If you trekked(long walk) and endured a lot during your NYSC(National Youth Service Corp) days then you must be greatful that you made it through like me😀
I remember the long walks from Roundabout Mokola to Dugbe(some kilometers) many times – no money
I remember walking home in the rain one day as I wept but no one could tell the difference between my tears and that of the rain
I remember that I had so much fun too.
I remember the day of our passing out after the one year service to our father land(Nigeria) . I held the certificate of discharge in my hand and wondered what the future holds for me.
Its been over 17 years now! My journey through the years has delivered to me opportunities I never imagined! Now I drive through those same kilometers and neighborhoods I had to walk through in the rain/high sunny day 🌞🌞⛈️
Tough Times Don’t Last… That painful and dark season will soon pass giving way to light and better days. DON’T GIVE IN.
So I am here today saying thank you Lord, Baba e seee! Glory to God!
All dressed up in her new flowery shirt and brown pants ready for work, Diana sat in front of her bedside mirror applying her foundation and powder. As she brushed her cheek with the powder, Diana noticed that the bags beneath her eyes needed a little more powder padding to conceal them nicely. Her hands stopped mid-air as she stared at herself in the mirror, sighing and speaking loud to herself, “who I’m I kidding here? It is just so tiring dealing with this pressure”. Last night her mum had called again to say in no certain terms that time was not on her side. Worse still, Tina, her childhood friend invited Diana to the 5-year birthday celebration of her twin girls. A tear flowed down the corner of Diana’s left eyes, fighting back the tears, she quickly dabs the tears and finished applying her makeup. Taking a deep breath, she decided to face the day and make the best of it.
It is said that “Two are better than one” but I will like to add that –
“Two whole/complete individuals willing to commit and fight for their relationship are far better than one”.
So you see what you need in a love partner is far more than just having someone to call your own; share your life and bed with. Waiting can be tough I know, so we are not kidding ourselves here.However, I would like to put in your hands a few tips about what you can do to make your life beautiful and not live a miserable and pressured life.
Your life’s purpose goes beyond finding a man and getting married,It is a blessing don’t get me wrong but do not get stuck in the expectations of society and family members. I see a lot of women who keep their life on hold anxiously waiting to find love and marriage. Some are just going through the motion of living in the hope that finding Mr. Right is what will make their lives complete and fulfilling. Trust me Mr. Right will show up and come into your life; then you will find out that he is living his own life and even wants some space sometimes. Men are goal oriented and career minded, so God helps you if you end up with a “very busy” man who works for like 18 hours. Then you will be asking yourself, “There must be something more to my life”.
Now is the time to get busy, pursue your dreams and goal; live your life! Mr. Right will find you already living and you can both better complement each other.
Common Misconception about Finding Mr. Right
1. He is all I need to be complete
2. He is what I need to feel special, loved and wanted.
3. The solution to my lonely life.
4. He will take care of me and things and even sort my bills.
5. Society will only respect me if I am wearing a wedding band.
Let’s Be Real Now
1. Your happiness is not solely dependent on finding and having a man in your life. There are no perfect men including you. So expecting your spouse/partner to be solely responsible for making you happy is too much of a burden that comes with a lot of stress. YOU CHOOSE TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS.
2. You were already born complete, a whole person.When two complete, whole persons who accept and believe in themselves come together, then each one is not totally dependent on the other to make himself/herself happy. First, learn to accept yourself before you meet that someone you will eventually share your life with.
3. Do not…Absolutely do not put your happiness and life on hold. Take a course, travel to see new places,
4. Buy that car you have wanted to buy to make your move easy. Don’t mind the blackmailers of society who would interpret that to mean that you are proud and flashy and therefore men will be afraid to approach you.
5. Have and share your life with good friends who encourage and inspire you. Don’t be a loner.
6. Get busy volunteering to serve your community. You can offer your skills to empower others.
7. On days when you get that lonely feeling; do not just bury your head underneath your blanket, get out and take a walk or go see a movie. Who says you can’t take yourself out. Who knows you might make a new friend or meet him *wink at the cinema.
8. Draw your strength from the divine source. God is got a plan for your life and it’s a great one. Trust keep trusting. Your, Mr. Right, will show up at just the right time.
Don’t sit idly by and allow life to happen to you, choose to live life on purpose – Joyce Meyer
Hugs & Kisses from me….LIVE YOUR LIFE!!!
Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – firstname.lastname@example.org
It is a brand new week…Are you feeling fresh and ready to go?! I know for some your body aches probably because your weekend was busy with loads of tasks to finish.
Tips To Run With
Take a deep breath.
Maintain some minutes of quietness and make a list of things you are grateful for.
Pen your to-do list for today; the week…whatever works for you.
Take your tasks one at a time.
Stop worrying about whether the week will turn out fine. It will as you face each day with optimism and a can-do spirit.
Remember to rest in between your tasks. Have moments of me time
So go seize your week and make the best of it.
This post was inspired by the book titled- Seize the Day: Living on Purpose and making every day countwritten by Joyce Meyer.
This woman inspires me a great deal. She survived her abusive childhood and through Grace that found her came through the journey of finding healing and hope. Today she is a blessing to many lives, preaching the love of God and has written over 60 books. Now that is living life on purpose! The book “Seize the Day” is loaded, motivating and down to earth; after reading my copy of the book I am more intentional about my daily activities.
Some quotes from the book:
If we are not willing to risk what we have now, we will never find out what we could have
Passion keeps us going even in times when we want to give up.
A positive mind leads to an energetic, enthusiastic life –Joyce Meyer
Sonya Carsonwas a single mum who stopped attending school at grade three before she could read and write. She struggled with depression and worked so hard to raise her two sons Benjamin and Curtis. Even though Sonya was an illiterate, she devised a plan to get her sons to pay attention to reading and studying hard. Sonya refused to be a victim of her circumstances and pushed her sons to succeed in life. By this singular act she gave the world the renowned pediatric neurosurgeon who successfully operated on and separated conjoined twins joined at the back of the head. Ben Carson is currently serving his country as the United states Secretary of Housing and Urban Development.
Mothers are life molders and nation builders.
The word, “busy” is synonymous to modern day life.Efforts to make ends meet and the rat race of achieving an acceptable social status standard has eroded family happy times and relationships. Modern technology although with its numerous benefits to human life and businesses comes with its own disadvantages and distractions. The younger generation is fascinated by the new technological gadgets and social media; many spend precious hours engaging in unprofitable conversations with no one to guide and mentor them appropriately. Fathers and mothers are busy trying to keep their families afloat in the midst of new economic challenges of the 21st century.
Gone are the days when our mothers were at home or worked at jobs that enabled them to be at home when children close from school. Mothers were able to monitor the activities of their children and guide or discipline as appropriate. No wonder then that many of us formed a close relationship with our moms; no wonder that so many poems and songs have been written to eulogize the many sacrifices of mothers as they played a vital role in molding children who become responsible adults to society. Times have changed and we, mothers are so busy that we can barely catch our breath in the numerous challenges that life throws at us. How do we even begin to turn the tide of things around?
A group of women decided to create time to come away from their busy schedule to learn, inspire and remind one another about what was most important– empowering each other and yet able to raise young people who become responsible and dependable adults to their families and society. The National Biennial Conference of Pastors wives a yearly gathering organized by Foursquare Gospel church in her 2018 edition brought together women from different works of life and circle in society. This year’s theme is tagged, “Women Of Wisdom”.In attendance were the wife of Ogun State governor represented by Mrs Omolola Osota and Mrs. Folakemi Edun; the State Director National Orientation Agency, Oyo Directorate, Mrs Dolapo Dosunmu; Wife of the General overseer, Foursquare gospel church, Rev. Mrs Olubisi Meduoye and other ministers and women.
As the team who accompanied the keynote speaker, Mrs Dolapo Dosunmu, State Director, National Orientation Agency, Oyo Directorate drove through the camp groundof the Foursquare Gospel Church situated along Lagos-Ibadan express way, there was something serene about the environment.
A cluster of housing units lined up the road blending with nature as trees and lush green grass surrounded the environment. It is the kind of place you would want to go to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city; somewhere to clear your head, rest and regain your energy to face life again. Indeed it was an air of excitement in the hall as women relaxed and were charged by various speakers.
Mrs Dolapo Dosunmu in her presentation talked about the uniqueness of women’s role in Youth Development and nation building. Her introduction paints an apt picture of this:
“Women play significant roles in our society from birth till the end of their lives. The main responsibility of a woman is to preserve the human race. As a mother, her position is unique. She brings up the children with extreme care. The first school of a child is the lap of his/her mother. It is in recognition of the vital role of a mother in the upbringing of a child that Napoleon said, “Give me good mothers and I will give you a good nation”. Similarly, Brigham young said, “If you educate a man, you educate one person; if you educate a woman, you educate a nation”. No doubt, the progress of a nation depends largely upon the way mothers raise their children”.
Sharing from her experience working with youths, she talked about young people who couldn’t be bordered to show up to take up empowerment opportunities government offered to unemployedyouths. Mrs Dosunmu and her team in efforts to enroll these young persons in the N-Power program, placed several calls to many young people who had been selected but refused to fulfill the requirement of concluding the registration with her agency. It seemed like we are grooming youths with “entitlement mentality” and give no serious thought and time to one of the rules of succeeding in life which is simply to, “show up and be on time”!Mrs Dosunmu passionately appealed to women present at the meeting to monitor and pay attention to ensuring that their wards become young men and women who are willing to learn and take a chance with opportunities that life brings their way.
Key Points to note from her address:
Build a mother-child friendly relationship with your child.
Be a role model – watch how you live and behave as children naturally pick up on their parent’s character traits and this eventually shapes their entire lifestyle.
Teach your kids to do the right thing regardless of what other people may be doing.
Do not indulge or pamper your children; discipline when necessary.
Find time for your children regardless of your tight schedule.
Do your best to provide basic needs of your children even if your husband is incapacitated, not economically viable or even a deviant who dodges his responsibilities. In due season you will reap the reward.
The youth face a myriad of challenges which can best be overcome when adults create time to exchange of opinions. Youths have a lot of issues they want to discuss with adults and when they get a listening ear, they open up and learn from the adult’s wealth of experience.
In spite of the challenge of the 21st century as mothers we must go back to creating time for our kids and raise them to become the kind of adults we can be proud of in future.
Remember that after acquiring all the money and fame, you eventually get the future you invested in or did not invest in. Build relationships and not just career successes.
Ben Carson had this to say about his mum, Sonya Carson when she passed away in 2017:
“She was one of God’s greatest blessings to me, and it was her foresight and discernment that pushed me to reach my dreams”.
Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN) Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – email@example.com
I am an advocate of using storytelling to inspire social change and development.Allow me to blow my trumpet a little here 😊
My journey into story writing began as a child. I enjoyed reading story books and I read so many while growing up. Often I would rush to carry out house chores assigned to me then lay crouched on the soafer to dig into whatever story book/novel I had to read.
Some of the Books I read… Did you also read any of these :
*All Shakespeare series – “Macbeth” , “As you Like it” etc
* Pacesetters Series
*Mark 4 Series – Bible story book for children Volume 1-10
* A few Mills and Boons
* Crime stories from James Hardly Chase
* Of course the cartoon series on fairy tales : Cinderella, Rapuzel, Snow white and more 😄
* Inspirational Christian stories
My father couldn’t keep up with buying me new books because I quickly finished each book he got and begged him to get another 😀
As a voracious reader I started to tell my own stories through writing and here I am today still writing.
My journey into Radio Drama Writing & Production:
After I started working in the media (Radio Nigeria) I took interest in the radio drama production. The producer, Abiodun Ogidan who later became my mentor made the recording sessions in the studio very interesting. Often I will join the cast crew in the recording studio not as an actor but just to watch. I call it humor time. 😀 We always had a lot to laugh and giggle about as the characters took their lines – a lot of jokes flowed through as we pause to correct mistakes.
On one of my annual leave while at home with so much free time on my hands, I became inspired to try my hands on writing a radio drama script. Not knowing where to start I picked up my first-degree thesis which was a creative work and developed it. The title is, “We Can Begin Again”. I took my 13 episodes scripts to my mentor and she edited and encouraged me to record it. And that was how my journey into writing and producing radio drama soap began.
Today I have written and produced over 400 episodes of radio drama soap aimed at behavioral and social change.Some of my productions include :
Giggles – A5minutes series on the message of rebranding Nigerians, promoting integrity, hard work, environmental sanitation & more – over a 100 episodes
Abiye –15-minute drama soap on maternal d child health – Over 200 episodes
Greater Tomorrow –Climate change laced with the issue of poverty and girl child education and discouraged child marriage – 26 episodes.
The Long Wait – struggle with infertility and how couples can cope.
Some of my stories have been broadcast on the network service which broadcasts to all parts of the country. These include – “Flower in the Mud” (child trafficking) “The Last Assault ” (Gender-based Violence) ” Ufiala ” – (community fight against Rape) written by Tokunbo Dada & produced by me
I am excited about the current drama soap, ” Twists and Turns”, been broadcast already on the airwaves(Premier FM 93.5).It was inspired by the need to take a closer look at the long-term effects of female genital mutilation and cutting on women and girls. It is a 28 episode storyline. “Twists and Turns”, is co-written by me and Tokunbo Dada. Produced by yours sincerely, it’s been a lot of fun and hard work working with my cast and crew.
FInd your passion and follow It; you never know where it would take you.
I have been privileged as a result of my flair for storytelling and radio drama writing /production to get a scholarship with the Radio Netherlands(RNTC) on a training in “Soaps & Society” which took me out of the country for three months. And I can’t begin to tell you about all other opportunities that have come my way. These opportunities have given me international exposure and I have met some amazing people.
Doing what you love and know to do opens doors of opportunities.
Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN)
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It’s been 12 great months in the blogosphere with you my readers, followers, friends in the blogging community, everyone who popped in once in a while 😀💝. You all made 2017 an enjoyable worthwhile blogging season. Gracias(Spanish)… Thank you… Nagode(Hausa) … E se pupo(Yoruba)… Merci… Dankubel(Dutch-not sure about the spelling, pardon me). I will really love to say thank you in your language so please share with me in the comment box below.
I look forward to a great and better experience with you as we step into 2018. May you have a beautiful year ahead.
Hi, How have you been? The year 2017 is speeding away quickly, I imagine you have a lot of end of year activities going on. Take things easy do what you can and let things sort themselves out one after the other.
I want to appreciate you – followers,friends in the blogging community, family, readers and everyone for been a part of my blogging journey and world.From my heart you make me to keep wanting to write. Thank you so much🌼🌼🌹😍
Reading & visiting other Blogs:
Please bear with me if I haven’t been able to visit your page. Most times I am only able to take a quick look at a few blogs. That I hope to change soon.
Why Blogging Slowed Down
I haven’t been able to blog for a over a week now or follow a well planned out blogging routine inspite of all the post ideas running through my head. Other life issues are demanding for my attention.
What Has been Up with me:
My life these past few weeks has been a roller coaster of office work, workshop, deadlines and caring for my family. And in between I had to nurse my daughter who was under the weather and we both got stuck at home for days. I had to work from home and even missed going to church on Sunday. At first I murmured and complained about the stress but then I discovered it was an opportunity to bond even more with my daughter. We read the Bible together and I got to answer a lot of questions bugging her young mind. We also laughed a lot together too as we did some fun things together while I was recording some effects for a radio drama I was packaging.
I learned the value and blessings of family time. Just yesterday my children told me that I was the best mom in the whole wide world *wink *…. I felt really loved and special when my daughter added that she was happy that I took really good care of her when she was I’ll. Suddenly all my stress was worth it.
Work will never be more important than your family. Be there for them and share fond memories.
I will find a way around my blogging schedule soon. I wish you and your family great blessings this season!!
Adebisi Adetunji (C) BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development. Email :email@example.com Twitter : @DebisiBusybee
Do you always have things together in your life? I mean are you always on point? Are you clear about what you should be doing next? Do you know where you want to be next? Are you ready to do something really great and profound? Do you want to save the world?
Hahaha… You only need to save the next person to you and the world will be just fine. 😀😀
Personal Lessons :
I am learning to take one day at a time, so should you.
I am learning that the little things I do for myself, family, friends and even strangers matter.
You have got to be grateful for what you have and where you are before you can appreciate the next level
Today I am grateful for the gift of life, for when I am alive I can dream on and achieve.
Today I am grateful for a good health for I could have been paying a lot of hospital bills that I don’t even have money for.
I am grateful for the opportunity to visit a sick loved one in the hospital and just be there for them.
I am grateful for the opportunity to write this post and basically been able to write something that others stop by to read.
My life is still loading…
I am looking forward to doing great things and been a person of positive influence.
So my encouragement to you… Your life is still loading too…it doesn’t matter how old you are, there is much more to your life.
You don’t always have to have it together. Do what you can and watch things unfold.
When I shared this post, “The Sight of a Hardworking Woman & Mother: How tough can it Get?” little did I know that it will culminate into getting double help and support for this woman and her daughter. I was simply just doing a post about how some women struggle really hard to make ends meet in their family. If you are a blogger or writer like me reading this, follow that instinct and just share your heart about whatever catches your attention, you never know when you make a huge difference.
So here is what transpired after I published that story:
I got a message from a dear friend living across the globe from where I live that she read the story I shared. She wanted to know how she could donate towards part payment of the little girl’s school fees. When I read her message I was shocked and surprised! Yes, because I wasn’t expecting anything to come in terms of assistance from the story apart from what I had donated to help support the school fees of the little daughter of the woman in question. Mostly I avoided even mentioning that until now and I also didn’t want to ask anyone to donate. So here I am finding out that, that brainwave I gave into in publishing her story was the key to making a huge difference in this woman and her little girl’s life.
In the end the money donated covered for a whole school year’s fees for the little girl,meanwhile, her mother was only working hard to get just a term’s school fees.
God is awesome and knows how to show up for us when we are in need!
I feel humbled and privileged to be a part of the answer to this woman’s cry for help. Sincerely I am still in shock and just moved in a way that words cannot express.
You never know who your story can help, keep writing honestly and sincerely from your heart.
Apart from settling the little girl’s school fees, the donation also covered the school fees for a young visually impaired boy whom I and My Abiye (maternal & child health) team had been giving education support for some years now. Indeed it is a double help and support for these two vulnerable children.
God bless our donor mightly. I cannot mention her name as I believe she wants this giving to be discrete.