Trust us, Nigerian parents, some of us would say something like this after a Prize Giving Day ceremony:
Parent: Romoke, does John have two heads?
Child: No daddy
Parent: If so, why is he the one getting all the prize?!
Child: But Daddy…
Parent: Don’t daddy me in my days I always came first in class (LMAO)
Most parents would not readily admit to the fact that they had challenges passing exams or scoring a good mark while earlier in their school days. Mostly we want our children to get good grades, in fact, get straight A’s in all subjects. And when you attend the end of year prize giving day you cringe on your seat when you see a particular girl/boy being called forward to receive the first prize for taking the first position in about 6 subjects including maths and English. Then you take a peep at your child wishing he/she is the one being accorded such honor that you would have made you a proud parent of a very brilliant child! Hey, nothing wrong with wanting your child to do well and excel in his/her academics. BUT…
Please, dear dad/mum submit your school report sheet and let’s see if you actually came first or you were just an average student or even the last!!
Stop comparing your child with his/her siblings or other people’s children. Every child has his/her strength.
Some children are good at analytical thinking and would do very well with calculations while some are story tellers who will do well in social sciences. Some others are simply creative and would do well in the arts. Build on the strength of your child.
Now that schools are on holidays and we are preparing to resume another school year, help your child do better.
DOs & DON’Ts
• Stop speaking down on your child. He/she is not olodo(dullard). Say positive things to your child and tell him/her that they can do better.
• Look through his/her report sheet. It will give you an idea of his/her strength and where they need help. Stop looking at your child’s position in class instead look at how scores of subjects can be improved.
• Don’t give up on your child; believe that he/she has a bright future. Somebody believed in you in the past and that is why you are where you are today. It could have been a teacher or your parents.
• If your child is going to SS1 where students are sent to arts, science or commercially oriented classes please do not insist on him/her being in Science class when that child’s strength lies in the art or commercial class.
• Don’t be deceived, just because your child scores high in all the subjects (arts & science) then you push him/her to follow in your footsteps. Study your child’s skills, talents, and interests and encourage him/her along that line.
• If a school is not right for your child, change it. Your child doesn’t have to go to the school all your friend’s children went or are enrolled in.
Help for Children with learning disability/difficulties/Slow learners: In case your child has challenges with learning, for example, he/she keeps failing almost all subjects and it is a recurrent thing then you need help. Do not be ashamed to seek professional advice, help, and support for your child.
Here two service providers that can help:
1) Taiwo Adeyanju Center : Offering services in assessing, counseling and therapy for Children with special needs such as learning disabilities/difficulties. Helps to promote social, mental, education and vocational well-being of children.
Website : https://adeyanjutaiwocentre.org.ng/
Phone Number : 08065798289, 07081431994,
Address: 10 Lala Avenue, Off Adenuga Street Bodija, Ibadan, Oyo State.
2) Diamond Psychological Consult & Services : Offers services in a) psychological assement of a child/persons intelligence (IQ test), language skills, personality. b) Therapy and counselling
Phone no: 08079905834, 08128276962
Address: No 2, Sonel Bonei Way, Salami Estate Rd, New Bodija, Ibadan, Oyo state.
Email – email@example.com