Empty Nest Syndrome : Coping as an Elderly Person

The empty nest syndrome is something every aging individual must be faced with. We forget in our struggles to provide for our children that they would one day start their own lives leaving home.

Yes, children should pay attention to visiting, calling and caring for their aging parents but more often than not it is not as frequent as one would like. And so many elderly persons find themselves lonely after retirement; after children have left home and life seems to just take a slow pace.

How can an older person deal with loneliness? How can an older person still enjoy life after retirement and children are gone from home?

1) Get a hobby: Time to start doing something about that hobby. My father loved rearing poultry birds while we were still in school those days. It wasn’t a question of space, he just found a way around it. One time his chickens were in a wooden made house under the stairs that went up to our own flat. I mean we had other neighbors. The chickens were not for sale but we enjoyed them as protein in our meals. Now that he is retired, he keeps busy raising chickens, turkey, ducks and every kind of bird that simply catches his fancy. No dull day for him at 70+ as he wakes up to the sound of his hungry birds every morning. View Original Post

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

More Homes and Care Services for the Elderly in Nigeria

Speaking with a volunteer worker at an agency for the elderly i found out a very worrisome story: An elderly woman who is 70+ was been physically abused by her own sister!!! This woman  was beaten and asked to fetch water and do other house chores too extraneous for her age. Thank God for neighbors who reported this case. The legal section of the agency had since taken up the case and progress is been made. I was relieved that this elderly woman was rescued from such a terrible treatment. 

This is one of the reasons why caring for the elderly is very important. Everyone needs to be involved. So in case you are looking for a place to help care for your aged then you might want to check out this places:


1) Family Ark Mission: Agency for the Aged (Non- Profit Organization.
Provides services to inspire, enable and support elderly persons .
* Social activities & fund trips
* Health care on wheels
* Home Care service
* Befriending Service to tackle the problem of loneliness in old age
* Free monthly health check
*Meals on Wheel – hot meals for elderly persons receiving care at the hospital or living alone.
* Day care centre running literacy services & ICT, managing finances.

Contact: Family Ark Mission Centre, Ikeja Lagos, Nigeria
Email: familyarkprojects@gmail.com

Website : http://www.familyarkmission.org/

2) Rock Garden Homes:
Some Services this home provides:
* Respite and Long term care/Lodging
* Dementia Care
* 24-hour emergency and alert system
* Geriatric Assessment and management consultation.
* Dietary and nutrition management
* Vision and Dental Care
* Personal Care & Pain Management.

Location: 191/193 Okeletu – Ijede Road, Elemu Bus Stop, Ikorodu, Lagos, Nigeria.
Phone : +234-8144-055-979
Email : info@rockgradenhomes.com
Website : http://rockgardenhomes.com/

3) Vineyard of Grace Home Health Care Agency
Services : Basically Home Service Care
* Physical Therapy
* Occupational Therapy
* Speech and language pathology services
* Nursing services
* Respiratory Care
* Wound Care and more

In the words of VOG health Care concerning their services:

“These services are provided only provided only on visits to a recipient’s home in accordance with a written plan of care which is reviewed by the physician at least every 62 days or when there is change in patient’s condition”.

Location: 24, Kudeti Avenue, Onireke, Ibadan, Oyo State Nigeria.

Phone : +234-8078224944, 08024221611
Email- voghealthcare@gmail.com

4) Regal Care (Nig) Limited a subsidiary of Regal Health Limited (UK):  Established to provide our clients, a personalized plan of care delivered with the dignity they deserve in today’s fast paced impersonal healthcare world.

All care is co-ordinated with input from client, family members, and physicians. clients are treated with honor and respect befitting their experience and age.


  • 1-24 hour personal care/ support provided.
  • Assistance with showering, hair washing,toileting, bathing
  • Assistance with preparing healthy meals as well as feeding
  • Assistance to get in and out of bed.
  • Escort for hospital and private appointments/shopping.
    For more detailed information, log on to http://www.regalcare.net

Note: I am not by this post endorsing any of these elderly care service providers. Please make proper inquiry before engaging their services.

Photo Credit: Family Ark Mission

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Using your Stats as a Spring Board to Blog Growth


Your stats can be more than something you take a peep at every now and then to catch a glimpse of who has visited or viewed your site. You can go beyond the sinking feeling of not seeing enough numbers of readers, views and visitors…beyond that ecstatic feeling of having reached a big number. Just because your stats jumped does not mean it can not go down again or be more. But then celebrate your achievements and success.

Here is what studying my Stats from a close point of view mirrored for me:

  • My most viewed page with the highest number of views/readership is my Home page/Archives with 1,779 views just this year 2016
  • Next I discovered that my readers/visitors/viewers seem to be interested in information about care of the elderly. This is why my most clicked on/read post is ” Care Service Providers for the elderly in Nigeria”. 917hits.
  • I also found out that posts on Relationships and Marriage drew in a number of readers/viewing.

A few things a closer look at your stats can help you achieve:

  • Helps you to know the number of followers you have on word press and on your various social media platforms
    Mine: WordPress – 134 followers
    Facebook – 502
    Twitter – 68
    Not sure of my LinkedIn account..which means i have to work on this.
  • I also learned that i have neglected some followers as i haven’t acknowledged their kind gesture in following me by thanking them, following back and commenting on their posts too. One good turn deserves another they say.
  • It will help you know the geographical location of those following/reading your blog. Having this knowledge will help you understand your audience and their preference.
  • You’d also be able to determine the best day and hour to post based on what statistics  revealed about your most popular day and hour with the highest views You’d also be able to determine whether you are reaching your target audience or not.
  • You will have knowledge about search engine words/phrases that generated clicks on your site/bog.

Good news for me

  • This exercise revealed that i have achieved more than my set goal of having 500 followers, meaning i have to aim higher now.
  • I compared two years stat 2015 and 2016 and discovered that i had gained more viewings and following by 35% judging by the numbers.

It is good to know that i am moving and getting better and i am not resting on my oars…None off us should because it can be better.

So don’t sweat it…keep writing and posting, keep learning and working on improving yourself and blog. BLOG GROWTH 3

Hope this has been helpful.
And i want to say thank you to every reader, follower and visitor to my page. Love you loads 🙂

And seriously thank you Blogging U Team…This course on Blogging, Branding and Growth rocks!!!

Photo Credits: Ismallbusiness.com, Activegroupinc.com, problogger.net

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Reaching out to make a difference: Tolu Roche


Here is our woman of the month:

She had her secondary education at Queens School Ibadan then went on to the Polytechnic Ibadan to study architecture. A native of Ekiti state in the south west , Nigeria, Tolu Roche moved to live in the United Kingdom and got to the peak of her career as an architect. Life can sometimes take a new turn either by choice or event, Tolu decided to make an impact and choose to go into social care for people with learning disability. In this field she rose to the post of senior management in social care. This inspired her into starting Lifeworth care an organization that  specializes in working with families and individuals that requires care and support in their own homes.

Living away from her home country gave rise to the challenge of caring for her aged parents as she would love to. In her own words as she came visiting from time to time she noticed that some of her friends living abroad had even more serious challenge with caring for their aged parents.

Tolu Roche, though still living in the diaspora decided to take up the task of providing care for the elderly in her home country, Nigeria. Now she is investing time into training others to help provide care for the elderly.


Necessity is the mother of invention

Reach out to make a  difference no matter where you find yourself

Don’t limit yourself to your first degree…so much more that you can be and do!

Adebisi Adetunji

Lists of Care Service Providers for the Elderly in Nigeria

My elderly parents aging gracefully

Lately, I see and hear about a lot of elderly people struggling with health challenges that come with old age. Many children hide their aged mom or dad at home and yet can not care adequately for them. A lot are frustrated with the large turnover of maids they have to hire for their elderly. I am basically through this post trying to provide information about where anyone in need of care services for their elderly can get help in Nigeria. This list was inspired by a story I had written earlier: An Old Woman Imprisoned by her children guarded by an uncontrollable maid.

How can we help the aged age gracefully? It is by being informed about how to care for them.  Below is a list of contacts that might help. I will continue to update the list from time to time as I get more information.

Note: I am not by this post endorsing any of these elderly care service providers. Please make proper inquiry before engaging their services.

  1. Ages Nigeria

(African Gerontology Society) yinkajomale@yahoo.com, gerontologyages@yahoo.com 08036706003

2. Rossetti Care,

Wahabi Olayiwola Layout, Tose, Moniya, Ibadan, Nigeria.
(off the Lagos /Ilorin expressway)
Tel: +234(0) 7068 633 627
email: info@rossetticare.com

3. Wellcare Home Medicals
65, Rasaq Balogun Street,
Off Adebola Street,
Off Adeniran Ogunsanya Street,
Lagos, Nigeria.
Tel: (+234) 01-740 3087

4. Regina Mundi Home for the elderly
142/144 Agege Motor Road,
Mushin, Lagos.
Phone No: 08074588402, 08074589436, 08074589455
Email: info@reginamundimushin.com

5. Winiseph Care Home
326 , Adeyemo Akapo Street, Omole Phase I, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria

6. Family Ark Mission: Agency for the Aged (Non- Profit Organization.
Provides services to inspire, enable and support elderly persons.
Contact: Family Ark Mission Centre, Ikeja Lagos, Nigeria
Email: familyarkprojects@gmail.com
Website: http://www.familyarkmission.org/

7. Rock Garden Homes:
Location: 191/193 Okeletu – Ijede Road, Elemu Bus Stop, Ikorodu, Lagos, Nigeria.
Phone : +234-8144-055-979
Email : info@rockgradenhomes.com
Website : http://rockgardenhomes.com/

8. Blue Gate Home Care- HealthCare Agency
51, Jubril Martins Street, Surulere, Lagos
Phone: 07060851423, 08025752474
Email: bluegateagency@gmail.com
Website: www.bluegatehomecare.com

9. Alpha Nursing Agency – Care for the Aged in their homes
38, Oyewole Street, off Shyllon Street, Ilupeju Palmgroove Lagos.
Phone: 08023215356, 08154782424
Website: www.alphanursingagencyng.com

10. Divine Senior Citizens Palace

PDCOS  Akoso Ibadan. Down General Gas.

(234) 803-4115168


Contact: 0813587562, 08177319368.12.

12. Chief Tony Anenih Geriatric Center operates rehabilitation services for the elderly: Occupational therapy, meet new friends, day care.University College Hospital, Ibadan

Contact 07030272125

13. Miradora Care Homes

No. 24 Ibironke Crescent,
Maryland, Mende, Lagos,
Phone No: +44 794 9094 076
00234 813 460 1328,
Email: enquires@mdlhl.com

14. Pope John Paul II Good Samaritan Home, Calabar, Rivers State.

15. Blue Torch Home Care Limited


No 2 Chike-Egwuonwu Crescent, Trans-Ekulu, Enugu, by Emeka-Abalu Junction along Mike Torey Road.

Tel: 07035774494

16. Assisted Living Homecarers Limited.

Located at 36,Alaafin Avenue, Oluyole Estate, Ibadan. Tel number 0807 6336273,

e-mail  assistedlivinghomecarers@gmail.com

 Adebisi Adetunji (C)