Every new year heralds a new beginning. It is usually an opportunity to take a look at the past year’s achievements and plan to move forward.
I’d like to share my blogging plans with you so you will know what to expect:
- I am bringing back the serial post on “Dear Diary… TBEE Writes”. It is a fiction and story of a typical Nigerian campus girl which started last year but my workload increased and I couldn’t just keep up. But a number of fans and readers who had been following the story keep asking me to continue. And so continue I must in order to put a smile on the faces of these fans 😀😀. Catch up on the last two episodes here :
Dear Diary – Something Terrible Happened on Campus… TBEE Writes #19
Dear Diary- The Soup Thief was Caught but a Threat is Underway… TBEE Writes #18
- “Woman to Woman Talk” series post where I basically have a frank chat with my female clan😀 also picks up again.
Woman to Woman Talk #23- She Won’t Let Them Do it
Woman to Woman Talk #22- She Poured Hot Water on the Other Woman in her Husband’s Life.
Other issues that falls in my passion groove that will feature on this page are:
- Speaking out about ending gender based violence and harmful practices(FGMC, domestic violence etc.)
- Wellbeing of Women, Girls and Children
- A peep into my life & world
- Motivation and Inspirational posts
- Community gists and news around the world as well
I intend to also throw in a few spontaneous and necessary posts. As we journey together this year on this blogging space, I hope we can have an engaging, intriguing and exciting time together!!!
Adebisi Adetunji (C)
There are stories that you hear and it just gladens your heart in a warm way. And when something you were a part of contributes to the success of the story then you get a sense of fulfillment that you have made a difference in someone’s life. The telephone number featured on the FGMC sensitization radio drama “Pim Pim Pim” became a life line to people who attempted to get help for three girls on the run.
Njideka had listened to education talks about the negative effects of female genital mutilation and cutting also known as female circumcision on girls in school and in church. In her community girls must go through the rite of female circumcision to attain womanhood and soon the drums heralding her time to be cut began to sound.
A few days to her being circumcised Njideka ran to protect herself. Two other girls joined her. A series of event took place which finally lead to the IZZI community abandoning FGMC. Njideka is indeed a brave girl and a hero in the fight against a harmful cultural practice. Here is a short video telling her story and that of her community:
Adebisi Adetunji (C) BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development. Email – email@example.com twitter – @DebisiBusybee
25th November – 10th December are 16 days to bring to fore issues surrounding gender based violence every year.
I am hoping it will all not end on the talk tables. On femininematerz we will take a look at progress made in ending gender based violence and areas work still needs to be done.
The first step to putting a stop to GBV is for those who suffer in silence to speak up. Don’t die in silence, there is help out there.
This discussion continues in a next post…
Adebisi Adetunji (C)
BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development.
Email – firstname.lastname@example.org
Adebisi Adetunji (C) BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development.
Recently while talking to Mariam (not real name) who was delivered of her baby girl a few months ago, she revealed something that surprised me and I was touched. We were simply talking about certain cultural practices that are harmful to the wellbeing of our children. After she had her baby, a discussion between her mother-in-law and some older women took place. There was a plan to circumcise Mariam’s little girl but there was, however, a stumbling block. Mariam’s mother-in-law knew that she was stubborn and wondered what to do about ensuring that the old custom is upheld in the interest of her granddaughter or so it seems. One day this mother-in-law finally presented the matter to Mariam who stood her ground in refusing to have her daughter cut in the vagina. An argument ensued but Mariam prevailed. She points blank told her mother-in-law that she would not allow anyone to cut her little girl! And I must also commend Mariam’s husband here who supported the decision not to allow their daughter to be cut. I mean he could have sanctioned the plan to do this in the name of not wanting to offend his family.
I was surprised that this practice of mutilating girls in their vagina was still been practiced amongst the educated elites. Often we think that some harmful practices that we try to create awareness about with the intention of ending it, is simply a problem common among the uneducated rural. This is not the case many times.
So dear woman, do not sit on the fence thinking that there is nothing you can do about ending any form of abuse or practice that can be harmful to your child. Yes, a lot of times, particularly in our strong African cultural heritage men, decide something’s but this is not to say you should not speak up when it is a matter of what could harm you or your child.
Speaking up and saying NO, is the first step in protecting our girls from child marriage, female genital mutilation and cutting(FGMC) and other forms of harmful practices.
This post was inspired by discussions from a workshop on Advocacy & behavior Change Messages Development to abandonment of FGMC that I am participating in. It is put together by Civil Source Development & Documentation Cenre(CIRDDOC) Nigeria in partnership with UNFPA
Adebisi Adetunji (c)
The International Day of the girl child is celebrated on the 11th of October every year, the world over.
The general theme according to the UN Women is tagged, “Empower girls: Before, during and after conflict. Many parts of the world in recent times have various forms of conflicts and war. No continent is left out of the heart wrenching mindless killings. Families and everyone who find themselves caught in these conflicts suffer so much loss no doubt.
In Nigeria, we have the Boko Haram conflict in the northeast and many girls and women have been abducted. They are made to cook, clean and carry out the menial chores for the terrorist. Aside these, the girls are forced to become young wives and mothers. I can not imagine the emotional trauma and conflicts that go on in the minds of these victims. Thankfully some have regained their freedom. How much of rehabilitation work is being done to reintegrate them into society is another matter entirely. But many other girls were used as child suicide bombers and others caught in between the crossfire lost their lives.
It is my hope and great heart desire that the war against insurgency and terrorism will be won in the northeast Nigeria and the world over. (This feels like a very tall dream). But we can still make the world safer for every girl and everyone as we each person begins to value peace and other human beings.