A Note from Me to You… Missed you… Life Happened🌼🌼

How have you been? The year 2017 is speeding away quickly, I imagine you have a lot of end of year activities going on. Take things easy do what you can and let things sort themselves out one after the other.

I want to appreciate you – followers, friends in the blogging community, family, readers and everyone for been a part of my blogging journey and world. From my heart you make me to keep wanting to write. Thank you so much🌼🌼🌹😍

Reading & visiting other Blogs:
Please bear with me if I haven’t been able to visit your page. Most times I am only able to take a quick look at a few blogs. That I hope to change soon.

Why Blogging Slowed Down
I haven’t been able to blog for a over a week now or follow a well planned out blogging routine inspite of all the post ideas running through my head. Other life issues are demanding for my attention.

What Has been Up with me:
My life these past few weeks has been a roller coaster of office work, workshop, deadlines and caring for my family. And in between I had to nurse my daughter who was under the weather and we both got stuck at home for days. I had to work from home and even missed going to church on Sunday. At first I murmured and complained about the stress but then I discovered it was an opportunity to bond even more with my daughter. We read the Bible together and I got to answer a lot of questions bugging her young mind. We also laughed a lot together too as we did some fun things together while I was recording some effects for a radio drama I was packaging.

I learned the value and blessings of family time. Just yesterday my children told me that I was the best mom in the whole wide world *wink *…. I felt really loved and special when my daughter added that she was happy that I took really good care of her when she was I’ll. Suddenly all my stress was worth it.

Work will never be more important than your family. Be there for them and share fond memories.

I will find a way around my blogging schedule soon. I wish you and your family great blessings this season!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)
BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development.
Email :bisimodupe1975@gmail.com
Twitter : @DebisiBusybee


You Don’t Always Have Your Life Figured Out #Encouragement

Do you always have things together in your life? I mean are you always on point? Are you clear about what you should be doing next? Do you know where you want to be next? Are you ready to do something really great and profound? Do you want to save the world?

Hahaha… You only need to save the next person to you and the world will be just fine. 😀😀

Personal Lessons :

I am learning to take one day at a time, so should you.
I am learning that the little things I do for myself, family, friends and even strangers matter.

You have got to be grateful for what you have and where you are before you can appreciate the next level 

Today I am grateful for the gift of life, for when I am alive I can dream on and achieve.
Today I am grateful for a good health for I could have been paying a lot of hospital bills that I don’t even have money for.

Little Acts
I am grateful for the opportunity to visit a sick loved one in the hospital and just be there for them.
I am grateful for the opportunity to write this post and basically been able to write something that others stop by to read.

My life is still loading…
I am looking forward to doing great things and been a person of positive influence.

So my encouragement to you… Your life is still loading too…it doesn’t matter how old you are,  there is much more to your life. 

You don’t always have to have it together. Do what you can and watch things unfold.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

An Overwhelming Help! Girl gets School Fees Support – You never Know What Your Story Can Birth!!

When I shared this post, “The Sight of a Hardworking Woman & Mother: How tough can it Get?” little did I know that it will culminate into getting double help and support for this woman and her daughter. I was simply just doing a post about how some women struggle really hard to make ends meet in their family. If you are a blogger or writer like me reading this, follow that instinct and just share your heart about whatever catches your attention, you never know when you make a huge difference.

So here is what transpired after I published that story:

I got a message from a dear friend living across the globe from where I live that she read the story I shared. She wanted to know how she could donate towards part payment of the little girl’s school fees. When I read her message I was shocked and surprised! Yes, because I wasn’t expecting anything to come in terms of assistance from the story apart from what I had donated to help support the school fees of the little daughter of the woman in question. Mostly I avoided even mentioning that until now and I also didn’t want to ask anyone to donate. So here I am finding out that, that brainwave I gave into in publishing her story was the key to making a huge difference in this woman and her little girl’s life.

In the end the money donated covered for a whole school year’s fees for the little girl, meanwhile, her mother was only working hard to get just a term’s school fees.

 God is awesome and knows how to show up for us when we are in need!

I feel humbled and privileged to be a part of the answer to this woman’s cry for help. Sincerely I am still in shock and just moved in a way that words cannot express.

You never know who your story can help, keep writing honestly and sincerely from your heart.

Apart from settling the little girl’s school fees, the donation also covered the school fees for a young visually impaired boy whom I and My Abiye (maternal & child health) team had been giving education support for some years now. Indeed it is a double help and support for these two vulnerable children.

God bless our donor mightly. I cannot mention her name as I believe she wants this giving to be discrete.

Every Boy, every Girl deserves an education.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

How far Would you go to Make Someone Special Happy?

Femininematerz photo

I have done silly and funny things to make people special in my life Happy in the past. One that readily comes to mind is baking a special birthday cake for my brother’s 10th birthday. By the way the cake didn’t turn out as well as I wanted as I was still learning but we had fun eating it anyway.😀 By the way I gave up that hobby, maybe I will try again soon. So can you remember that extra effort made to make someone special Happy? Please do share with us. 

Recently I had to travel from one end of the town to another to find a Poultry Farm. My mission alongside a team was to collect a number of chicken donated to support the celebration of some senior citizens to commemorate the world elders day celebration coming up 1st October, 2017.

It was a walk through a water logged pathway through the Bush. 😀We got some tiny insect bites too. See more on our journey to the poultry farm and gists about how meeting some older persons moved us in a very emotional way.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) 

Bloggers & Social Media Influencers Workshop: All about Advocating for Zero tolerance for Female Genital mutilation and cutting (FGMC)

There is no medical or biological benefit in cutting the female genitalia. Instead It leaves a scar that brings a lifetime of complications to a woman and her wellbeing.

Cultures that practice FGMC belief it is a tight of passage to womanhood :

A woman is born complete and whole stop the cutting.

Another cultural belief system is the female circumstances prevents a girl/woman from being promiscuous but
It has been found that there are many sex workers who were circumcised.

Cutting a woman’s genital has nothing to do with promiscuity ; this is a matter of personal choice & character.


Bloggers & Social Media Influencers workshop organized by Young Men’s Foundation Against Sexual & Gender Based Violence. 

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

What Do you do when you just don’t Have time to Blog

Blogging for me is something I love to do. I mean it is a privilege to be able to share a story, an idea , an information with others.
You are making a difference in both your life and that of others. A great blessing I’d say. 

So what happens when you really have things you would love to share on your blog but you just can’t squeeze in the time. And you get alerts from new blog post from your friends from the blogosphere…
I go like heeeeheee(yoruba way of saying haaaa) 😁. Meaning that I am really far behind.

So what do you do?
1) Understand and remind yourself about why you started blogging in the first place.
2) Go visiting other bloggers. Read their post, share your thoughts and just basically support what others do. I try to do this.
3) Maintain your own pace but try and share something even If it is just a photo.
4) Seriously you must balance your life. Other areas of your life do need attention. So stop feeling guilty about not been able to post more blogs as you would like too.
5) Keep blogging, keep doing your best.

I appreciate every blogger… It’s not easy… It’s a lot of hard work. Love you loads.

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Dear Diary…Entangled between three Men…TBEE Writes #12

jotterAfter Mom’s visit over the weekend, I couldn’t help but think about a few things she said. My life should not be this  complicated. As a girl raised in church certain things are expected but hey who says I can’t live my own life. I love DT but I also need to be careful. Surely Mom is not expecting me to break up with him. On the other hand, where is this relationship really headed? (Chuckles) I can’t seriously be thinking about the road down a commitment already, after all, I am still a 200Level undergraduate student.

DT seemed like he is serious about me with all the over protectiveness. He is kind of possessive and wants to protect me, something I enjoy anyway but sometimes I feel like he has his guys in my faculty watching me. Even when we go out to parties, he has these three friends who always surround me making jokes when he has to step out for a few minutes. I know that they are there to watch and protect me his babe. I pretend most times like I don’t know what is up. DT wanted to come checking on me on Sunday morning but I had to go to church.

We did catch up later in the afternoon. He was waiting for me outside the School chapel. I smiled when I saw him but wondered why he didn’t come to worship like the rest of us. He said there was a whole lot to clean up in his room…*Wink * but he had time to pick me up. We talked about the event of early Saturday morning and other things about school life.
I still have one big matter to settle, that’s my dad. I dread facing him again but I have no choice. Mom said I should wait for her call before coming home. “Hmmm, see me see wahala“.

As if my life is not already complicated something happened today that left me wondering why I wasn’t watchful. You see I am one of those students who mind my business. Oh, I have friends but I try not to get noticed by any of my lecturers. Some girls like Adaora will come to class looking like it’s a club night meeting and even sit in front chewing gum loudly. A few lecturers will ask her to stop or go out of their class. Going to a lecturer’s office was an exercise I do only when absolutely necessary o. So Peter our class governor, while trying to arrange the sheets of an assignment we had just submitted stumbled and down came all the sheets scattered all over the place. I was standing close to him and I immediately bent down to help him pick the sheets. After we managed to gather everything together he thanked me and asked if I could help him carry some of the sheets to Dr. Bosun’s office. Without thinking I offered to help and off we went to the fourth floor where Dr. Bosun’s office is located.

Peter is the dramatic guy in the class, he always had a funny joke to tell and people loved him. So it wasn’t surprising that he had something to say to make me laugh. We even joked about  Professor Mark the grammarian. Before we knew it we were already at the lecturer’s door. Peter entered first after knocking and then I followed right behind. Dr. Bosun was sited at his table looking through a journal or something with his bald head reflecting in the ray of light that shone through his window. “Good afternoon sir, here are the assignments for submission,” said Peter while I just mumbled a sort of greeting just wanting to drop the sheets on my hand and take off. As if he only heard my voice and not that of Peter, he looked at me and asked who I was. Peter said I was one of his students and a classmate. “Really, how come I don’t know you”, Dr. Bosun responded. The look in his eyes said there was more to his words. He asked for my name, what part of the country I was from, why I choose Psychology as a course and a whole lot of questions about me that were not really his business.

The more he asked the more uncomfortable I became. I kept thinking how did I get myself into this mess? The gist around class was the Dr. Bosun was a ladies man who liked to flirt with students and got his way with some, although he tries to cover his tracks well. Just when I was thinking of a way of escape Peter cleared his throat and said we had another lecture in 5 minutes time, that was how we escaped. But as we went out the door, Dr. Bosun said, “Miss TBEE nice meeting you, I’ll be seeing you in class, hen”.

When we finally closed the door behind us I gave Peter that look that said: “look what you’ve gotten me into”. He mouthed an apology in whispers. I told him just pray that Dr. Bosun doesn’t make me a target to be wooed o.

Later this evening DT, called to ask about how my day went and we didn’t say more than two sentences before he blurted out, “And who was that guy you were busy chatting and laughing with on the fourth floor of your department”? DT, he is my class governor and nothing more jealous lover, I replied. I thought it was a joke o but DT felt strongly about it so our phone conversation ended on a bad note.

On top of the stress, I am going through with my parents this guy wants to be giving me an attitude over a baseless suspicion. He is simply not serious and I cannot deal with this right now. I want a peaceful evening. Just when I was thinking of relaxing with a simple dinner and watching a movie, my phone rings. It was Peter, my class governor trying to apologize for what happened earlier in the day at Dr. Bosun’s office. I said it was not a big deal and he cracked a joke again. We laughed and I said goodnight. If DT even gets an inclination that he called, he is probably going to go bananas…I chuckled.
Ok dear diary, time to have some peace.

Catch up on the previous post

Dear Diary…Mom’s Tough Visit…TBEE Writes #11

Dear Diary…Emotionally disturbed…TBEE Writes #10

Word Glossary:

See me see wahala – Look what big trouble I have gotten myself into.

Babe –  pidgin  word for the affectionate word baby

Adebisi Adetunji (C)