How Many Men In Africa will Go for Vasectomy a Family Planning method? Would you Support your man? Would you as a Man go for it? #WORLD VASECTOMY DAY

Men on a morning jog on a Saturday

Vasectomy, now this sounds like a big word that people often wonder what it means? It is simply a male permanent contraceptive. Usually, a minor surgical procedure is carried out which prevents sperms that can fertilize a female’s egg from getting across during sexual intercourse in simple terms. It is a contraceptive method used by couples who do not want to have any more children.

This is one family planning method that men are afraid of taking up especially in our African setting. This is because they are afraid that it might affect their libido and ability to enjoy sex with their spouses/partners. Even my fellow women clan refuse to support their men in taking this option 😀😀. Rest easy performing a vasectomy does no harm to a man’s libido or sexual performance. Many men worry about the risks involved in doing a vasectomy so learn more about it to make an informed choice.

Vasectomy is simply a shared responsibility in a couple’s family planning efforts know more about your contraceptive options as a couple.

Back to my question would you be willing to try the option of Vasectomy? Share your thoughts.

Adebisi Adetunji(C)
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Woman to Woman Talk #21 – Are you Bogged Down with What to Cook after Work? You are Not Alone – Tips for Planning Meals

Have you ever experienced that frustrating feeling when you look at your wristwatch or office wall clock and it is almost closing time; then you suddenly remember you have no idea of what to cook for your family when you get home? Many times I listen to colleagues exclaim: “Oooooh what are we even going to eat this evening”. Then other female folks join in saying “That’s true, I don’t know what to cook for my family too”. And then we go on to console ourselves or should I say make ourselves feel even worse with words like: “Ah the life of a woman”.

I don’t know about you, cooking is a matter of necessity for me; I do my best to make good meals. But some women love to cook and you find them trying a variety of recipes. One of my sisters loves to experiment and so at family gatherings/event she often comes up with a new soup and would want us all to try it. I really do admire what she does but me…” long story”.

A dear friend and colleague, Stellamaris who by the way is packaging some Nigerian soup recipes for this blog love to cook…and men, she really can cook!! Ladies like her are ever in the market space shopping for ingredients. It is an almost every other daily activity, count me out. I mean I even plan the precise amount of time I want to spend in the market; I call it shopping sharply and smartly…hehehe. Please o, don’t blame me.

Shopping for ingredients and foodstuff to prepare meals is one thing and cooking is another part of the kitchen palava. Sometimes your food store is well stocked with a variety of food items you can prepare and yet you have headaches about what to cook. Yes, I do, I don’t know about you. The problem is not a want for food but about been skillful in preparing variety so that your menu is not monotonous

So how do we make things easier on ourselves when it comes to preparing meals?
Good old fashion, food timetable works wonders. However, that would mean having all the variety in your timetable available in the house. Sometimes this is not workable. So you might need to also be flexible with your timetable.
Learn a few new recipes from your family and friends who love to cook. This you can try out to give yourself and family a variety of meals.
• It is advisable to buy foodstuffs in bulk to save cost and to also refrigerate them appropriately.
Have a day or days in the month when you prepare a variety of soups and stock in the freezer. This will help you prepare only what you need to accompany the soup such as rice or if you are very Nigerian, solid foods like Fufu, Eba, Amala, Akpu.
Do not hesitate to ask for help from those who love to cook *wink. If they are willing to do it for free – good for you but if not be willing to pay for the services. They will help you to make various soups in large quantity and then you can preserve in your deep freezer!
Sometimes offer to take your family out if you can afford it or get your man to take you all out. The trick to that…”Yawn and lament about how tired you really are if you are both riding in the same vehicle on your way home…hahaha….It is nice to have cooking free days.
Plan, plan, plan your meals as best as you can.

Have a stress free cooking life woman!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Remembering Lessons from Social Studies – Why Family is Important

Remembering Social Studies – The Family is the smallest unit of society… Hahaha 😀. Hope you still remember that definition.

Here is the “koko” (as we say in Yoruba) or “point” (in English) of this post.
If something goes wrong with the smallest unit of society then society goes really wrong.

Fight for your family… Don’t give up…work it out. You can enjoy peace and love with a mix blend of selflessness, forgiveness, and prayers.

Many families are broken and hurting I pray for healing in our lives and homes.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Dear Fathers…✍️✍️✍️

We celebrate every father who is working so hard to put food on the table
Every father who works hard to educate his child/children.

We know it is tough but you still make out time to make us and mummy smile. You put us first and spend time with us.

You have dreams and goals but pursue them making space for us at the center.

Wait until you begin to reap the fruit of all your labor.

Dear Father now is the time to build a solid relationship with mummy and us your children so mummy will not run off in the name of nursing her grand babies just to have some space and peace.

Hip… Hip… Hurray to all father’s who are doing their best and more.

Shout out to my own Yemi Adetunji. You have been doing so much for us and we see it… Won’t forget either. And when the grand children come rolling in by his Grace…I won’t run off for long🌷💓💓

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Big or Small Valentine Gift… Make a Wish… 💙💚💓💞Happy Valentine to You Especially… From my heart

Valentine’s day comes with love blues. How do you intend spending yours?

My daughter and son are all over the house searching for gift items to take to their friends in school. At first they said we could buy as little as 50 Naira sweet while we were driving home.
The next words painted a bigger picture.

My daughter said: “Our teacher said that if we bring a small gift then we get a small gift back but if it is big then we get a big one! Haha…
Daddy : But I thought you said any small gift was OK.
Mummy : laughing – wo me I don’t have money for gift. When you get home look for those birthday gift items lying around in the house.

When we got home my son set out designing a Val card while his sister intent on getting a big gift from school wanted to wrap about two big gift items!

My Children, they are celebrating this valentine more than mum and dad ooo. 😀 img_20170101_120340

Whether you get a big or small gift… Enjoy your valentine.

Happy Valentine 💓💓💓💓💓

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Happy Sunday… How to have a Happy Start on Monday

Here is wishing you a peaceful Sunday
But you’ve got to prepare for a new week.

A quick reminder of things to do :
* My daughter or son will suddenly remember that their agricultural teacher asked them to plant a corn and I or their dad will just be hearing about it Sunday night while trying to relax in front of the TV! So to prevent this dramatic surprise make sure your kids have done their homework. They know how to leave this undone until Sunday night or early Monday morning. This will put you all in a cranky mode at the start of your week. Ask… Ask them… Check their note books to be sure.

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* All school uniforms or dress to be worn to school needs to be clean and ironed.

* Be sure that their socks and underwears are clean. Don’t imagine that they are… Many socks get left in school bags only to be discovered on Sunday night!

* Plan for breakfast meal for the first day of school at least if you don’t like a whole week’s timetable. And plan for lunch school take away.

* Don’t be tempted to only plan for your children… Plan for yourself too. Sort your cloths for the week too. Iron… Iron so you don’t go looking scruffy to the office.

* Remember to pack your bag. Pack your ID card, credit card, key card… All the cards… You know what I mean. You know women change bags to match their outfit each time. It can be so annoying to find out that your driver’s license is in the hand bag you used yesterday just when Road safety or patrol police stop you while driving through town.

* If you can make a list of what needs to get done on Monday… Office stuff and home chores.

Now how in heavens name is one suppose to enjoy a peaceful Sunday with all these?!!
Yaayi… Life must go on but take time out to still relax. Have a great Monday and start of the week.img_20170129_124752

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Story from the Corner of a Street: Regret & Weeping

STORY FROM THE STREETSSometimes you meet people, they look happy but at the core of their soul and heart something in their past hurts really badly. Things they wish had been, some things they wish never should have happened; all the Ifs hurt. I found myself caught on the corner of a street in a neighborhood I would only visit for field assignments.

It was on one of such call to duty that I met this woman who obviously managed to get by in her meager business. Here was this very energetic, funny and happy woman I was interviewing about her family. She burst into tears right in the middle of our interview chat…my recorder was still on…I simply stopped and wrapped my arms around her saying every words of comfort that came to my heart at that moment. It took a while before she calmed down.

What was this middle aged woman weeping about?

While growing up as a child her parents got separated. It wasn’t the typical court divorce, her mum just her dad for whatever reasons her little mind could not grasp. She had to live with her dad but wasn’t really happy because he married another woman and it was an uncomfortable environment for her. Sometime later her mum showed up and a fight broke out between her dad and mum over who should have custody of her. She wanted badly to stay with her mother and she cried until her dad angrily sent her to her mum. He refused to sponsor her education since she chose to stay with her mum who could not afford sending her to school. She could only get a primary education…these was the point where she busted into tears…

What I saw in her eyes beyond her words & tears:
She shook her head and stared at me her interviewer.
Her eyes said I could have been educated like you
My life would have been better today if only my parents tried to put me first.
Her body shook with pains as she cried out loud saying, “I really wanted to go to school”

It felt awkward but I felt her pain. I wish I could turn back the hand of the clock to right the wrong of not allowing her to go to school. I could only give her hope that the future could be bright. In my words, “your past doesn’t have to determine your future; you can still make it; you would still succeed; getting an education is still possible; God can still beautify your life”.

Finally she stopped crying and wiped her tears as I held her close. I do not take this encounter for granted. It was a privilege to share the pain of this woman who saw me as someone that represented what she could have had. I was educated; she wasn’t….NOT SO FAIR!

Every Girl, Every child deserve to go to school and be educated properly.
Adebisi Adetunji ©