GUEST INTERVIEW: Banker Turn to An Orphanage Home Worker

Mrs. Oluwatosin Adesakin is someone I met at an orphanage home where we went on a follow-up visit concerning one of the children housed there. While chatting with her I found out that she hadn’t always been working at the orphanage home. I was curious to know her story as she is young and looked like someone who should be out there pursuing a corporate career. Gladly she obliged me but she declined to take photos. So I’ll just share a poster of the home.

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Her story and that of the children she cares for touched me and I’d like to share it with you:

What Course did you study?
Oluwatosin: I studied Computer Science at Lead City University Ibadan

Work Experience
Oluwatosin: I worked with a Microfinance bank for two years then I resigned and started to work with He Careth Orphanage Home, where I had been offering my part time services. I became the Manager of the home.

It looks like you left a more lucrative job for a social services work which isn’t paying as much as you earned before. What inspired you?
Oluwatosin: The Orphanage home was started by my mother, Evangelist Kikelomo Ali. On my free days I help out at the home caring for children but soon we noticed that those hires to care for the children were not giving adequate attention to the children. They beat the children and even steal items donated by well-meaning individuals to the orphanage home. After a while, I decided to make myself available to ensure that these children are been properly cared for as I really love children.

Would you like to share a bit of your experience working as manager in this orphanage home
Oluwatosin: Taking care of children is quite challenging. We feed them, dress them up, take them to the clinic when they fall ill and also take the older ones to school every day. It requires one’s full attention.

What has made working here at the orphanage home worth all the trouble?
Oluwatosin: We get children with different background stories. Some are brought in because their mothers died at birth; others were picked in the street or taken from mothers who suffer mental illness etc.
Some of these babies are brought in here looking emaciated and sick. We work so hard to care for them and watch them blossom into healthy and happy children. This is very rewarding for me and I am happy to do it over and over again.

Case in Point:

Victoria was a baby brought in looking skinny with her bones all showing. She looked like a skeleton. Her mother was a prostitute who had her and wanted to throw Victoria into a pit latrine (toilet). Thank God she was caught before she could carry out this unthinkable act. We nursed and cared for her, praying hard that Victoria would survive. She did and today she is a big, robust and healthy baby.

David is another baby who when he came to the orphanage couldn’t walk or sit until he was 2 years. His growth had been stunted. We feed him, took him to the doctors and did all we could to help him. We also prayed hard for him and today he is able to walk, talk, sit and do everything a child should do.
These success stories keep me going on the tough days.

Personal Lesson
Oluwatosin: Working here and with the children has taught me how to be more patient.

How is this home funded
Oluwatosin: People donate money; give material things, food stuff, beverages and so on. Mostly my mother put in her own money to keep the home going.

He Careth Orphanage Home is located at N0 47 Ajagboju, General Gas, Akobo Ibadan.

Support a Child

If you wish to support or donate to this orphanage home you can reach them on +2348033858451, +2348072802227 Or simply send your cash donations to:

Field Mission Evangelical Ministeries

Wema Bank – 0120431403
I hope to do more personally. Little drops of water can make a whole lot of difference. Give a child hope today. Thank You.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Winning & Losing – Lessons from US Election

us-electionHmmmn, so much has been said about the US elections. I’d say it was one election that we followed closely in my family. There was always one scandal breaking at any given time.
Everyone had their favorite candidate and I must say that I really wanted Hilary Clinton to win. Well, for one thing, she is a woman, so it would have been nice to have her represent us the women folk.
I felt terrible that she didn’t win but i did take away a few lesson i would like to share

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* Whether things turn out the way you want or not- there is always a lesson to take away from an experience. So don’t be too gloomy to miss out on the take away lesson that will eventually make you a better person.
* You can lose gallantly. Attitude is everything even when it is painful. Sure losing is painful just like it was for Hilary and all of us who wanted her to win but i must say that i admire her response to the matter at least on camera. I mean she is human as well… Her receding speech sent a strong mesage to me:
…This is painful and it will be for a long time. But I want you to remember this: Our campaign was never about one person or even on election…it was about about a country we love.

And I love this one:

…To all the little girls who  are watching this, never doubt that you a valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your dreams.

Sometimes you win even when you lose- Attitude is key

Winning
This Bible verse comes to mind: I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong… Time and chance happens to them all. Ecclesiastes 9:11

So sometimes the “Unqualified” according to human existing standards get to occupy a position.

The lessons:
* Never underestimate anyone; never write off anyone.
* Don’t hang your nose looking down on others
* When you do win remember that it doesn’t end with winning. What you do with your win is what would matter most in time.
* Winning means – so much more is required of you.
* Winning is an opportunity. What you do with the opportunity is much more important than the title or position.

Don’t be too gloomy to miss out on the take away lesson that will eventually make you a better person.

Photo Credit: PeteLinforth

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Dino Melaye: A Lawmaker Assaults fellow female lawmaker? What kind of laws would individuals like this make?!!!!

Dino Melaye a Senator of the Federal Republic of Nigeria threatens to beat and rape a fellow Senator, Oluremi Tinubu at an executive meeting held July 14, 2016 in the hallowed chamber of the Senate. He boasted that he would beat her and nothing will come of it… Oluremi has since written a letter asking for security protection.

Dino’s Previous scandals  on violent tendencies
In 2011,  Dino Melaye led a team as a member of the  House of representative  and started a brawl that led to the death of a member.

How is it that a law maker who has a history of violence against women (and anyone for that matter) gets to hold such a sensitive leadership position?

Melaye’s response to the allegation“She called me a dog and when she called me a dog I stood up and I reacted….”

Is this enough reason to have threaten to abuse, rape and impregnate her? Sincerely i am bewildered by the kind of people we have holding key positions in our country. Mostly we celebrate “rubbish” – violence, crime, money launderers, and corrupt individuals.

We forget easily the misgivings of this people and elect them into office the next time an election shows up.

What kind of laws would such individuals come up with?!!!

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Interesting Angles to the sexual assault Bill : Lecturers and “Female Students” in Nigerian Tertiary Institutions

Lectures protest a new bill that provide for a 5 year jail term for lecturers who sexually assault (female) students.

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A discussion with some of my male colleagues at work about this new bill opens other angles to this issue. Some are saying that female students sexually harass their lecturers through provocative dressing. In fact they argued that some female student’s dressing showing all their boobs, thighs and cleavage says i am available. I am even told that even heavy makeup and clean looking legs turns some men on. Does that mean that looking sexy might mean sending the wrong signal according to the men?

I am presuming that this protest by lecturers has to do with the fear that now that female students and parent can take legal action against lecturers whom they believe is guilty of sexual harassment, some lecturers might be victimized.

My angle on this matter:
I find it funny that lecturers are protesting a bill that seeks to punish assault against female students sexually. Are they claiming that they are the victims here? I mean many female students have been victims of sexual assault from male lecturers for as long as i can remember. There are many stories of female students who get an extra year or two simply because they refused to give in to the sexual yearnings of their lecturers. Interestingly too the boy friends of such girls also get the hammer. They also fail because they are the wall between the lecturer and his dream sexual exploit.

So i say this bill is a great step in the right direction for unwilling female students who refuse to sleep with their lecturers just to be in his good favor/pass their exams.

Listening to the news paper dailies this morning i listened to how some lecturers in the bid to prevent the bill from been passed said that “Universities have a way of handling sexual assault offend cases and that should be enough”?! Seriously i find the whole thing humorous…hee…heee as we say sometimes “I laugh in French”.

A peep into the bill:

“An educator shall be guilty of committing an offence of sexual harassment against a student if he/she has sexual intercourse with a student.

“He or she shall be guilty if he has sexual intercourse with a student or demands for sex from a student or a prospective student as a condition to study in an institution.

“He or she shall be guilty if he has sexual intercourse with a student or demands for sex from a student or a prospective student as a condition to the giving of a passing grade.

“ He or she shall be guilty if he solicits sex from or makes sexual advances at a student when the sexual solicitation or sexual advances result in an intimidating, hostile or offensive environment for the student.

“He or she shall be guilty if he directs or induces another person to commit any act of sexual harassment under this Act, or cooperates in the commission of sexual harassment by another person.

“He or she shall be guilty if he grabs, hugs, rubs or strokes or touches or pinches the breasts or hair or lips or hips or buttocks or any other sensual part of the body of a student.

“He or she shall be guilty if he displays, gives or sends by hand or courier or electronic or any other means naked or sexually explicit pictures or videos or sex related objects to a student.

“He or she shall be guilty if he whistles or winks at a student or screams or exclaims or jokes or makes sexually complimentary or uncomplimentary remarks about a student’s physique,”(Culled from Premium Times Nigeria)

Seriously Now

Lecturers are made up of the female and male gender and this bill mentions that both gender could be the culprit. In other words even female lecturers are not allowed to sexually harass male students. Do female lecturers also harass male students? Ok maybe i don’t know but i am aware that it will be in a subtle manner which does not still excuse such act.

The crux of the matter is this lecturers should design a means of maintaining their integrity. The way i see it if you have not been guilty of sexually harassing students before and principled, you have nothing to fear about this bill. The sledge hammer will only come down on the guilty. And seriously students know lecturers who are principled and should not be messed with.

And to our female students just because there is a bill now protecting you, it doesn’t mean you can now walk all over your lecturers. If you use this an opportunity to blackmail, it will come back to hunt you. And ladies dress like you want to be addressed!!

The moral behind this is that every man must learn to exercise self discipline and control especially when you are in a position of authority. Because the people under you are put there in trust- Damola Tinubu

As a lecturer  students are under your tutelage in trust!

Photo Credit: Oga Lecturer

Adebisi Adetunji (C)