Speeches & Sounds by “The Dew” – Catching them Young

I was part of a Speech and Sound competition for Students organized by Adewunmi Aluko, we call her “the Dew”. This dear friend and sister is passionate about helping young people to pronounce, speak boldly and correctly the English language. It is also aimed at boosting the self-confidence of children. For my dear friend the Dew, it is giving back to society using her skills as a speech coach, presenter and news reader. Now she wants to catch them young.

I was reminded of my vowel and consonant sounds today even as an adult. See the drama unfold as students tried to pronounce words and make sounds… Hehehe try me and you will understand that It is not easy o!
Kudos to all the participating schools and children. It was fun and intense.

Photos from the event which took place at the Institute of African Studies University of Ibadan:

American Christian Home School Students
Deril Academy School
Aunty Mary’s Head Start School.
Living Spring School
A cross section of students participating in the speeches & sound competition
Panel of Judges comprising of speech coaches & Quiz master: Earnest Odirri, Chinelo Obidike, wunmi Aluko.
Some of the school girls taking a selfie with Wunmi Aluko and me… Girl power!
Panel of judges – Stella Oyebanji, Ernest and Chinelo
We didn’t forget to take a selfie with the boys. They are very dear to our hearts too😀💓

Contact Wunmi Aluko for speech & sound training for students & teachers; for anyone or group who wishes to speak right and sound confident. 080126262814. 

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Building Confidence in your Girl/Child

Tell her you love her
Hug her/him often
Don’t shut her up when she asks so many questions

Tell her she is beautiful, gorgeous and unique
Celebrate her uniqueness     ololade
Spend time together doing silly things
Be her friend and listen to her stories

Never make fun of what is important to her even when it sounds silly.
Believe in her , you can never over do it telling her how special she is

Let her know that it is ok to sometimes fail
Let her know that life can sometimes be tough but she has what it takes to conquer

Let her know that she is not less special just because others say or think so
Tell her she can do anything she sets her heart to do
Let her know that she can be anything she dreams of being.

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Tell her often that the world is waiting for her to make a difference.
Let her know that she is fearfully and wonderfully made.

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Daring to get into an oversized Shoe

 

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She looked at her mummy on heels and giggled. Her little mind said:

“This mummy’s shoes makes such nice sound …”ko,ko, ka”. I must wear them”.

It was play time and there was mummy’s shoes sitting comfortably on the shoe rack. Giggling and laughing she raises her little hands and down came the shoes thudding on the ground. Her little feet enters the shoes…

“Yeeeh at last, i am wearing mummy’s shoes”!!!

Mummy seeing her little girl in her shoes shock her head smiling and saying to herself:

“The young shall grow”.

Do you remember your play time as a child? I did try both my dad and my mum’s shoes on my little feet. Imagine trying to walk in them…hee…hee. Yes…i stumbled and fell a few times but my little mind said i am winning this battle of fitting into an oversized shoe! 🙂

Leadership and Responsibilities: Sometimes you have to wear an oversized shoes. Like a little child you might stumble and fall but don’t give up. Soon your feet will fit the shoes.

This post was inspired by Daily Prompt: Daring

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Shela’s Dad had a Frown on his Face

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Wehena stared down at me and smiled. I tried to get up but dizziness engulfed me. She gave me a hot potion to drink from a calabash and told me to rest because I was with child. Shivering and in shock, I suddenly remembered what had happened between Manya and I the night before.

At last, I was going to have a child, now my husband would love me dearly, now the gossips would stop. Day by day my baby grew and Manya walked tall in the village. Wehena, brought food for me every now and then; she was proud that her first grandchild was on the way. We all looked forward to the arrival of this child. Finally the day came.

Manya held the baby smiling but there was a sad line around the corner of his mouth. We celebrated and named her, Shela . A few days later Mama visited me to shower some love on her first grandchild. She asked me about a scar she saw on my face, I told her it was just a farm work injury. Then she said, “Tarra, I hope you get pregnant soon again”. I laughed. “Come on mama Shela, is just a few days old, and I’m still healing up”. She smiled and told me that a woman can only earn respect and show the strength of her husband when she gives him a son. I had seen the shadow cross Manya’s face as he held his daughter the day she was born.

Excerpt from my short story, “Face in the Mirror”.

Every child  boy or girl is a great gift.

Many girls lift and hold the hands of their fathers at old age

Gender does not determine strength.

Photo Credit: Angry father Stock Photos

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

When was the Last time you enjoyed your holiday?

The Summer holidays are here for school children, it’s a long one and parents have to think of creative ways to engage their wards. All over the city, bill boards advertising summer coaching, summer extra-curricular of all sorts. Seriously I think we are been very unfair to our kids. They had worked so hard during the school year and instead of allowing them to enjoy their holiday we put them in our cars and drop them off at another school coaching again!!!

I don’t know about you my children have a different idea about how they want to spend their holiday. Here is what they did on a visit to their grandparents  place. It was cousins time out building a house….

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Allow your kids to have a memorable childhood…like this

It was time to build in the middle of grandpa’s bird houses…turkey, chicken and ducks

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Two turkeys strolling together…Friendship bond

Testing the strength of our leaf thatched house

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Checking if our house is roomy enough to sleep in.

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Have a fun filled summer holiday and weekend!!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

A worrisome Protest/Trend

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Students protesting in Oyo State

Friday the 3rd of June, 2016 was just another day and it had been a busy one at work for me. So here I was exhausted and on my way home. I carried my hand bag on one shoulder and my lap top bag with all my working tools heavily on the other shoulder. I matched down the stairs walking all the way from the third floor. Just when I stepped outside; I caught a glimpse of secondary school students marching towards my office building in a protest. This was a warning sign that something was seriously wrong…I mean I can’t remember the last time students in secondary school took to the streets in protest. So I had to wait a while to be sure it was even safe to step outside the gate even though their grievance was not targeted towards me or other people on the street.

Finally they gathered at the gate and angry chants about the  new state government policy to have a public-private ownership of some of their schools (Public schools). These children felt that their parents would not be able to afford the fees when this policy goes through. In fact many of their parents who work in the public service have not been paid their salaries for months. And rightly so in my own opinion this new policy would definitely affect the number of children of low income earners who gets the privilege of been educated.

This protest was to be the first one, as on Monday the 6th June, 2016 more students joined the protest. This time some leaders of the Nigerian Labour Congress(NLC), Oyo state chapter where in custody of the Police over an alleged disruption of a stakeholders meeting held with concerned government officials on the matter of the new policy. As far as a number of people were concerned it was simply an attempt by government to shelve their responsibility towards the people on education.

The protest became somewhat destructive as students were alleged to have attacked some government buildings. Right now Public Schools in the state have been closed down to prevent further escalation of the conflict.

It is worrisome that half the time the school year calendar timetable  of public schools are disrupted and  spent dealing with one crisis or the other between the state government and teachers or Labour Union. Pupils supposed to be in school are loafing around and getting engaged in truancy.

How did we even get here? The question is,  do we want “our children” to really get an education?  Our founding fathers left legacies that we are still all benefiting from, why can’t  we consolidate on providing something much better.

I look at many institutions that had been established over many decades,  structures of these buildings have endured the test of time over the years. Ask our generation and those that are behind to construct an institution that is meant to serve generations yet unborn and we come up with buildings that soon begin to crumble/crash.

Education is one non -negotiable legacy we must continue to give to generation after generation. It should be made affordable and accessible to all. Children should be in school and not on the streets protesting!

Which way Oyo State? Would our public schools become in-affordable to many children and their parents? It is not about what is convenient but about making the right sacrifice now so that we can have a better future.

All Children matter; no matter their level in the social strata

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Girls Should not Command Boys?!

As we mark another International Girl child day, this drama in my home comes to mind. I’d like to share it with you again.

This years theme: Girls Progress= Goals Progress- What Counts for Girls

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Siblings quarreling

It was a week day and we just came home from work and school. I decided to take a few minutes to rest on the couch in the living room before heading for the kitchen. My kids dropped their school bags in the room and shortly they emerged having an argument as usual. I looked up and wondered what the sibling fight was about this time again. My son was pointing an accusing finger at his sister and she was challenging him as well. Out came these words repeatedly from my son’s lips:

“Girls should not command girls!”

I was caught off guard…while thinking to myself but many men answer to the command of my female bosses at work. In a split second it dawned on me that my son was getting older and he is beginning to flex his male ego muscles. Where did the words, Girls should not command girls, come from I asked myself. He had just started secondary school (High school) and he definitely is beginning to mingle and learn from the other boys at school I thought.

Well I had to intervene in the siblings quarrel by asking them both to keep quiet. Then i asked my son why he thought girls should not command boys. I decided not to be quick in judging the statement to be another stereotyped way of viewing girls or the female gender. It turned out that he felt his sister always commanded him to do things even though he was older than her. He felt she wasn’t respecting him enough. I laughed but took his concern seriously. Of course they are my children and I am aware that my girl was out spoken and finds it easy to express her opinion. Often times she tends to override him but we try to remind her to show some respect for her older brother. So again on this day I reminded her and she had this naughty smile on her face as usual.

I couldn’t pass the opportunity to teach my son the lesson of not thinking that girls or women should be subservient to boys or men.

However I couldn’t pass the opportunity to teach my son the lesson of not thinking that girls or women should be subservient to boys or men. Boys are not better than girls and vice-visa. I explained to him that boys and girls should treat each other with respect. In the end they both agreed with me to show some respect for each other but I knew that I would soon be settling another sibling quarrel over something else that is inconsequential. It never ends until they are fully grown and come to cherish each other more.

Boys and Girls should treat each other with respect.

I thought that was the end of the matter on boys and girls superiority but it wasn’t yet over. It so happened that their grandma was present while I was giving my kids this lesson. She tried to explain to me why she believed men are supposed to be “head over women”. I smiled understanding where she was coming from. Ok from the Biblical point of view a man is the head of his home meaning that he should take responsibility for what goes on in his family. This does not mean that a man is better than the woman; this does not mean that a woman cannot have a brilliant and better idea in decision making; this does not mean that it is a taboo for a woman to occupy a leadership role. Boy or girl, woman or man none is better than the other. We are all equals as humans.

It is not a taboo for a woman to occupy a leadership position

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Happy sibling moment

Every child matters: Invest in girls health, safety, education and rights – in times of peace and crisis (UN)

So my final take on this is, each boy or girl; man or woman has being endowed with different abilities and gifts; let’s create room for both sexes to flourish. Let us begin to teach this lesson of respecting the opposite sex and treating each other right from our homes then gender inequality will not be an issue in the next generation of adults.

Let’s create room for both sexes to flourish especially girls.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)