Do you always have things together in your life? I mean are you always on point? Are you clear about what you should be doing next? Do you know where you want to be next? Are you ready to do something really great and profound? Do you want to save the world?
Hahaha… You only need to save the next person to you and the world will be just fine. 😀😀
Personal Lessons :
I am learning to take one day at a time, so should you.
I am learning that the little things I do for myself, family, friends and even strangers matter.
You have got to be grateful for what you have and where you are before you can appreciate the next level
Today I am grateful for the gift of life, for when I am alive I can dream on and achieve.
Today I am grateful for a good health for I could have been paying a lot of hospital bills that I don’t even have money for.
I am grateful for the opportunity to visit a sick loved one in the hospital and just be there for them.
I am grateful for the opportunity to write this post and basically been able to write something that others stop by to read.
My life is still loading…
I am looking forward to doing great things and been a person of positive influence.
So my encouragement to you… Your life is still loading too…it doesn’t matter how old you are, there is much more to your life.
You don’t always have to have it together. Do what you can and watch things unfold.
What you believe today matters as it brings the life you wish for tomorrow.
Often we hear the phrase “believe in yourself” but still we are unsure. Nothing can stop you except you so you’ve got to believe in yourself. But we also need others to believe in us so we can believe as well. That was the case in Alexandra’s story:(A True Life’s story)
Alexandra was born into a family of eight of royal descent. Her father and mother worked so hard to ensure that their children got a good education. The expectations for Alexandra and her five siblings were very high. Their parents wanted them to be graduates of prestigious professions like medical doctor, Lawyer, Accountant. In those days everyone wanted their children to become medical doctors so they can be called, “Baba Doctor”,“Mama Lawyer”.
Each child had their strength but most were brilliant and others very brilliant, the A students except for Alexandra who struggled with her academics.It was tough through primary and secondary school. Finally, she graduated but failed her WAEC woefully. Alexandra wept bitterly as her father was really disappointed and felt let down. Lesson teachers were hired to prepare her to rewrite the exams for without this there was no moving on to the university. Alexandra sat for the external secondary school leaving certificate (GCE) again and hopes were high that she would make it this time.
When the results were released it was no better than what Alexandra had score previously. She rode the horse of GCE again to see if she could break its back but it threw her off again. Alexandra became withdrawn and felt that of all her siblings she might not be caught out for school after all. And soon extended family members and friends started to sell the idea that, “not all children are meant to go to school” to her parents. Suggestions were made to enroll her in learning a trade, Alexandra fell deeper into despair and self-esteem began to ebb away. Her father gave up in a way as he began to consider this option.
There was tension between her parents and her siblings discussed in hush tones about the plan to enroll Alexandra in a trade. They were not happy and none of them wanted a future where only Alexandra will be the one who didn’t finish school. Her mother was worried sick but was also helpless in the matter. Who would face their father to challenge this plan to stop her from furthering her education?
Find out what happens next in Part two of this story.
When I shared this post, “The Sight of a Hardworking Woman & Mother: How tough can it Get?” little did I know that it will culminate into getting double help and support for this woman and her daughter. I was simply just doing a post about how some women struggle really hard to make ends meet in their family. If you are a blogger or writer like me reading this, follow that instinct and just share your heart about whatever catches your attention, you never know when you make a huge difference.
So here is what transpired after I published that story:
I got a message from a dear friend living across the globe from where I live that she read the story I shared. She wanted to know how she could donate towards part payment of the little girl’s school fees. When I read her message I was shocked and surprised! Yes, because I wasn’t expecting anything to come in terms of assistance from the story apart from what I had donated to help support the school fees of the little daughter of the woman in question. Mostly I avoided even mentioning that until now and I also didn’t want to ask anyone to donate. So here I am finding out that, that brainwave I gave into in publishing her story was the key to making a huge difference in this woman and her little girl’s life.
In the end the money donated covered for a whole school year’s fees for the little girl,meanwhile, her mother was only working hard to get just a term’s school fees.
God is awesome and knows how to show up for us when we are in need!
I feel humbled and privileged to be a part of the answer to this woman’s cry for help. Sincerely I am still in shock and just moved in a way that words cannot express.
You never know who your story can help, keep writing honestly and sincerely from your heart.
Apart from settling the little girl’s school fees, the donation also covered the school fees for a young visually impaired boy whom I and My Abiye (maternal & child health) team had been giving education support for some years now. Indeed it is a double help and support for these two vulnerable children.
God bless our donor mightly. I cannot mention her name as I believe she wants this giving to be discrete.
This morning I got to the officeand saw the little daughter of one of our cleaners. I asked her mum why she wasn’t in school and the whole gist centered around inability to pay the girl’s school fees for now.
I was kind of troubled by this news. Then I inquired about her husband and what he was doing about getting their daughter’s school fees paid. She said he had lost his job and the family was barely managing to survive on her cleaning meager salary for now. She was waiting to get paid so a part payment of the school fees can be made while they live on the rest. You can imagine how much her salary amounts to, not much.
While also chatting with her I found out she had also gotten a loan to enroll her oldest child in tertiary institution.So here is this hardworking woman and mother in between paying back a loan and fending for her family as best as she can.
I was really touched and want to appreciate every hardworking woman supporting their families as best as they can.
It is also heartwarming to see that this woman wants her children to get an education and have a better life than she had.
Encourage hardworking women around you and help support in your own little way.
Don’t mind your business, care enough to ask people how they are doing, you would be surprised at how that can help. It is an opportunity to show kindness and lend a hand.
Today when I look back I am amazed at how things turned out for me in terms of getting an education.
By the way I went to a public school and back then you could get qualityeducation unlike nowadays that parents enrolled their children in private schools and pay so much simply because the standard at our public schools have really fallen. Now back to my own story.
In primary five students start to write entrance exams to get into secondary/high school. So by the time you get into your final class you already had a number of schools to choose from judging by the number of admission letters you have in your hand. My parents wanted me to go to a particular popular school for girls in Kano. The girls who attended that school were brilliant and stood out. I wrote the exams and was one of the lucky ones selected. I was excited but alas one day at my head teachers office I found out that my place had been given to another girl. I was terribly disappointed. Since I didn’t write another school’s exam I had to wait a while and struggled to get into another secondary school. I ended up at a school somewhere in Borno state still in the North. I spent only one session in that school as I couldn’t cope with the life there. It was tough and rugged and the school was in the middle of nowhere out of town and in the bush.
Finally I was rescued and taken to Jos, Plateau state and my first school was Naraguta grammar school… Not the standard my dad wanted. I was always coming first and my dad felt there wasn’t enough competition for me😀
But most importantly it was there that I understood what it meant to know God in a personal way. Jesus found me and I came to know him in a very special way. Funny how the Lord leads our path.
After that school I went to Baptist High school in Jos stilland it was a marvelous time been taught by teachers like Mr Stone, Miss Gaines- I really still do miss her Bible lessons because it was full of stories, real life issues. Quickly the years went by and I was preparing to get into the university/college. I thought it would be easy but I was in for a bumpy ride and long journey. First I failed my physics and chemistry subjects. You see I was a science student and had the intention of becoming a doctor… Hmmmn the dream of every parent back then as it was a prestigious profession.
I wrote WAEC like four times and all my private lesson teacher’s coaching still didn’t help me to pass my science subjects. I remember going to a center to check my third WAEC result. As I looked through my list and saw that I failed my physics, chemistry and biology again I made up my mind that enough was enough. It was then that I made a u-turn and decided to register for art subjects. This time around I passed them seamlessly. It became clear that I wasn’t cut out for the medical line and I told my dad so.
It is important to study your child’s strength and guide him/her in the right direction.
Somewhere in between all of these Istill enrolled for a pre-degree course at the University of Jos with the intention of doing one of the science courses. You can guess what happened : I failed badly wasting another two years. At last I decided to seek admission to study law at the University of Jos. It was another struggle, they just wouldn’t admit me for so many reasons. All the while I was praying hard that God will show up for me. In fact I wondered why it had to be a struggle to move to each stage of my education.
For my thoughts are not your thoughts neither are my ways your ways.
God had a better plan and through all my delay and struggle He was working things out. His good plans for my life were unfolding. Everything I experienced and everywhere I had been were all part of the plan and necessary to make become the person I am today.
We may not understand why we have to go through things sometimes but God always has a better plan for his children.
Finally without struggle I got an admission into Bayero University Kano and I didn’t even want to go therebecause that was were I grew up and for other reasons. I got to study the course English and specialized in literature. One of the reasons Iit had to be that school was clear to me years later… It was there I met my husband 😀
Today I have a masters in Social Work and I look back still amazed at how the Lord brought me around in full circle.
You may seem delayed God is working. Your good and bad experiences will all work out for your good.
We don’t need to understand all the plans but we can trust him and He does really know what he is doing… Beautifying your life.
I don’t know your struggles and I know it can be hard, I am here to say have faith; fear not, it will all work out for your good.
Thank God it’s Friday. I have been pressed for time putting together programs to be submitted for broadcast during my fours weeks vacation. Putting pen to paper or typing any words to post on my blog is like a luxury. I hope to have plenty of time to do that during my time away from office work… Hmmmn… Am I not supposed to be on vacation?! 😀
Today I am feeling a little under the weather and moody too but I did manage to get out of bed and go to work. After chatting with friends and colleagues and friends at work I kind of feel better.
There will be moody days
There will be days when you are feeling sick.
There will be days when you just wish but your wish is really not ready to show up.
There will be slow days. Hey, it will be OK again. You will pull through.
She is the daughter of my 16years hair stylist….really I am amazed that I have stayed with her for this long. The secret of course is good service and a good customer relationship. We are like family now I believe. It is difficult to get me into the salon of another hair stylist to make my hair.
I first met Iya Fade as we all call her in 2001, then Fade the all grown lady wasn’t even in secondary school yet. This post is set to promote the need to pass down your skills to your children. You will be simply equipping them with tools for a better future. She has grown to become a very beautiful lady and I imagine the suitor’s queue is really long. This is her story as I chatted with her while she and her mum braided my hair.
At first, Fade was not interested in learning how to make other people’s hair. She was young and did not understand why she had to get her hand all dirt in wet waters. However an unce and aunty of hers convinced her that it was good to acquire this skill alongside getting an education. At least she did not have to pay to learn. Slowly and grudgingly at first she began to pay more attention while in her mother’s salon. Soon she picked up interest and became passionate about making hairstyles for customers.
What I admire Iya Fade for is that she is got taste and is classy;she is creative, hardworking very good at her craft. She seems to thrive on all handy craft as often she makes hair creams, soaps, body cream to cater for the hair needs and treatments of her customers. And she uses natural products to make the blend. If you’ve got issues with your hair Iya Fade is a hair stylist you need to see.
So you can begin to understand the rich skills Fade stand to gainfrom her mother by paying attention. Thankfully she did pay attention. Right now Fade is competing well with her mum and even doing more.
Fade got admission into the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile Ife to study the course: English Language.In school she was learning and making some change making fellow students hair. So that means she is never broke.
Right now Fade is done with her University education and waiting to go for her National Youth Service Corp(NYSC) but she got busy going to a makeover school and also started to attend a businessmanagement schoolin order to be able to manage her own business.
Fade is now the CEO of Fade’s Touch. Her business provides these services for clients:
1) Hair-do– All kinds of hair styles ranging from braids, dread, weaves, natural style, natural hair care, fixing of weavon.
2) Makeover – Bridal makeover, home services, Owanbe-party make up, dinner makeover, casual makeover
4) Sale of Make-up products
5) Sale of shoes & Bags
I told Fade that she will probably soon start employing her colleagues😀😀👍
I am so pleased to see that this young woman has carved a niche for herself. She will not be under pressure in the labour market looking for a job. She has become an employer herself.
Allow your children get more than a school education. Harness that gifting and talents. Let them acquire skills that will put more value on them in the labour/business market.
You can reach Fade’s Touch for your beauty services on: Phone No: 08164423645 Instagram : Fade_rera Twitter: @fade_rera