Valentine’s day comes with love blues.How do you intend spending yours?
My daughter and son are all over the house searching for gift items to take to their friends in school. At first they said we could buy as little as 50 Naira sweet while we were driving home.
The next words painted a bigger picture.
My daughter said: “Our teacher said that if we bring a small gift then we get a small gift back but if it is big then we get a big one! Haha… Daddy : But I thought you said any small gift was OK. Mummy : laughing – wo me I don’t have money for gift. When you get home look for those birthday gift items lying around in the house.
When we got home my son set out designing a Val card while his sister intent on getting a big gift from schoolwanted to wrap about two big gift items!
My Children, they are celebrating this valentine more than mum and dad ooo. 😀
Whether you get a big or small gift… Enjoy your valentine.
Here is wishing you a peaceful Sunday But you’ve got to prepare for a new week.
A quick reminder of things to do :
* My daughter or son will suddenly remember that their agricultural teacher asked them to plant a corn and I or their dad will just be hearing about it Sunday night while trying to relax in front of the TV! So to prevent this dramatic surprise make sure your kids have done their homework. They know how to leave this undone until Sunday night or early Monday morning. This will put you all in a cranky mode at the start of your week. Ask… Ask them… Check their note books to be sure.
* All school uniforms or dress to be worn to school needs to be clean and ironed.
* Be sure that their socks and underwears are clean. Don’t imagine that they are… Many socks get left in school bags only to be discovered on Sunday night!
* Plan for breakfast meal for the first day of school at least if you don’t like a whole week’s timetable. And plan for lunch school take away.
* Don’t be tempted to only plan for your children… Plan for yourself too. Sort your cloths for the week too. Iron… Iron so you don’t go looking scruffy to the office.
* Remember to pack your bag. Pack your ID card, credit card, key card… All the cards… You know what I mean. You know women change bags to match their outfit each time. It can be so annoying to find out that your driver’s license is in the hand bag you used yesterday just when Road safety or patrol police stop you while driving through town.
* If you can make a list of what needs to get done on Monday… Office stuff and home chores.
Now how in heavens name is one suppose to enjoy a peaceful Sunday with all these?!! Yaayi… Life must go on but take time out to still relax. Have a great Monday and start of the week.
Sometimes you meet people, they look happy but at the core of their soul and heart something in their past hurts really badly. Things they wish had been, some things they wish never should have happened; all the Ifs hurt. I found myself caught on the corner of a street in a neighborhood I would only visit for field assignments.
It was on one of such call to duty that I met this woman who obviously managed to get by in her meager business.Here was this very energetic, funny and happy woman I was interviewing about her family. She burst into tears right in the middle of our interview chat…my recorder was still on…I simply stopped and wrapped my arms around her saying every words of comfort that came to my heart at that moment. It took a while before she calmed down.
What was this middle aged woman weeping about?
While growing up as a child her parents got separated. It wasn’t the typical court divorce, her mum just her dad for whatever reasons her little mind could not grasp. She had to live with her dad but wasn’t really happy because he married another woman and it was an uncomfortable environment for her. Sometime later her mum showed up and a fight broke out between her dad and mum over who should have custody of her. She wanted badly to stay with her mother and she cried until her dad angrily sent her to her mum. He refused to sponsor her education since she chose to stay with her mum who could not afford sending her to school. She could only get a primary education…these was the point where she busted into tears…
What I saw in her eyes beyond her words & tears:
She shook her head and stared at me her interviewer.
Her eyes said I could have been educated like you
My life would have been better today if only my parents tried to put me first.
Her body shook with pains as she cried out loud saying, “I really wanted to go to school”
It felt awkward but I felt her pain. I wish I could turn back the hand of the clock to right the wrong of not allowing her to go to school. I could only give her hope that the future could be bright. In my words, “your past doesn’t have to determine your future; you can still make it; you would still succeed; getting an education is still possible; God can still beautify your life”.
Finally she stopped crying and wiped her tears as I held her close.I do not take this encounter for granted. It was a privilege to share the pain of this woman who saw me as someone that represented what she could have had. I was educated; she wasn’t….NOT SO FAIR!
14 years and still Counting….
It looked like yesterday
We started out in a single room, sleeping on a mattress on the floor
There was no TV, no Stauffer
But we had a lot of love
There was no car, no carpet yet
But we enjoyed strolling down the road hand in hand
We didn’t earn big figures as salaries
But we enjoyed our dozes of vegetables, ponmo, eja kika and eba
14 years and still counting
We have grown
We have more responsibilities
Our family is bigger
We have been to places
We are certainly not where we used to be
We are more blessed
14 years and still counting
We have got bigger dreams waiting to happen
Let the years roll on as we walk together hand in hand
Trusting our heavenly father to unfold bigger and beautiful things Grateful for this gift…our home…our marriage!!!
The Summer holidays are here for school children, it’s a long one and parents have to think of creative ways to engage their wards. All over the city, bill boards advertising summer coaching, summer extra-curricular of all sorts. Seriously I think we are been very unfair to our kids. They had worked so hard during the school year and instead of allowing them to enjoy their holiday we put them in our cars and drop them off at another school coaching again!!!
I don’t know about you my children have a different idea about how they want to spend their holiday. Here is what they did on a visit to their grandparents place. It was cousins time out building a house….
Allow your kids to have a memorable childhood…like this
It was time to build in the middle of grandpa’s bird houses…turkey, chicken and ducks
Testing the strength of our leaf thatched house
Checking if our house is roomy enough to sleep in.