Friday Musings : Tips for Making Progress

At an FGMC workshop organized by YoungMen Against Sexual & gender based violence.

Life is a teacher and everyday each one of us is presented with an opportunity to learn. How we choose to handle our jobs, family, business, career and the pursuit of our dreams can eventually make or mar our progress.

Perhaps the thought line should be about “the how” you make progress. A few tips:

1. Give your best and go that extra mile – when we give our best and do more, someone that matters is observing. It is likely that you get even bigger opportunities that will improve your life & earnings. Mediocres and lazy people are going to reap an empty harvest and will end up becoming servants to their contemporaries.

2. Do not step on other people’s head to climb your ladder of progress – sometimes people bad mouth or give a negative /evil report of a competitor in the bid to be awarded a contract or get a position. Hmmmn… there is always a reaping time even if you do get the job or position. The people you bad mouthed will get other opportunities even better while you will soon learn that it takes more than craftiness to achieve and maintain success. Soon the true picture of who you are will show. WAIT FOR YOUR TIME… IT PAYS.

3. Honesty & Integrity – in our world today it is difficult to believe or take people by their words. We have experienced so much disappointment and we see a lot of corruption. Everyone wants a kick back even before they do the job they are paid to do. Life is full of choices, its your prerogative to choose how you will do your business or job. Unusual opportunities comes to those who deal in integrity and honesty. Even the highly placed dishonest person knows who to look for when in need of someone to handle a bid deal that matters to him/her.

3. Be friendly and extend a helping hand– try and maintain a good relationship with everyone you deal with whether at work, home or on a project. No need to be saucy and high handed especially if you have an upper hand. You may need such persons to be the link that takes you up on your ladder of progress. It doesn’t mean you have to be best friends with everyone but be cordial and kind.

4. Show kindness it will come back to you.

Have yourself a great Friday and weekend.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Project Director Beehyve Initiative.


Keeping Up With Life’s Pressure & Work: Do Something about Your Dream

Hello There,

It’s been a while. Life happened and my schedule of work increased, this has made my blogging schedule kind of irregular. I hope to reorganize and be able to share some good posts with you.

When life gets busy, Do what you can and keep keeping on.

Something is cooking in my life and I am trying to pursue a dream I have had for some time now. It is taking shape and requires a lot of sacrifices but I am grateful for the progress made so far. When the time is right I will share my growth and success with you

What have you done lately to get you closer to that goal or dream? Do something!

Interestingly I am amazed that my blog stat seems to be on a high side even when I have barely been able to post as frequently as possible. Thank you all for visiting, commenting and the likes too! YOU ENCOURAGE ME TO KEEP BLOGGING. GRACIAS

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

What’s the Rush…Where are you Heading?

Early this morning while rushing off to work I looked ahead through the windshield. It was still dark as the sun is yet to rise and many other cars and drivers rushed by with their headlights helping them to see through the midst of Harmattan and sometimes flashing lights get into our eyes. I quickly took a picture and wondered about the rush of life and where everyone was headed. Everyone had hopes of making the best of another day; the hope of having a better life making a good living wage.

I thought to myself where are we all headed? Each person is heading for a different destination. Somewhere down the line the rush slows down or ends.

Just thinking out loud… What’s the rush for? Where are you heading? Channel your efforts right.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

A Boxing Day Humor & Lesson

Boxing is the day after Christmas when people get to share gifts with their loved ones and friends.

In Nigeria, some of us cook our rice whether fried or Jollof and share with neighbors instead of doing this on Christmas day. The reason been that everyone will be busy attending Christmas service on the 25th of December and probably attending to immediate family.

So here I was delighted to package a gift for a family dear to mine. By the way I won’t share with you what the gift was… 😀😀Hmmm feeling good about sharing love oooo… Only to find out that I had mistakenly packaged a gift meant for someone else and given to another. Now I found myself replacing the gift with a precious gift I had earlier received as my Christmas present and I so cherished it.

Well how did the mix up happen? I guess I wasn’t paying attention. You see we had a family wedding this weekend, two days before Christmas and I had to juggle going to the market and planning for both feeding guests in my house and the reception!! So here I was having to reurn the gift to the original owner only my own precious gift was the replacement 😨.

It wasn’t funny but I learned a few minutes ago that I shouldn’t hold too tightly to anything. God gently nudging my heart and asking if that gift was too precious to give away. I  guess that’s the message of Christmas! After all He (God) gave his only begotten son to the world!

OK… So that’s how my own boxing Day went amidst attending to wedding guests of my brother in-law who were still in my house. Hope you’ve had a fabulous day amidst the fuel scarcity we are experiencing in Nigeria on! 😎

Adebisi Adetunji (C) BusyBee Media for Social Change and development.

I Met A Girl at a Bus Station

While waiting to board the bus en route to my destination (Calabar) on an official assignment this young lady, Amara(not real name) who sat beside me suddenly sighed out loud. Unknowingly she voiced out her thoughts, “How long will I continue to do this”, she mumbled. I was sited beside her and since we had been chatting earlier on about life in general, I took the liberty to ask her what the matter was in a concerned tone. Amara said she wish a man would come and whisk her off in marriage. She was tired of selling in a shop at the bus station. Enquiring further about how long she had been there, Amara said 7 years.

It has been 7 long years for her working at her uncle’s wife’s shop without getting paid. Amara was simply tired of this life that made her future look bleak. In her mind’s eye, the ticket to her freedom was getting married. Her hope is to have a man set her up for a business. I listened to her talk about her life and frustration then I gently told her that marriage is not the answer to the kind of freedom she dreamed of.

I shared with her the importance of having a job or some kind of trade of her own. Something to empower and give her financial freedom. Our discussions further revealed that she had finished her secondary school education and also has acquired skills in fashion designing(sewing clothes). I then encouraged her to pursue this business while waiting for the right man to come. It seemed to me that she had no choice but to live with her uncle’ wife who by the way had died. The widow housing her is probably doing her best to feed and cloth Amara including her own children.

After my attempt to inspire Amara to pursue her dreams she had this to say”Some girls are lucky; they get married and their husband sets them up in a business. Why can’t my own be like that?”. I kept quiet and thought to myself … “you may never understand the reality of her world”. Soon Amara stood up trying to chat with some men and bus drivers who work at the station. As I boarded my bus on the way to my destination, I hoped that things will turn out well for Amara; I hoped that she will not fall into the hands of men who will take advantage of her.

I wished that I lived in her town to possibly still keep in touch and help link her to opportunities and resources but all I had were my few words of counsel. Many young girls are out there just hoping for a brighter future like Amara. Perhaps if she had a higher education maybe her life might be easier in getting a paying job.

A lot of girls out there who come from a humble and economically struggling background as I have observed believe that finding a husband who will provide for them is the answer to their financial troubles. Maybe a few girls get lucky but often these girls find themselves in tougher situations when the man cannot provide as they had hoped.

We need to educate our girls/women; we need to empower them. It starts with each family, don’t just allow your girl/daughter to only sell for you in your shop, ensure that she is truly empowered for the future. Marrying her off is not the answer to your economic and financial problems. You may soon have to care for her and her babies if the man is irresponsible. This will become a big burden. You can also share this wisdom with people who think like this as they come your way in the marketplace, bus station, taxi or wherever.

Educate a Girl, Give her a better future
To empower a woman is to empower a family and nation.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

You Don’t Always Have Your Life Figured Out #Encouragement

Do you always have things together in your life? I mean are you always on point? Are you clear about what you should be doing next? Do you know where you want to be next? Are you ready to do something really great and profound? Do you want to save the world?

Hahaha… You only need to save the next person to you and the world will be just fine. 😀😀

Personal Lessons :

I am learning to take one day at a time, so should you.
I am learning that the little things I do for myself, family, friends and even strangers matter.

You have got to be grateful for what you have and where you are before you can appreciate the next level 

Today I am grateful for the gift of life, for when I am alive I can dream on and achieve.
Today I am grateful for a good health for I could have been paying a lot of hospital bills that I don’t even have money for.

Little Acts
I am grateful for the opportunity to visit a sick loved one in the hospital and just be there for them.
I am grateful for the opportunity to write this post and basically been able to write something that others stop by to read.

My life is still loading…
I am looking forward to doing great things and been a person of positive influence.

So my encouragement to you… Your life is still loading too…it doesn’t matter how old you are,  there is much more to your life. 

You don’t always have to have it together. Do what you can and watch things unfold.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

The Sight of a Hardworking Woman & Mother: How tough can it Get?

Femininematerz photo

This morning I got to the office and saw the little daughter of one of our cleaners. I asked her mum why she wasn’t in school and the whole gist centered around inability to pay the girl’s school fees for now.

I was kind of troubled by this news. Then I inquired about her husband and what he was doing about getting their daughter’s school fees paid. She said he had lost his job and the family was barely managing to survive on her cleaning meager salary for now. She was waiting to get paid so a part payment of the school fees can be made while they live on the rest. You can imagine how much her salary amounts to, not much.

While also chatting with her I found out she had also gotten a loan to enroll her oldest child in tertiary institution. So here is this hardworking woman and mother in between paying back a loan and fending for her family as best as she can.

I was really touched and want to appreciate every hardworking woman supporting their families as best as they can.

It is also heartwarming to see that this woman wants her children to get an education and have a better life than she had.

Encourage hardworking women around you and help support in your own little way.

Don’t mind your business, care enough to ask people how they are doing, you would be surprised at how that can help. It is an opportunity to show kindness and lend a hand. 

Have a great and blessed day☺️☺️

Adebisi Adetunji (C)