Yes, it’s great for companies, organizations and businesses to create an atmosphere that enhances productivity and make profits but there is something more... What safety measures are in place at your work place or organization?
Managers need to monitor and ensure that safety measures that have been put in place are followed and sustained.
This video was inspired by a recent event in our family. A close relative, a dear sister and her husband lost their baby just few days ago to a negligence at the little girl’s day care/creche. I am dedicating this piece to #MojolaJesu.
Amidst our deep sadness and broken hearts I decided to challenge everyone to the very essential need of putting in place #Safety and #SecurityMeasures at the work place or business. All the money in the world can not buy a life! Don’t wait until someone gets hurt.
One other thing, hands hired to take care of babies need to be qualified and experienced. Those saddled with the responsibility of monitoring and ensuring compliance should do so with commitment.
Adebisi Adetunji (C) Broadcast Journalist, Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – email@example.com
In the past week news about the murder of a 50year old man named Mr. Otike Odibi lingered in my heart. His wife, Udeme Odibi, killed him, stabbing him several times and even severing his genitals. Forgive this disturbing description. I cannot seem to wrap my head around this?!!
Why would a woman do this to her husband; someone she loves?!Don’t give me that line about him violating or physically abusing her and therefore her actions were carried out in defense. This is simply unacceptable and inhumane!
No one whether man or woman should have to be a victim of gender-based violence or domestic violence.
I actually followed the story and there are different versions of the incidence which I will like to mention for the purpose of this post. An earlier report when the news of the incidence broke siad that, the couple had an argument about Mr. Otike Odibi ‘s Will. He had made his only daughter from an earlier marriage the beneficiary of his Will and the new wife Udeme won’t have it that way.
The latest update on the story according to police investigation revealed that the couple had issues bordering on infidelity. Udeme complained about her husband having extramarital affairs to family members on the day the unfortunate incidence happened. It was a pre-meditated murder!
Writing about this makes me really sad. I want to challenge our mindsets as women. This story is one out of other couples stories of women who beat, harm or killed their husbands. Have we become as mean and heartless as women?
If a man is cheating on you…Leave if you cannot find a way to stop the circle.
If a man is physically assaulting you…you have the option of leaving instead of allowing someone to bring the animal in you out to the fore.
If it is money issue and the desire to secure a better financial standing, please who says you have to be dependent on your husband. Work, save and invest your own money!
The desperation to keep your man has to stop woman! Suspicion only breeds more trouble; you lose your peace of mind and are always in a tensed mood. How is that living?! This morning I was reading a post that talks about each one of us been responsible for our own HAPPINESS! Your husband or man is not responsible for your happiness, you are!
Never allow others in your life to carry the burden of your happiness; No human being is faultless.
So if something is wrong or not working in your relationship, there are ways to go about resolving it instead of ending the life of another human being. Where does that leave you? Doing this takes your own freedom and life away.
Seek counseling from the right people when you have relationship issues. Don’t listen to those who would advise you not to “take sh*t” from anyone. By that they mean hit back, fight dirty…
Women, we cannot be advocating against gender-based violence been perpetrated by men when we are becoming the guilty assailant too. “, “What is good for the gander is good for the goose, please. Udeme happens to be a lawyer who knows what the law says. She is educated and has ways of fighting for her right without getting physical! Was it a one minute or moment of insanity? I really don’t know but seriously this has to STOP!
Women don’t let anything or anyone push you so hard that you become inhuman. Remember you are responsible for your actions and there are consequences.
Say No to all forms of Gender Based Violence.
Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer
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It is a thing of joy for all family members when a new baby arrives.Grandmas and Grandpas do dance steps that had been hidden away for a long time. As soon as news of the birth of a child reaches older parents plans are made for the grand mummy to go and help nurse mother and the newborn. Sometimes a grandma goes to the home of her son and daughter-in-law vice versa before the arrival of the baby.
The baby becomes a center of attention and shared joyful moments between daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law. They forget their differences and celebrate the new member of the family for a while. But soon the different approach to raising and nursing a child begins to cause a clash. The grandma who has a generation of experience insists on throwing the baby up during bath time and the young mother screams and says, “mama that’s dangerous, please don’t throw my baby up!”😨. The grandma under her glasses😎 if she is wearing one looks at the young mother like, “hey young lady, that’s how I did it with your husband, my son and he is still alive for you to marry!”😒. Grandma also wants to give the baby some local herbs to help make him or her strong, the young mother and father go like, “mama, that can damage the intestine of our baby”! Now grandma is getting frustrated and feeling misunderstood.
The other problem between Grandmas and new mothers when babysitting their newborn is the issue of cooking. Some grandmas want breakfast as early as 7am, an in-between snack before lunch and dinner making a foursquare meal. Guess who has to prepare the meals? The new mother who is still recovering from the herculean task of delivering a 3.7kg baby and God help her if it was not a Caesarean section delivery. So the young mother spends a sleepless night breastfeeding her baby but has to also get up to prepare mama’s food and the type of meal is the one she will properly have to pound yam for mama! Don’t get me wrong, having a baby does not mean that a woman can no longer prepare meals but hey, a new mother needs all the rest she can get!! Some mums a few weeks after delivery end up breaking down and others even land in the hospital…this is not acceptable.
Grandma when you go to the home of your son or daughter to help nurse a baby be prepared to be patient, help a little extra beyond just helping to carry a well-dressed fine looking baby after his or her bath in the morning.
Apart from the stress of preparing meals and going to the market to get the ingredient house chores is another matter of concern when a grandma comes to help nurse a newborn. Now this time I am on the grandmas’ side. Some young couples think that since mama is around to help nurse her grandchild she must be ready to do more than her fair share of house chores. Some grandmas simply because they are willing and some don’t want to say no sometimes are made to do the dishes, washcloths, cook, hold the baby at night so the mother can sleep…hmmm very soon grandma will fall ill and all of you will be running in and out of the hospital. I once told one of my siblings who had just had a baby one time to get help when our mum goes to help with nursing their baby. I told her point blank, “mummy is old and cannot be the one doing all your house chores oooo”!“We cannot have her breaking down”, I added.
Our older parents are not slaves so please get an extra hand to help with your house chores when grandma comes to help nurse your baby.
Grandmas are not as agile as they once used to be, making them do all your house chores is an abuse. This not to say they cannot help around the house. They can cook and do whatever else catches their fancy but do not abuse your aged who has come to help you nurse your baby. So grandmas and new nursing mothers balance is the key here…and please be patient with each other.
Hello my feminine clanwhether you prefer to be called a lady or woman, I missed you and this time we do share together. It has been twoq weeks now since we chatted on the “woman to woman talk” series. Please pardon me I have had to put a few things in place. But hey grab a chair and let’s talk.
Today’s gist centers around something I observe and find annoying while driving around town.
Is it just me or have you ever noticed it too. Why is it that when we, women want to buy something by the road side we don’t park properly? I am talking about my fellow Nigerian women oooo! Often a woman just steps on her car break as soon as she sees something she wants to buy, parking almost in the middle of the road. Soon other car owners will begin to honk behind her; it is simply not a pleasant sight. Please dear fellow woman/ Lady Park well when you need to buy something beside the road.
In other countries you will end up paying a fine for obstructing traffic. So please be civilized and considerate of others while driving on the road. I mean follow the rules of driving girl….
Are you guilty of not parking properly and stopping to buy something by the road side? What’s your view about this? Share your thoughts… 😀😀
In every business transaction or deal, one would expect to make a profit. And profits are the rewards of a person’s hard work and investment in a business or project. These days I am privileged to witness some nemesis or should I say rewards of delaying or not delaying making profit.
In offices, businesses, organizations or wherever there are human beings, some people are not ready to delay making profits on their job. People are anxious to make a quick extra buck/money so they would do anything to fill their pockets. They call it smart ways of making money.
How many corners are you willing to cut to make extra money? You might want to go slow and steady to win your race in an honest way.
The honest way always looks slow and is filled with a lot of uncertainty about whether you will ever get to succeed or make enough money. One thing I know for sure it pays.
This is what happens when you cheat your way to the top/acquire money and properties:
• Somebody is heart broken
• Somebody dies because you are greedy and he/she doesn’t get the much needed meager money to survive another day.
• You sow a seed of pain that you will reap a harvest from.
• The law of Karma(what you sow is what you reap) eventually catches up with you.
Good old honesty is the way of peace and prosperity.
I don’t get it when people steal or amass so much wealth as they can through denying others their entitlement.How do you explain a group of people who manage a cooperative loan on behalf of their colleagues at work and they make others pay in triple interests? They spread their own personal loan repayment on others. I hear this group of people did a lot to short change others but recently their luck ran out. Somebody blew the whistle on them and today they have been sacked after “20-30years meritorious service”. Hmmm, I have also been privileged to watch some high and mighty leaders who short changed their work place and co-workers just to make extra money to be kept away in the name of securing their future. A few months or barely a year after retiring from work they begin to feel the heat of dwindling funds and even start to beg around for money. On the other hand, those who worked honestly and seem to be the “not sharp guys” become more comfortable after retirement.
Good old honesty still works. Delay that profit, wait, time will deliver your peaceful success and blessings to you.
Yeah… It is that time again when we talk about our own matter as women.
A story that mirrors what I want to talk about comes to mind. It was back in my day at the university there was this lady from church that I know. I will call her Martha. She had this gloomy air around her all the time. Martha had this sad face and she was rarely friendly with people. Everyone was like, “what is this woman’s problem?! Including yours sincerely, me. So we avoided her as best as we could but after a while I was curious so I started to investigate her issue… Call it Aproko or being nosey. I simply had to know and in my detective work 😁 *wink* I found out that Martha had been jilted by a guy whom she thought was serious about settling down to a life time commitment in marriage with her.
Martha was hurting I could see and I empathized with her seriously. Here is the real gist:
Her Prince charming had been dotting on her taking her out on a number of dates.Martha assumed that all the time spent together in each other’s company meant that he really wanted to be with her. One day this man showed up with a wedding card invitation! Martha’s world spun and she was devastated. Her man was only enjoying her company but never wanted it to go beyond this. His defense was this– “But I never proposed marriage to you”. But he had been eating good home made meals at her place. He had also been taking her out to eateries and everyone thought they were an item together before he dropped the bomb shell of not been interested.
The crux of the matter here lady:You have to be emotionally smart! If a guy possibly even your very good friend begins to spend more time than necessary with you then you need to ask point blank, where the relationship is going. Define such a relationship so you don’t get your high hope of having found love dashed.
You have to be emotionally smart!
So lady, do not allow your emotions to overrule good judgment. Protect yourself by being emotionally intelligent. I am not saying you should not have friends or be too defensive when dealing with men in your life. Be friendly but wise. Stop wearing your heart on your sleeve. Don’t jump to a conclusion that the guy who is doting all over you really wants to take the relationship further.
Don’t jump to a conclusion that the guy who is doting all over you really wants to take the relationship further.
And you need to understand that some men test the waters. By this I mean they have you and probably two or three other ladies in mind… Not funny but it happens.
In case your heart has been broken once or more times than you can count hey hugs from me. You will rise and find love again. Do not stop your life because of a heart break. Cry and allow yourself to heal.
Your scars should not keep hurting you for the rest of life. Let them be a reminder of how you have grown and become better. Your scars can lead to good and great testimonies.
What is Your View about Not Working as a Woman and the man pays all the bills?
Women stay at home not employed in a 9-5 job for various reasons. Some want to give time to nursing and caring for their babies and children until they are old enough. This is a great investment and noble role in my opinion.
A category of non- working mothers/women are the ones who do not engage in any business or at least a work from home kind of job because your Excellency the husband says he does not want them to work.The man is wealthy and has a good paying job so he believes he can take care of his wife and family. And my dear woman stays put waiting for her man to bring home the goodies every day. Fantastic but watch it!
Once upon a time, a rich man tells his wife to be a stay at home wife and allow him to take care of her every need. At first, she agreed but soon the entrepreneur in her woke up. She loved to bake and does catering job so she convinced him to allow her to start her own business. It was tough convincing him but she went ahead anyway. A few years down the line the men died and guess what? His family members came karting away all the man’s properties and estate. This dear woman only smiled as she was financially buoyant to care for herself and children. Her business had expanded and it was thriving well. Imagine if she had stayed at home doing nothing as his Excellency her husband wishes.
In case you are thinking this is far-fetched another couple’s story from a different angle might convince you. This time the man had a high paying job and they were really comfortable. However, he encouraged his wife to pursue her business dream and even invested money in helping her expand her business. A few years later he lost his job and this family survived for a season on the wife’s business before he got another job.
There are women who do not even want to work or do any business. This I find amusing and I also keep my fingers cross to see the day trouble will arrive at their door in the name of poverty/hard times. Some women are the ones stopping themselves from working or pursing any business goal and not their husbands. I know of men who set up their wife’s business several times as she keeps ruining it because she believes that there is enough money in his pocket to keep feeding them for a long time. Each time he invests in a business for her she sinks it through negligence and laziness.
Let me share a few things that could happen with that arrangement of not harnessing your skill or engaging in work:
• You become frustratedhaving to depend on your man for every purchase and financial needs.
• You lose your independence somehow.
• The man soon becomes cranky having to deal with and give you money even for minute things. Soon he begins to lash out even when it is unintentional.
• Tension over money matters.
• If something goes wrong with your man’s business, job or source of income you are all in a BIG FINANCIAL MESS.
Benefit of Work to a Woman
Work for you as a woman goes beyond just earning money. It gives you a sense of fulfillment.
Work gives you a channel to use your skill and contribute your quota as a human being to society.
Work gives you an opportunity to make your dreams come true.
When I say work I do not necessarily mean an office job. Whatever you do using your talent, time and skills to make a living is your work.
So get off your butt and get to work. Do something Woman!
There is no prototype way or formula for getting hooked up to the right man to spend the rest of your life with. And there is also nothing wrong with sizing up the man that you want to share the rest of your life with. However it is possible to over- do things and what I want to talk about today bothers on attitudes that can end up chasing away eligible bachelors.
1. Some of us ladies have a caustic tongue and we are so quick to lash out at anyone who crosses our part.I want to paint a picture. Say you are the chief executive of a notable organization and an old male friend whom you grew up with is doing a menial job. You meet in church or a club group every now and then. Sometimes you get to chat with this male acquaintance and with the way he is hanging around you, you sense he has his eyes on you. In your heart, you are like don’t even go there, young man!! Why? Well for so many reasons such as his grammar is not as polished as you would like; he has no dress sense and he laughs too loudly for your comfort whenever you are having a group conversation plus he is not a six pack physically endowed kind of guy. So this “ungentle and ill- mannered guy asks you out on a date and then you go rolling your eyes giving him a peace of your mind. All you are trying to say is, “you look me well before you open your mouth”. Meaning look guy we are not on the same level!
And the young man is so embarrassed and has difficulty approaching any other lady for a long while. Please, sisters/ladies, be civil and polite when turning down a date or that I want to marry you kind of request. In my opinion, any man/guy who asks you out is paying you a compliment. It means you are desirable and wanted even if he is not your type in a quote. Then seriously put yourself in the shoes of the man in question.
Why does this matter? Because in your hurry to dismiss all the men who are not your type in a shabby way you might just miss THE ONE man who might just be the man that you dreamed of. I am not saying settle for just any man simply because you are looking for love and marriage but simply saying BE POLITE and KIND. One day it will pay off. Treat others the way you will like to be treated.
2. Another thing I will like to add here is that if there is a man/guy whom you actually like or are interested in and he asks you out don’t keep him waiting for too long. Ok in my Christian circle a man proposes to you as we say and you go praying over whether to say yes for the next one or two years! Seriously you should know whether he is what you will settle for or not as quickly as possible and move on. We, women, tend to play the wooing game. It’s ok to want the man to sweat it for a while so you satisfy the need to feel very “pricy” but stop wasting your own time and that of the man. My advice once you know this is the man for you quit playing around and say YES before he moves on thinking that he has no chance with you. And then you go crying that he did not love you enough to wait. My point ladies attitude matters. Also be simple and honest with yourself know what you want and say YES it doesn’t make you cheap!
3. If you are looking for a perfect man…there is no such thing as a perfect gentleman; that is overrated.What do I mean? Watch that perfect gentleman when he is watching a football game he loves or gets in a heated argument over something that upsets him…get the picture? You don’t need a perfect man but a good, honest, hardworking, God fearing man. Guess what? You are far from being perfect yourself.
So be down to earth, stop living in that fairy tale land.
4. Have you been badly hurt or disappointed by a past relationship or experience? This does not have to define your future happiness unless you allow it. Not all men are bad. There is still someone out there who will treat you right. Stop punishing yourself, open your heart and pray. Good love will find you again.
I remember an election in Nigeriaat 2011, PDP convention where the party voted to nominate their presidential nominee. Sarah Jibril, the only woman aspirant got only ONE VOTE and that was her own vote!I looked at all the women with head gears and the elitist women who were party card carrying members who had campaigned that more women should be allowed to handle more seats in the political arena of the Country and shook my head.
None of them voted for this fellow woman…rather sad in my opinion. Sometimes I think we are only playing lip service to our cry and desire to give more women a chance.
How can we get more women into leadership positions when we cannot support one another as women?We are territorial and operate a pull her down syndrome once it is not us that is vying for a post.
Often we gossip about each other pinpointing only the bad side to other women. You will hear things like, “who does she think she is?” “Is she the only one?” “I can do it better than her”. And guess who we are babbling this castigation to? The MEN O! How can they ever take us seriously?
If a fellow sister is occupying an office or has what it takes to handle that position support her. In the office some of us women will be unserious or lazy in carrying out the duties of our job. Then we will expect this boss woman to turn the other eye or we simply say, “But she should understand now, Is she not a woman too?! Since when has been a woman become an excuse not to do your job and then you want the men to give us a chance to handle things! Come on, women let’s wake up. Give your best shot at your job and stand out. I know we have to attend to other things in our lives but seriously stop making excuses; stop being lazy and get on with doing your job well. When you do really have to be excused from work let it be noted that something must really be wrong.
If a fellow sister is occupying an office or has what it takes to handle that position support her.
Then this one gets to me. Two women in an office, they are either bosses or colleagues if you like and then they have a misunderstanding …hehehe…work don stop be dat o!
Girl you really need to draw the line between carrying out the duties of your job and personal grouse.If there is a problem face the issue. Be matured enough and be the first to initiate sorting out the problem so that your work can go smoothly. You don’t have to be best of friends with everyone but you can be cordial/friendly after all we all have something we do those other people do not like about us. So stop keeping malice already and get on with your job.
You don’t have to be best of friends with everyone but you can be cordial/friendly after all we all have something we do that others do not like about us.
It is time to support one another as women; Time to change that style of pull her down syndrome; Time to see the good in other women.
Adebisi Adetunji (C)
Shout out to my girls who posed for the photo of this post. Abimbola Idowu & Ifeoluwa Akindele. Love you!!
Hello ladies. How have you been since the last time we talked? Remember this is a conversation and you have an opportunity to say just how you feel about what we discuss here.
I want to take you back a little to the days when you were in the University/College. Yes, I lived in the dormitory for the girls and lots of drama took place. Some roommates fought each other; the nightlife of “Aristoles” who made our car parks their haven every night. Often you would see a girl or two hopping into a car and they zoom off to show up in the early hours of the next day. My gist today is not about “Aristoles”(Older men dating girls) but about how we ladies use our toilet. Or better still how we dispose of our used sanitary towels.
I used to be appalled by the sight in our female toilet. The annoying drama is that sometimes our Water Closet gets blocked when girls try to flush their pad down the toilet. The disgusting one is the blood stained sanitary that you find lying on the bare floor for others to behold. Really annoying and irritating! You know this attitude permeates not just our campuses but also every other place you find women. In the office toilet, public toilet and even religious building toilets!
So here is the thing ladies/women we really must work on disposing of our sanitary towels properly.
A good Hygiene and cleanliness are good habits to imbibe.
How to properly dispose of your used Sanitary Towel:
My mother taught me how to neatly wrap each used sanitary towel before disposing of it in a dustbin.
You may choose to have old newspapers handy during your mensuration. So whether you are home or going out to work or wherever, fold as much paper you will need in a small paper bag or cellophane bag and put it in your handbag. I mean it looks neat when you dispose of a wrapped used sanitary towel in the toilet dustbin. It is really uncomfortable and irritating seeing all those blood stained pads in the bin.
Some people choose to wrap theirs in a cellophane bag and burn them later. Your choice.
While at home as well please stop throwing your used sanitary towel all over the place. That is definitely been dirty and unhygienic.
There is no point to looking all classy, beautiful and sweet on the outside and then you are dirty in the toilet!
Please teach your daughter and girls you come in contact with how to neatly dispose of their used sanitary towel.