#WomenYouCanRun 1: What You Must Know If You Want to Join Politics

This morning listening to Oluwaseun Omoakinola, a dear colleague, and brother on his program, “The Conversation”, on Splash FM 105.5 I was richly informed about practical things women who intend to join politics must know. I will be sharing a few interesting down to earth points from one of the guests he featured on the program. It has inspired a title for a series I have been working on and hope to begin to share here. My own small contribution to encouraging more women to be bold in taking up leadership and political positions once they have what it takes.

There is all lot of discussions about women’s participation in leadership and particularly on increasing involvement in politics. And so I hope to be sharing practical points of view of notable women and men leaders and also profile women we can all be inspired by their success in leadership positions and in the political arena. And so welcome to the first post in the series of #WomenYouCanRun 1.

Hon. Nnena Ukeje Elendu on the floor of the House of Representatives. Credits: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dq7gqj6ypsA

Honorable Nnena Ukeje Elendu has been a member of the House of Representatives since 2007. She is a third term member representing Bende Federal constituency in Abia State under the People’s Democratic party.

Her Political Aim: To leave a much better country than I met it.

Honorable Nnena’s Lecture at an event organized by Women in Business and Public Service(WIMBIZ) an NGO for women on 22 March at Eko Hotel and Suites. It is in commemoration of the 2018 International Women’s Day.
Theme: Women, Politics and Nation Building (Press4Progress)

If you are running for office as a woman you must answer these questions:

1) Self- Evaluation: Why do I want to run? Find an answer to that question because people will ask. Men are not psychoanalyzed when running for elected office. They believe that every woman who wants to run has a blind ambition to control everyone. Determine also what office you want to run for. Is it a senatorial position, Governor, House of Representatives etc.
2) Are you Prepared? What are you bringing from your present life into office? I was in the hospitality business and found out that my strength was in hold anyone spellbound in a five minutes conversation. And so I was able to convince people easily, this I brought into office when I was elected.
3) Emotionally are you prepared? You are not allowed to have an emotional meltdown; you are not allowed to cry in public. In politics Might is right. You need to be strong.
4) Physically are you prepared? Campaigns are tough. You are up from 5am – 6pm. You must be physically strong and ready to give it the time it takes.
5) What is your cultural view about women in leadership? Family questions must be answered. What is your family’s take on a strong woman? Break the idea that you are either married or be in politics. A woman who can run both the home and be a good politician.

Having answered these questions you are ready to move on to the next level.

A few more points to note:

  • You must understand that competence, CV doesn’t win elections; emotions win elections. The aim of your opponent is fake news, emotional scam and alternative fact.
  • The most important persons in your party is the chairman, the National Organizing chairman, and the secretary, make friends with them. They are the ones in charge of sending your name to INEC.
  • Develop very thick skin…keep your children and family out of social media. You can read stuff about you that you will never believe in the media. Prepare your family for this.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Project Director Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral change Radio Drama. Communication4Development
Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee
Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com


Guest Interview: A Political Scientist Clicking Away with Her Camera

My eyes, ears, and heart are always tuned to catch real-life stories at events, training or workshops. So here was I trying to take a few photos at a Management and Leadership conference for Female Journalists; this lady kept bumping into me or was it me interfering with her professional photography work. And look at me holding a simple Android phone trying to take my amateur pictures😀 After bumping into her a few times the light in my head turned on! 🌞🌞 The writer in me asked, “what’s her story? So here I am ready to bring this beautiful damsel’s story to you. An interesting, down to earth chat it was. Enjoy meeting this talent. 

Interview :
Me: What is your name? Any brand or pet name?

Tiwa: My name is Tiwatope Badmus… My brand name is Tiwa Badmus Photography.

Me: Could you share the schools you attended?

Tiwa: I had my secondary school at Adesina College, Ibadan.
Then I proceeded to the University of Ibadan where I studied Political Science.

Me: What was growing up like for you

Tiwa: Growing up for me was two-sided… We used to leave somewhere that I termed as a ghetto. I learned a whole lot as a young girl of 5. Street fights and drinking was the order of the day.  so I learned a lot of self-defense. I was a really gentle kid growing up.Then by age 6, we moved to a new environment where our movement was restricted then I became the ‘get inside’ kinda kid. I was a very shy girl throughout my secondary school days. But as soon as I entered the university I began to build up the courage to meet and approach people.

Me: Photography! How did you get into photography, what was your motivation?

Tiwa: Photography has always been in me. I remembered as a secondary school student how I used to save my lunch money so I can go take pictures with my friends… How I used to capture the sun moon and stars with my First camera phone which was a Nokia C1.
My Motivation: When I was in 300L at the university there was this very long ASUU strike that broke out and I decided to learn Photography as a passion and then it became my career path.

Me: Do you do anything else besides photography?

Tiwa: Right now, I don’t do any side jobs… I only do photography.

Me: Is it lucrative, I mean pay your bills?

Tiwa: Photography is a very lucrative job.. Especially when it comes to events. I have met several people I would have never imagined if I was on other jobs within a short span of time.

Me: What has been your challenge following this career path?

Tiwa: The first challenge was procuring all the necessary equipment… OMG!!! Photography can be a very expensive biz to start with. Getting clients too was another challenge but when you know what you are doing and they see your work, they will eventually want you to work for them. As a female photographer, I have had experiences of some sexually related insults like a guy was trying to hit me on my back(bum) the other day.

Me: When you feel like giving up, stressed out, what keeps you going?

Tiwa: My passion for the job keeps me going. Most of the time I don’t look at the money. I work because I enjoy what I do which is why I am into so many voluntary groups.

Me: So if I want to become a photographer like you *wink, what do I need to do?

Tiwa: What you need to be a good photographer is in You. You need just your eyes to see something picture worthy of your environment. And then you need to be creative with that you can get behind the cameras and shoot your shot!!! It doesn’t take long to learn if you put your mind to it. In the space of 2 weeks, you can start shooting!

Me: You must have a favorite food…

Tiwa: My favorite food will always be Amala with Abula as a core Yoruba girl that I am 😃

Me: What is your parting word for young people like yourself especially ladies?

Tiwa: Believe in yourself, believe you can do it… Birth your dreams in Prayers. Don’t ever let anyone talk you down from following your passion.
You are strong
You are powerful
You are beautiful!!!

Me: I am so having fun and enjoying your story but hey we to wrap it up somehow😀. On a final note, what else would you like to share about yourself?

Tiwa: I am a Christian and I love God with all my heart.

Me: Don’t go away without giving out your social media handles

Tiwa: Instagram @tiwabadmus_photography
Facebook page @tiwabadmus_photography
Twitter @i_am_tiwatope
Thank you very much for the opportunity, ma’am. I do not take this for granted… I am so very grateful🙏🙏🙏

Hope you enjoyed meeting Tiwa? Go leave your dream, don’t let anything stop you!

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Project Director Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Radio Drama.
Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee
Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

105 Dapchi School Girls Kidnapped Released #Nigeria – Who is Playing Games with the Lives of Our Children, Our Girls?!

On February 19, 2018 about 110 Dapchi School Girls were kidnapped during school hours by gun men who came in a number of vehicles. I haven’t been able to wrap my head around the incident. It was simply heartbreaking to hear that another set of school girls had been abducted. This was coming in the wake of the Chibok girls whom we are yet to recover from the clutches of the terrorists group for 4 years now.  Yes some have been reportedly found but I doubt if we will ever recover all of them. So for me hearing about the Dapchi School Girls abduction was just too much…. I haven’t been able to put pen to paper to talk about the issue. But hearing about their release some minutes ago….. I have to say something!

This morning we received the news that the suspected Boko Hiram terrorist who abducted the girls came driving into Dapchi town in nine vehicles with 105 girls out of 110 girls earlier abducted. These are girls from JSS 1-SSS 3 and between ages 11& 19. I can’t imagine the horror of it for the girls and their parents.

It is a relief to hear that these girls are back home and will be reunited with their families. However I wonder again who is really behind this kidnapping. Is it just the Boko Haram group or we are actually acting a political drama at the expense of the lives of our young school girls.

Who knows what the abductors must have done to these girls! Possibly many if not all have been sexually abused 😖 And we are also hearing that 5 of the girls may be dead!!

This is totally unacceptable! Who is playing a dirty game with the lives of our children? Who is playing an evil game with our girls?! Something needs to be done to prevent a repeat of this horrible act. 

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Project Director Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development. 
Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee
Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

How will you serve the world? — OBA- TheKingsoracle.

How can you and I better serve our world? This dear lady found an answer for herself… This gets me thinking… What about you? Life is more beautiful and meaningful when we serve others.

Sometimes Last year, I was having a personal conversation with God, I was at that point where I was asking questions about life, and the fact that there is more to it .what role should I be playing at that particular phase of life that I had found myself? At some point, I began to […]

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Is There More To WordPress Than Just Blogging? — Dream Big, Dream Often

There is more to blogging here on WordPress, it’s a community where you get to connect and make new friends. Don’t just sit and wait for others to come read your fabulous posts, get out there and reach out… Like, comment and encourage other bloggers like Danny said in this post. I am really enjoying myself here on WordPress.

An observation of the world around me intended to provoke thought in you.

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Arguments For & Against Reserving 35% Affirmative Seat in Governance For Women #Nigeria

Participants at Beehyve & Onelife Initiatives media training.

An argument broke out from a demand women are making about their role and participation in governance especially with the 2019 general elections just around the corner in Nigeria. So here is a discussion that ensued on our media for development partners page oooo…interesting discuss that I am giggling and musing over:

TK (Male) – Well…I don’t believe in 35% affirmative action… How can u reserve 35% of seats for women even if they are incompetent? I believe we should allow women an equal chance but only based on competence… So I disagree with the affirmative action.

SN (male) – In principle, affirmative action was not conceived to jettison merit. It was not designed to give away leadership positions for women without merit. It was to open up space for equal participation. Merit cannot be assumed to have been sacrificed in this matter. Albeit, we have many incompetent men in leadership positions too.

TW (female) – You have just spoken my mind.

Nn (female)  – Are you saying we don’t have incompetent men in leadership positions?

AU (Male) –We’ve had highly competent women in positions of authority before & they’ve delivered even in contemporary Nigeria, so women can also take charge.

TK (Male) I have voted for women and respect many…but within an organization or society where we may not have enough competent women standing up in politics..then to reserve 35% for them is absurd! But, seeding 50% for women who are competent and emerge on merit isn’t a problem for me, I support it. 35% AA is opening more door to mediocrity.

SN (Male) – That is not an absolute. Your statement here presupposes that mediocrity is synonymous with women. It also reeks of an assumption that we don’t have enough competent and qualified women to handle the leadership responsibilities. I am sure you know the two assumptions are not valid. We have them in abundance. You may need to read up why the system is skewed against the women in terms of seeking the elective positions, particularly in Africa.

And on went the discussion... What is interesting to me is that men are engaging each other in discussions about increasing women’s participation in governance. Is this a good sign?

In the past week, there has been heated arguments amongst male and female colleagues about whether women should even seek to go into politics. What I sense is a lot of fear about a woman becoming corrupt and neglecting her duties in the home. Hehehe…give women a chance to become all they can now 🙂

What is your Take – Do you think that giving Nigerian women 35% affirmative seat in leadership positions is fair /unfair? Why?

Adebisi Adetunji (C)