The new year is right here with us! Now you have to walk your way through it. There has been so much motivation and talks about setting new goals and plans. We are all been challenged to seize the year and make the best of it. Therefore in every area of life whether family, personal, career, education, Business, spiritual, health and much more we all want things to be better. We all want to experience growth.
2018 is here and you suddenly feel stuck and unable to take steps in any direction.If that is the case with you then you are not alone. I have a number of things penned down that I intend to pursue. I have some plans and goals but I keep having this unsure feeling; that feeling of where do I even start.
So here is how I am overcoming this new year blues:
Take your time and be clear about your goals and target.
Do not rush out and join the frenzy of achieving. Some of us will have to figure things out first remember it’s your own race.
Take one day at a time.
Take small steps towards your first goal or plan.
Do what you can for now and let it grow gradually.
Do not be in a hurry to achieve everything at once.
Be patient and take your time.
Most importantly be prepared to enjoy your everyday in 2018, life is not all about setting goals😀
Boxing is the day after Christmas when people get to share gifts with their loved ones and friends.
In Nigeria, some of us cook our rice whether fried or Jollof and share with neighbors instead of doing this on Christmas day. The reason been that everyone will be busy attending Christmas service on the 25th of December and probably attending to immediate family.
So here I was delighted to package a gift for a family dear to mine. By the way I won’t share with you what the gift was… 😀😀Hmmm feeling good about sharing love oooo… Only to find out that I had mistakenly packaged a gift meant for someone else and given to another. Now I found myself replacing the gift with a precious gift I had earlier received as my Christmas present and I so cherished it.
Well how did the mix up happen? I guess I wasn’t paying attention. You see we had a family wedding this weekend, two days before Christmas and I had to juggle going to the market and planning for both feeding guests in my house and the reception!! So here I was having to reurn the gift to the original owner only my own precious gift was the replacement 😨.
It wasn’t funny but I learned a few minutes ago that I shouldn’t hold too tightly to anything. God gently nudging my heart and asking if that gift was too precious to give away. I guess that’s the message of Christmas! After all He (God) gave his only begotten son to the world!
OK… So that’s how my own boxing Day went amidst attending to wedding guests of my brother in-law who were still in my house. Hope you’ve had a fabulous day amidst the fuel scarcity we are experiencing in Nigeria on! 😎
Adebisi Adetunji (C) BusyBee Media for Social Change and development.
Do you always have things together in your life? I mean are you always on point? Are you clear about what you should be doing next? Do you know where you want to be next? Are you ready to do something really great and profound? Do you want to save the world?
Hahaha… You only need to save the next person to you and the world will be just fine. 😀😀
Personal Lessons :
I am learning to take one day at a time, so should you.
I am learning that the little things I do for myself, family, friends and even strangers matter.
You have got to be grateful for what you have and where you are before you can appreciate the next level
Today I am grateful for the gift of life, for when I am alive I can dream on and achieve.
Today I am grateful for a good health for I could have been paying a lot of hospital bills that I don’t even have money for.
I am grateful for the opportunity to visit a sick loved one in the hospital and just be there for them.
I am grateful for the opportunity to write this post and basically been able to write something that others stop by to read.
My life is still loading…
I am looking forward to doing great things and been a person of positive influence.
So my encouragement to you… Your life is still loading too…it doesn’t matter how old you are, there is much more to your life.
You don’t always have to have it together. Do what you can and watch things unfold.
What you believe today matters as it brings the life you wish for tomorrow.
Often we hear the phrase “believe in yourself” but still we are unsure. Nothing can stop you except you so you’ve got to believe in yourself. But we also need others to believe in us so we can believe as well. That was the case in Alexandra’s story:(A True Life’s story)
Alexandra was born into a family of eight of royal descent. Her father and mother worked so hard to ensure that their children got a good education. The expectations for Alexandra and her five siblings were very high. Their parents wanted them to be graduates of prestigious professions like medical doctor, Lawyer, Accountant. In those days everyone wanted their children to become medical doctors so they can be called, “Baba Doctor”,“Mama Lawyer”.
Each child had their strength but most were brilliant and others very brilliant, the A students except for Alexandra who struggled with her academics.It was tough through primary and secondary school. Finally, she graduated but failed her WAEC woefully. Alexandra wept bitterly as her father was really disappointed and felt let down. Lesson teachers were hired to prepare her to rewrite the exams for without this there was no moving on to the university. Alexandra sat for the external secondary school leaving certificate (GCE) again and hopes were high that she would make it this time.
When the results were released it was no better than what Alexandra had score previously. She rode the horse of GCE again to see if she could break its back but it threw her off again. Alexandra became withdrawn and felt that of all her siblings she might not be caught out for school after all. And soon extended family members and friends started to sell the idea that, “not all children are meant to go to school” to her parents. Suggestions were made to enroll her in learning a trade, Alexandra fell deeper into despair and self-esteem began to ebb away. Her father gave up in a way as he began to consider this option.
There was tension between her parents and her siblings discussed in hush tones about the plan to enroll Alexandra in a trade. They were not happy and none of them wanted a future where only Alexandra will be the one who didn’t finish school. Her mother was worried sick but was also helpless in the matter. Who would face their father to challenge this plan to stop her from furthering her education?
Find out what happens next in Part two of this story.
When I shared this post, “The Sight of a Hardworking Woman & Mother: How tough can it Get?” little did I know that it will culminate into getting double help and support for this woman and her daughter. I was simply just doing a post about how some women struggle really hard to make ends meet in their family. If you are a blogger or writer like me reading this, follow that instinct and just share your heart about whatever catches your attention, you never know when you make a huge difference.
So here is what transpired after I published that story:
I got a message from a dear friend living across the globe from where I live that she read the story I shared. She wanted to know how she could donate towards part payment of the little girl’s school fees. When I read her message I was shocked and surprised! Yes, because I wasn’t expecting anything to come in terms of assistance from the story apart from what I had donated to help support the school fees of the little daughter of the woman in question. Mostly I avoided even mentioning that until now and I also didn’t want to ask anyone to donate. So here I am finding out that, that brainwave I gave into in publishing her story was the key to making a huge difference in this woman and her little girl’s life.
In the end the money donated covered for a whole school year’s fees for the little girl,meanwhile, her mother was only working hard to get just a term’s school fees.
God is awesome and knows how to show up for us when we are in need!
I feel humbled and privileged to be a part of the answer to this woman’s cry for help. Sincerely I am still in shock and just moved in a way that words cannot express.
You never know who your story can help, keep writing honestly and sincerely from your heart.
Apart from settling the little girl’s school fees, the donation also covered the school fees for a young visually impaired boy whom I and My Abiye (maternal & child health) team had been giving education support for some years now. Indeed it is a double help and support for these two vulnerable children.
God bless our donor mightly. I cannot mention her name as I believe she wants this giving to be discrete.
This morning I got to the officeand saw the little daughter of one of our cleaners. I asked her mum why she wasn’t in school and the whole gist centered around inability to pay the girl’s school fees for now.
I was kind of troubled by this news. Then I inquired about her husband and what he was doing about getting their daughter’s school fees paid. She said he had lost his job and the family was barely managing to survive on her cleaning meager salary for now. She was waiting to get paid so a part payment of the school fees can be made while they live on the rest. You can imagine how much her salary amounts to, not much.
While also chatting with her I found out she had also gotten a loan to enroll her oldest child in tertiary institution.So here is this hardworking woman and mother in between paying back a loan and fending for her family as best as she can.
I was really touched and want to appreciate every hardworking woman supporting their families as best as they can.
It is also heartwarming to see that this woman wants her children to get an education and have a better life than she had.
Encourage hardworking women around you and help support in your own little way.
Don’t mind your business, care enough to ask people how they are doing, you would be surprised at how that can help. It is an opportunity to show kindness and lend a hand.