FORCE-FEEDING BABIES A DANGEROUS PRACTICE

Photo Credit – Motherhoodinstyle.com

Parents love their babies and want to see the newborn grow as is expected. Thank God for the campaign of exclusive breastfeeding of children for up to six months which has made many mothers to at least wait and push up to 4 months before introducing regular foods. According to the Child Rights Act, every child has a right to adequate nutrition however feeding should not constitute a danger to a child.

In developing countries and in Nigeria where I come from, it is the practice to try to force food down food especially pap (corn or cereal pudding) or any other liquid meal down the throat of a baby who is perceived to have a low appetite. It is done in the bid to ensure that the child is not starving and gets the required nutrient for his/her development. This is a good intention but the act of force-feeding has led to fatal incidences where food enters into the trachea/lungs and air flow is blocked. Such a baby begins to choke and gasp for breath if he/she does not get quick medical attention; it has led to the death of such an infant.

A case in point, my sister-in-law on the 2nd of May 2019, dropped her baby at the crèche of the school where she worked as a teacher as usual and looked forward to seeing her little girl later in the day but it was not to be so. A distress call came too late after the nanny at the school crèche had forced fed little, Mojolajesu, my sister-in-law’s 10 months old baby. I was at working when I got the news that the baby had been rushed on emergency to two different hospitals. Mojolajesu did not make it. The doctors diagnosed the cause of death to be as a result of food getting into her trachea. Her parents were devastated; we are all very broken hearted.

And so here I am writing this post and possibly championing a little campaign both on the traditional and social media urging everyone and disabusing minds about the practice of force-feeding babies. Since this personal incidence with my Mojolajesu, I have heard countless stories of babies who choked and almost died while been force-fed and some others were not so lucky. Also in this month of May 2019, a nanny was sentenced to 15years jail time because she force-fed a baby who also died. 

How Force-feeding is done

If you are not familiar with what this practice means and how it is done, let me try to paint a picture. When a grandma, nanny or anyone wants to force feed a baby, he/she will be held tightly and closely to control any struggle or resistance from the child.

Next, a hand will be cupped around the baby/child’s mouth then his or her nose will be blocked with a finger or so to prevent the liquid from getting into the nostrils and force the baby to breathe through the mouth. After that, the pap or cereal pudding will be poured into the cupped hand as the baby’s mouth is forced to be opened. I have watched scenes like this while growing up; it is not a pleasant sight. Such a baby will be crying and fighting to get free and the food will be sliding down his or her throat as the baby struggles and gasp for air. THIS SHOULD NOT BE! IT IS AN ABUSE AND MUST STOP!

Some children naturally have a good appetite and eat well, however, it is not so with some other children. The first daughter of my sister fell into this category; as a growing child, she didn’t eat much and her mum and dad were so worried. So this little girl only wanted to take tea and biscuits, therefore, she was thin. Loads of advice came in from other mothers, friends and the older ones on steps to take to ensure that my niece improves on her eating habit. Vitamins to boost her appetite were also used but this little girl won’t just budge. My niece would refuse any other food or take the barest minimum. Now she is older and the other day I visited their home and my ears were filled with a gist about how she now has a big appetite for food! It was sure nice to see this change in her. One thing I appreciated about my sister was that she did not allow anyone to bully or force her baby to eat. She would pet her little girl and go the extra mile to prepare different meals, testing which ones her daughter took a liking to. All that entire time the little girl only needed someone to be patient with her and soon her eating habits changed.

Think of it this way, would you as an adult want someone to force food down your throat just because you do not have the appetite for food at a certain time? I am sure it is a firm NO…NO for you. So then we should not force food down the throat of our babies, children no matter how good the intentions are. It is harmful and dangerous!

As a Mother ensure the safety of your baby/child. Do not allow anyone to force feed him or her!

A pediatrician Ms. Okietmute Olibamoyo from the College of Medicine, Lagos University in an interview with News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) advised mothers to stop the habit of force-feeding their babies to avoid accidental suffocation. She advised mothers to change their pattern of preparing their baby/child’s food if the baby is not eating well.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Broadcast Journalist, Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

Safety Measures at the Work Place – Do Something Before Someone Gets Hurt

Yes,  it’s great for companies, organizations and businesses to create an atmosphere that enhances productivity and make profits but there is something more... What safety measures are in place at your work place or organization?

Managers need to monitor and ensure that safety measures that have been put in place are followed and sustained.

This video was inspired by a recent event in our family. A close relative, a dear sister and her husband lost their baby just few days ago to a negligence at the little girl’s day care/creche. I am dedicating this piece to #MojolaJesu.

Amidst our deep sadness and broken hearts I decided to challenge everyone to the very essential need of putting in place #Safety and #SecurityMeasures at the work place or business. All the money in the world can not buy a life! Don’t wait until someone gets hurt.

One other thing,  hands hired to take care of babies need to be qualified and experienced. Those saddled with the responsibility of monitoring and ensuring compliance should do so with commitment.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Broadcast Journalist, Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

Less Can Be More – How to Prevent Burnout

We all get caught up in our busy lives. In fact the 21st century answer to being productive and successful is to be overtly busy. I bet you have a long list of your to dos this week again! Take a look at it again… Here is one way to avoid a burnout. Don’t add to the statistics of those who suddenly slum and pass on.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Broadcast Journalist, Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

Natures Treats Cafe – A Place to Treat Yourself – A No Sugar & Preservative Organic Brand

My brother and his family came to Ibadan to visit my family. They were on a holiday tour as they had just left our home town where they went visiting Das and Mum.

We were so delighted to have them come over to our house and so a family time out and treat was organized sharply🙌💏😀.

Our trip took us to various places where the children had the blast of their time playing various games. Then the group took a trip to a restaurant to eat our local meal in Oyo State, Amala, Gbegiri and ewedu. Yummy!

My brother decided that we should visit one of our childhood friends, Ebunlomo Soloye(maiden name) now Mrs Akinwale  who had a Cafe in the Shoprite mall at Ring road, Ibadan. It will be a visit to remember… As we stepped into Ebun’s Natures Treats Cafe I was blown away by the esthetic and beauty that greeted us.

 

I thought it will just simply be a dash in and dash out visit but we were mesmerized with treats from Ebun’s menu.

These are food treats made from natural ingredients, no sugar and preservatives and aimed at helping people eat healthy even while out on a treat.

I am really proud of what this dear lady had made of herself as an entrepreneur committed to healthy treats. You simply must visit to know what I mean!! 😀😀

Watch this video on Natures Treats on Ebun’s Instagram page 

Ebun’s story and journey – How Natures Cafe came to birth:

Ebunoluwa Akinwale is a Wife, mum and lawyer by education and a wellness coach by Passion. She was able to successfully loose almost 40kg 6 years ago and kept it off and has helped a lot of others do same since she started her weightloss management company on the 1st of May 2013. She calls it her ministry as she is totally committed to the cause by teaching women the everyday tricks believing they are the focal point in the family and society. She recently opened her wellness cafe at The Palms Mall called Natures Treats….where all the treats we love are prepared healthier….No sugar or preservation or fat….right here in Ibadan. So in other words you get to eat your cake and have it. Ebun is also a public speaker , writer and big on empowerment. 

What to expect at Natures Treats Cafe:

  • Legendary Greek yoghurts made from fresh raw cow milk
  •  Yoghurt milk shakes
  • Lush smoothies
  • Natural freshly made juices
  •  Decadent dark chocolate fudge muffins
  •  Red velvet surprise, which actually leave people astounded to our tigernut varieties and fruitilicious zobo etc.
  • The kids are not left out as well as they can enjoy fun cake pops, cookies , hot chocolates, popsicles etc to keep them happy , entertained but totally healthy!
  • Breakfast is always a hit with waffles, pancakes, crepes, sandwiches 
  • Gourmet salad bar and much more.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) BusyBee Media for Social Change and development

Tuesday Musing: Stop Neglecting Yourself ;Take Care of You

It is easy to fix everything and everyone but yourself.

Remember to take time to relax.
Watch that fatigue; that tired and exhausting feeling.
Stop eating junk because you are too busy trying to meet deadlines.
If you break down life doesn’t stop because of you. So stop and take care of yourself.

How to take care of yourself

  • Eat right
  • Delegate duties/assignments
  • Go play golf, tennis or watch a movie if you like the work load can wait.
  • Rest and yes sleep is good and necessary to be able to perform optimally at your tasks.
  • CEO time to take a break; your company will not crash before you get back.
  • Spend quality fun time with family, friends and loved ones.

Build meaningful relationships now because that is all that will be important a few years from now.  

People slum and die often this days don’t add to the statistics.

Take care of yourself. 😀😀

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Water is Essential in Health Facilities – SafeMotherhood #6

 

I was at a Primary Health Center(PHC)  to join in on a community mobilization effort to sensitize people about Family Planning and its benefit to women’s health and poverty reduction organized by NURHI Ibadan. While the group gathered I decided to visit the toilet to ease the pressure in my bladder and I asked the nurse on duty to point me in the direction of the toilet. I  was told that there was no water and was advised to pee in the bush somewhere around the back of the health center outside. It wasn’t funny but I had to afterall I have been in rusettings before 😕

It is unthinkable to run a hospital with little or no water supply. Yet that is the case in many primary health centers serving communities in Nigeria. Having worked on a maternal and child health program (Abiye)  for more than five years now many of the PHC my team visited and worked with lack access to clean water. 

Imagine a pregnant woman in labor pains coming to deliver at a PHC where there is no water… 

A few PHC are lucky to have a well or get a bore hole sunk by philanthropist, politicians who need to shine. But most do not have access to clean water to attend to patients.
If there is no water in a facility patients and health workers alike are exposed to serious health hazards.

Water is necessary to keep a hospital environment clean and everyone in it safe and healthy. It’s availability enables constant washing of hands by health care providers to prevent spread of diseases; to have a clean toilet; to conduct surgeries and wash hospital equipments and basically keep the hospital facility clean.

How can we ensure that clean water is accessible to primary health centers? Who is responsible for providing water? What can communities do you help their PHCs access water?

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Stop! Don’t End it All…Winning Against Depression…It is Possible

Something mind boggling has been happening: in the past few days, the news reported about four different attempts by four individuals to commit suicide. There are many hypotheses about what could have made these individuals to end their lives ranging from failure of exam perhaps for the student victim; business gone sour, loss of money, depression to even the idea of blaming witches for hypnotizing them. Whatever the reasons are no human being should end it that way…Life is precious and is a gift.

Depression is usually triggered by an unexpected life crisis/event. It affects the mood, thoughts, and activities.

It is said that more women are likely to experience depression than women. Partly responsible is women’s biological experiences with menstruation cycle, pregnancy, menopause and more.  There is need to understand what depression is; its signs and symptoms in order to be able to deal with it. I am not medical personal but as a human being and social worker, I want to speak from my heart that it is possible to win the battle over depression.
So before defining what depression is; its signs and symptoms and how to get the help I want to start with words of hope:

You can handle Depression
 Understand that you are not alone in this challenge. There are people who are going through the same things you are going through. With the right treatment, they are coping and living normal lives. Many have overcome their depression.

Whatever you are going through is for a season. You can come through even stronger and better.

When one door closes always remember that another will open

If you are depressed because you are in debt hey it is not the end of the world. Understand that you can get out of that debt and you will as you take things one day at a time. Look for options and ways you can begin to reasonable pay back at your pace.

If your partner or spouse cheated on you, it is not the end of the world and it is not your fault. It is he/she’s loss. Your life matters not because he or she is in it but because you are worth loving, so love yourself and move on.

If you are battling with a long term illness, remember today is another day that you are alive. Concentrate on happy thoughts and moments in your life and know that you are strong and can come through.

Don’t follow through with that suicide thought. You are important, you are loved, and there is so much more you can achieve with your life. Suicide is an attempt to end one’s life. Suicide is an attempt to end one’s life. Your life matters!!

So let’s get down to what Depression is, signs/symptoms:

Depression is a downward feeling that drags on for a very long time.
A feeling of loneliness, worthlessness.
A state of giving up hope.
A state of being that believes the worst has happened and cannot be remedied.
A feeling that can trigger withdrawal from normal activities.
A feeling that wants to shut out help from others.
A feeling of hopelessness.
A feeling that says you don’t really matter anymore, give up.
Thoughts of wanting to hurt yourself.
Thoughts of death and suicide.

Causes of Depression:
• Loss of a job
• Loss of a loved one
• Failing an exam as a student
• Bankruptcy
• Lack of money
• Serious medical condition

How to get help if you are depressed
• Visit and speak with your family doctor.
• Talk to someone about your issues or what you are feeling ( Friend, spouse, parent, teacher) Anyone you trust.
• Speak to a counselor or social worker
• Talk to your pastor or religious leader
• Engage in interesting and relaxing activities such as sports, going to the cinema in the company of friends, attending parties( weddings, birthdays, house warming etc) like in Nigeria we like partying.
• See your psychologist or Psychiatrist ( it doesn’t mean that you are mentally incapable as culture tends to stigmatize such persons in some places).

Whatever you do fight this thing call depression, you can do it!

Photo Credit: Pinterest.com

NOTE: If you need someone to share your thoughts with…reach me via my email…bisimodupe1975@gmail.com. Together we can support each other. Loads of love from my heart.

Adebisi Adetunji(C)