I have done silly and funny things to make people special in my life Happy in the past. One that readily comes to mind is baking a special birthday cake for my brother’s 10th birthday. By the way the cake didn’t turn out as well as I wanted as I was still learning but we had fun eating it anyway.😀 By the way I gave up that hobby, maybe I will try again soon. So can you remember that extra effort made to make someone special Happy? Please do share with us.
Recently I had to travel from one end of the town to another to find a Poultry Farm. My mission alongside a team was to collect a number of chicken donated to support the celebration of some senior citizens to commemorate the world elders day celebration coming up 1st October, 2017.
Welcome to another woman to woman or should I say feminine tet- a-tet time. Hopefully, your week hasn’t been too stressful. Mine has been a mixed bag. In between carrying out my work assignments, family errands and chores; been called in the middle of the night that a dear friend and sister’s husband slummed in the bathroom(sadly he didn’t make it. A really emotional time for us all as we grieve with her and try to support as best as we can). Then we are in the middle of having this great fun time for senior citizens in the Southwest Nigeria. October 1, is International World Elders Day.
Why I’m I listing my activities for the week? Because like many other women out there we all juggle various aspects of life from career, business, family, spiritual, friends, family and more. If you are like me, it can really be overwhelming sometimes and stressful too.
So how does a woman find a balance?
Talk is easy but when it comes to application, it is another ball game altogether. So I can not pretend to know about all that goes on in your life dear woman but we can at least share ideas.
7 things to do to get a balance/Reduce Stress
Prioritize and Identify what is most important in your life. Pay attention to what is important. E. God Your health and family are not worth sacrificing for a career.
Buy food in bulk and refrigerate or preserve through natural means that you prefer. This will sort the problem of having to go shopping at the market or mall every now and then. I mean you don’t even have the time with your busy schedule.
Clean systematically. Do not try to do all the chores in your house at once. Plan your chores, for example, you can decide to wash on your off days or the weekend.
Sometimes leave all the mess and go and lie down. If you are stressed, you are stressed. Don’t keep pushing yourself trying to be miss/Mrs perfectly clean and then you break down. Please turn the other eye and have a 30minutes nap, the mess will still be waiting when you get up from the bed but you will have renewed energy to face it.
Plan your work- office or business. Take care of assignments as soon as they come. Stop piling your work or before long you come under the pressure of meeting too many deadlines within a short time.
Engage others, ask for help and keep asking.
Create me a time when you just relax and away from all the stress. This can be simply having a drink all by yourself outside in the garden.
Share your ideas about how a woman can find a balance between work, family and personal life. Enjoy your weekend!!
Abortion is the termination of pregnancy or fetus in the womb before it can survive outside the body. An abortion can be said to be induced when a miscarriage occurs or deliberate when the individual chooses to terminate the pregnancy.
Why is this done
Usually, abortion is carried out because an individual or a couple is not willing to have a baby that is already conceived. Sometimes an abortion is carried out due to health implications to the mother or fetus. Then miscarriages happen and a baby is aborted before it reaches full term for delivery.
Who & Who would Get an Abortion
1) I see young school girlsendanger themselves every now and then attempting to abort a baby. Many of them try to get rid of a pregnancy that “just happens” while been sexually active irresponsibly. Often we hear of girls who try to get an abortion using all kinds of dangerous stuff that sometimes becomes fatal as the girl dies doing this or her womb is damaged leading to serious complications later in life when ready to have a baby.
2) Another group is couples/married peoplewho are not ready to have a baby and pregnancy occurs anyway. So they opt for aborting the baby.
3) This group is what we call sex workers who by the nature of what they do are engaged regularly or on daily basis in an activity that can bring “babies from heaven”. When pregnancy occurs with these ladies they try to get rid of it because hey it is bad for business. Sometimes they do have the babies but imagine how many other pregnancies have been aborted.
4) This group, I will call the “encouragers” or the ones who point women and girls in the direction. The Boys and Men who are not ready to be fathers and flippantly tell their girlfriend or lover to get an abortion. Sounds easy, “is it not just to flush the thing out; I mean it is not yet a life”, says such men.
The Way Out – Know more About Family Planning Options/ Contraceptives
I will try to look at the different categories above Schoolgirls/Teenagers:I am a strong advocate for abstinence but what can we do sometimes when young people want to experiment or are already sexually active? As a parent, I will do my best to support and help my children to wait and not rush into gratifying their sexual God-given appetite, for indeed it can be controlled and waiting is worth it.It worked for me their mother and some others that I have seen.
However, I have met a number of young people who are already sexually active and the question of introducing the use of contraceptives sounds like a good idea. My church mind sends a red alert every time I hear people talking about educating young people about their options when it comes to choice of a contraceptive (condoms, pills etc.). But over time I have learned that sometimes this is the best option for a young person who is sexually active.
An experience that I do regretwas a teenage girl’s case I intervened in while working on a maternal and child project (Abiye-saving a mother/Infant). I will call her Mary. She had to stop going to school because she got pregnant and had a baby. My team and I helped to get a home for her baby while we linked her with someone willing to sponsor her education and who also took her in giving Mary a home and family.
One of the intervention piece of advice we got was to take her to a family planning clinic and help her get a contraceptive method done since she was sexually active. Guess what? We felt it will mean that we were encouraging her to be promiscuous, so we didn’t do anything about it. We would later regret it because soon Mary became even engaged in sexual activities as she was now free of taking care of her baby. Mary left that family and stopped going to school and as we followed up on her case, she aborted a number of pregnancies after that and almost lost her life at some point. Still, Mary won’t stop and now she has two more babies and is inaccessible to us.
So if a girl is sexually active get her to obtain a family planning method to prevent unplanned pregnancy while also working on helping her to make the choice of delaying gratification. And this is not just for girls teach your boy to be responsible. Let him know that If he wants to engage in sex he must know that means he can impregnate a girl so abstinence or use of a condom is advised.
If you are not ready to have a baby; go get a contraceptive or family planning method done instead of aborting that baby. This allows couples to pursue their goals and careers; the woman is able to rest in between births and they can both have the number of children they can provide for. Visit a family planning clinic or see your doctor to get proper counseling on your choice.
Let’s reduce the number of abortions by opting for contraceptives.Create a world where every pregnancy is wanted.
Work for something because it is good, not just because it stands a chance to succeed.Vaclav Havelock, 1st President of Czech Republic.
Get your team to understand that what they do makes a difference. Richard Templer, Author of The Rules of Management.
Understand that your role and what you do is important; it makes a whole lot of difference in your job/assignment. Give your best shot this week and succeed.
Sometimes you loose your steam and passion for what you do.
Sometimes you wonder if it is all worth the effort and time you put in. Andsometimes you just feel like giving up on your job, project or business. DON’T Give Up BECAUSE YOUR EFFORTS REALLY DOES MATTER. YOU ARE GOING TO SUCCEED.
It is the International Peace Day every 21st of September.
When there is conflict women and children are the most vulnerable.Women are exposed to physical assault, rape and abuse. They struggle to watch over their children ; they go hungry while giving their babies and children the little food they can get.
When there is conflict children suffer malnutrition and are exposed to so much inhumane sights. They are out of school and loose time. Their education and future dreams suffer a huge set back.
When there is conflict men are out fighting and defending.Many families loose their men in conflicts living women to struggle with taking care of family members.
No one really wins a war for each side of the waring party suffer great loss. Rebuilding takes time and things will never be the same again.
Give dialogue a chance; Give peace the center chair.
Hello my feminine clanwhether you prefer to be called a lady or woman, I missed you and this time we do share together. It has been twoq weeks now since we chatted on the “woman to woman talk” series. Please pardon me I have had to put a few things in place. But hey grab a chair and let’s talk.
Today’s gist centers around something I observe and find annoying while driving around town.
Is it just me or have you ever noticed it too. Why is it that when we, women want to buy something by the road side we don’t park properly? I am talking about my fellow Nigerian women oooo! Often a woman just steps on her car break as soon as she sees something she wants to buy, parking almost in the middle of the road. Soon other car owners will begin to honk behind her; it is simply not a pleasant sight. Please dear fellow woman/ Lady Park well when you need to buy something beside the road.
In other countries you will end up paying a fine for obstructing traffic. So please be civilized and considerate of others while driving on the road. I mean follow the rules of driving girl….
Are you guilty of not parking properly and stopping to buy something by the road side? What’s your view about this? Share your thoughts… 😀😀
Saturdays come with this need and feeling of fixing, cleaning, cooking and generally getting set for another week ofwork. I so don’t like to be rushed out of bed on Saturdays! But my house keeper usually comes knocking early at the gate… Yes o, I engage the services of a house help. It is tough and stressful trying to do everything… I mean trying to be a super woman who waves a magic wand to perform impeccably at work and at home. No way!
Please dear woman do not try to do it all alone. Engage everyone in your house and pay if you have to for that extra support and help needed with chores.
Saturdays are also Owambe party days in Nigeria. And trust my Yoruba clan we love to organize all kinds of parties from weddings, 80th & 100th birthday party gigs; graduation from school, freedom after attaining an apprenticeship status😀😀😀; house warming and more. If you are not careful you will always have a friend’s, cousins, great Aunty or Uncle, colleagues, nephew’s parties to attend every weekend!!!
Abeg/please choose your parties. Yes it is good to celebrate with others but not at the expense of your rest time or simply having time to spend alone or with family.
This Saturday at least in Nigeria, we are all preparing our children for school resumption on Monday.Oh Lord help us all… It is the roller coaster season of getting up early, dashing out every morning in order not to be late. And for us mothers it is cooking and packing of extra meals for lunch and breakfast as well… Phew!
Plan, plan, plan your meals and time.
Right now we are in the salon trying to get my daughter’s hair done and ready for school. I still have loads of writing to catch up on and lunch too is just around the corner… Oh the life of a woman… Anyways, I am definitely going to throw in a rest and me time into this Saturday ☺️
So how is your Saturday going? I am all ears… Gist me and let’s giggle together.😂😂😂
It is really disturbinghearing that another woman or any woman just lost her life after delivering her baby.
In the compound where we live the cries of an elderly woman who lost a dear young woman filters through our window. We rushed out and knocked on her door. She managed to unlock her door and with our concerned and worried faces we stepped in asking her like ten questions all at once. That was when we found out a lady dear to her, someone she had worked with at her office before retirement had just died. They lost her after the birth of her third child… It was a very painful news for me.
I am not sure of the details of the complications that could have arisenduring or after delivery of her baby but I just simply know that… THIS Shouldn’t BE!Complications that can lead to maternal and child death include:
Bleeding/hearmorrahage, pregnancy induced high blood pressure.
Lack of going for antenatal
Engaging services of untrained midwives or health care providers;
Refusal to follow the doctor’s advice
Sometimes it is the careless mistakes of health personnel or anyone taking the delivery of the baby and more.
Having too many births in quick successions.
Prolonged labor due to narrow birth canal and a baby with a big weight or a breached baby.
A lot more needs to be done to prevent these needless deaths of mothers and their babies. Those to ensure this:
The pregnant woman herself – Eat right, take your immunizations, go for regular check up at your antenatal clinic, carry out all necessary and routine checks.
Husband/spouse – Beinvolved and ensure that your wife goes for all her antenatal visits; encourage her to eat and rest well ; watch out for any emergency signs and don’t delay in getting medical intervention.
Families should not insist on old traditional harmful delivery practises.
Other preventive means for maternal deaths or birth complications:
Stop female circumcision/FGMC –This causes scaring in the vagina of such a woman or girl therefore narrowing the birth canal. No wonder then that such a woman experiences prolonged labor and tear that could lead to VVF if the case is not managed properly.
Stop the use of traditional birth attendants and engage trained health personnel.
Adopt a modern family planning method to allow mothers to rest in between births. It also enables a family to have only the number of children they can cater for. Family Planning also prevents a woman who has been otherwise advised by her doctor to stop having children on health/wellbeing grounds.
After delivery ensure the woman goes for her postnatal visit tothe hospital. There she gets medical check up.
Rest..Rest and rest after delivery. Don’t rush into doing your normal work routine doing so much than your body can handle.
Naming ceremony can wait ifthe mother and child are still receiving medical care after delivery.
And seriously a Ceaserian Section is not a taboo or evil! It is a perfectly safe way to ensure that a mother and baby go through the delivery process safely.
Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read, comment, like or just being invisible but perusing my blog page. Really do appreciate you.😘😘
This week had me settling in and attending to work assignments after my annual vacation.
Ask me how that went? Oh well… A mixed bag of fun with my children and I on a visit to grandpa’s farm; building a tree house etc.
Then I sat down developing an FGMC radio drama serial script. In between, I published some posts on my blog
Then I started to feel bored staying at home and resting… Can you imagine… I should be grateful for the vacation o!
Resumption of Work
Guess what? Now that I have resumed work, I sincerely miss the relaxed schedule and time I had.
Now I am in the middle of working with a team planning for the 2017 world elders day celebration organized by my media organization – the Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria, Ibadan Zonal Station … Looking forward to giving our senior citizens a memorable day come 2nd October. You don’t want to know what this assignment entails… Lots of letter writing, brain storming session, sourcing for funds/sponsorship… Etc. The Themefor International Older Persons Day: “Stepping into the future: Tapping the Talents, Contributions, and participation of older persons in the society”.
Then I am back already co-presenting on a live family show. I so missed my “radio husband”… Together we mirror the stresses of couples/family life and get solutions from our dear audience
That’s not all… I seem to be saddled with producing all the health & fitness programs on my station… So here I am on resumption worrying about scheduling studio recordings for the physiotherapy group in Oyo State and this other gym guy who wants to wake listeners up early in the morning to exercise… 😸🙅😀
Still trying to work with my story writing partner on the way forward with a new drama series… So you see resuming work after a long vacation is not something to look forward to sometimes📚📚📚😀😀
But hey work I must and I am grateful for the gift of work. So please bear with me if I am not able to publish as often. But as soon as I am done settling in I will do more Posts. Well, tomorrow might just find me ready to publish a post! Hahaha.
I will also catch up on reading posts from my blogging friends and community. Missed reading your engaging and fun posts.