recently been the object of Dr. Bosun’s attraction. No one knew who the attackers were. Trust students, some believed that perhaps Dr. Bosun was reaping from his past actions of harassing his students. The gist is that the school authority had vowed to investigate the matter and deal decisively with the perpetrators.

At last, we were forced to all disperse to attend other lectures for the day but this Dr. Bosun’s incidence became the center of discussions throughout the day. There are students who will really be happy about the fact that he was dealt with in that way. I mean there are many female students repeating his course simply because they won’t accept his sexual advances. Could it be one of them or what is it just that he ran into some cult guys who were about their usual midnight routine? Hmmmn, God please save us from these cult guys o. I really hope that they will be caught so we can have a safer campus.

The good thing about this is that now I have been spared the stress of having to turn down Dr. Bosun’s disguised advances in the name of been his P.A at a seminar. Life is full of twist and turns …hmmmn see how God saved me…now that is a wicked thought! Well…I wish him a quick recovery. Goodnight dear diary.

Catch up on Previous episodes of Dear Diary

Dear Diary…An Invitation to my Lecturers Office…TBEE Writes #16

Dear Diary…The Soup Thief was Caught But A threat is Underway TBEE Writes #18

 

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Little things matter – My Android Phone and I

Getting my Andriod phone was for me a matter of necessity. I didn’t buy one to show off or be part of the trend…although that is not exactly an out of place thing. I remember bringing out my old phone that could only take pictures, make calls and receive text messages amongst friends or a business meeting…oh…it was kind of embarrassing. Especially when you see everyone at the table in a meeting sliding their fingers across their Android phone while you struggle to press on the keypad of your “torch light phone” as we call it. 

And then someone will say are you on whatsapp? Definitely not, I didn’t own a smart phone that time. Good old Nokia phone…they are die hards. My small torch light phone has survived many falls into unthinkable places for the life span of a phone. I was to later miss this when my newly acquired Android which by the way I saved for to get suddenly refused to charge!!!

The diagnosis at the phone care center of the brand I bought  was that I had a charging port problem. At first, I was relieved but my quick fix was not going to happen as fast as I wanted. The company didn’t have the parts available…I stood looking at the customer care lady with a glare that said, “you guys can’t be serious”! But I was told to keep checking in until the charging port part arrives from wherever which had no particular date…frustrating!!

Even waiting at the reception of the phone care center felt like I was waiting to see the doctor at the hospital only this was a phone clinic. I went home disappointed that day and came back a few days later determined to get my phone fixed ,”sorry they said again, the parts are yet to arrive”.

That day I met a fellow frustrated phone user who had like three batteries all for one phone. He advised me to buy an extra battery and a strong desktop charger to solve my problem. So off I went shopping for a desktop charger and screen saver. After getting the desktop charger another challenge came up. I soon found out that Android batteries were more powerful than desktop chargers. So I would charge my battery for like 12 hours before I get a certain percentage of my charged battery which will quickly run down.

It wasn’t funny because I had come to depend on my Android phone to do my work on the go. God bless the brains behind this technology. I would send WhatsApp messages, attend to my emails; work on my social media platforms and even write on my blog all on the go!!

Lessons I learned while waiting to get my phone fixed
• Never be careless with your gagdet. Getting it is not enough even when you denied yourself to be able to afford it. You have got to take good care of it.
• Android phones don’t come cheap but they are not as rugged as good old phones that can withstand any pressure.
• When plugging your charger on your phone’s charging point handle with care. It can easily get spoilt as is the case in my experience.
• Plug the phone yourself and not your young children who can mishandle it
• Be patient seasons of phonelessness don’t last 

Today after three long weeks I finally got a new charging port for my phone but not without a fight(not physical). So I called the phone clinic and I get the good news that the much awaited charging port parts have arrived. I quickly rushed to the phone company fix it center only to be told that according to company policy I will have to leave my phone for a week. Reason…there many other phones under repair. “No way”, I said and then I got an idea to call the nice young man who happened to be one of the engineers I had been communicating with inquiring about the parts. Hurray! he offered to get my phone fixed and within an hour my Android phone had a brand new charging port.

I am so happy that my phone is back and alive…Grateful!! Funny how a small charging port problem became a big issue!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Training Opportunity: Safe Motherhood Education

I wish I had had an opportunity to learn about safe motherhood as a young girl/lady. In preparing a girl to settle down in marriage mothers are expected to teach her to cook, clean, wash and manage a home. Then as your wedding day draws near you get a little gist about satisfying your man sexually…Bedroom matters that nobody even gives you detailed instruction about how it works. We usually stumble along the way finding out as days, weeks and months pass by. Well this is a story for another blog post.

This post is about how to equip young women single and married about safe motherhood. Trust me this is very important especially if you intend to have children. My personal story and journey into motherhood was a turbulent one. It almost cost my life and that of my baby. I simply didn’t know and my young husband didn’t know any better. We made a lot of unhealthy mistakes that even now I still regret.

Knowledge they say is power…here is an opportunity to get the necessary information and keys to a safe motherhood…it might save your life or someone close to you.

Who is organizing the Training?
Life Builders, a Non-profit Organization is facilitating this training

Theme: Safe Motherhood Education Training

It is a flexible two days (Saturdays) training spread across two weekends.

What to expect/Topics:

First Day – 8th April, 2017
Before Pregnancy: Know Yourself; Prepare yourself
During Pregnancy: Attending Ante natal; Periodic Pelvic Scans
During Labour

Second Day – 22nd April, 2017
Post-Partum Period: Breast feeding, Immunization, Exercises that will help the uterus return to pre pregnancy stage;
Nutrition: Know your baby; Weaning Class; Eating for two and still maintaining a good shape.
Family Planning/next pregnancy: Sex Post-Partum, Child Spacing/Contraceptive; Returning to work/day care/housekeeper; Cancer Prevention – Periodic check

Venue: Life Builders, Ikolaba Agodi G. R. A, Ibadan.
Time/Duration: 10am – 2pm daily

Facilitators:

Dr. Otolorin

Mrs Grace Oluwatoye – 08033745604

Mrs Kilanko

To participate in this training – Send your name to these numbers 07013141188, 08132338817 (50 Slots available)
Email: lifebuildersnig@gmail.com

Adebisi Adetunji ©

Meet and Greet: 4/1/17

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Sunday Musings: Being a Wife and Mother

So we finished worshipping God in church thanking Him for all his faithfulness for the past month being the first Sunday in April. It is always a thanksgiving day for us.

After the church service, my daughter had this idea that we should take her out to celebrate her birthday. Guess what? Her birthday is still some weeks to come in April but because celebrants for the month usually cut a cake and are prayed for she felt that her day starts today… Hehehe…

We all joked about it and laughed but she was serious. So we placated her promising to buy her snacks and drinks on the way home. All the while we were thinking of how much will still be spent in marking her 10th birthday…. So we played smart parents!!!

Guess where I am now? In the market trying to get stuffs for lunch. Now I wished I had followed my daughter’s wish to eat out. 

After this market stress… I am off to the kitchen. Oh… the joys and stress of “wifehood and motherhood”.

Happy Sunday.😀😀

Adebisi Adetunji (C)