Do you always have things together in your life? I mean are you always on point? Are you clear about what you should be doing next? Do you know where you want to be next? Are you ready to do something really great and profound? Do you want to save the world?
Hahaha… You only need to save the next person to you and the world will be just fine. 😀😀
Personal Lessons :
I am learning to take one day at a time, so should you.
I am learning that the little things I do for myself, family, friends and even strangers matter.
You have got to be grateful for what you have and where you are before you can appreciate the next level
Today I am grateful for the gift of life, for when I am alive I can dream on and achieve.
Today I am grateful for a good health for I could have been paying a lot of hospital bills that I don’t even have money for.
I am grateful for the opportunity to visit a sick loved one in the hospital and just be there for them.
I am grateful for the opportunity to write this post and basically been able to write something that others stop by to read.
My life is still loading…
I am looking forward to doing great things and been a person of positive influence.
So my encouragement to you… Your life is still loading too…it doesn’t matter how old you are, there is much more to your life.
You don’t always have to have it together. Do what you can and watch things unfold.
When I shared this post, “The Sight of a Hardworking Woman & Mother: How tough can it Get?” little did I know that it will culminate into getting double help and support for this woman and her daughter. I was simply just doing a post about how some women struggle really hard to make ends meet in their family. If you are a blogger or writer like me reading this, follow that instinct and just share your heart about whatever catches your attention, you never know when you make a huge difference.
So here is what transpired after I published that story:
I got a message from a dear friend living across the globe from where I live that she read the story I shared. She wanted to know how she could donate towards part payment of the little girl’s school fees. When I read her message I was shocked and surprised! Yes, because I wasn’t expecting anything to come in terms of assistance from the story apart from what I had donated to help support the school fees of the little daughter of the woman in question. Mostly I avoided even mentioning that until now and I also didn’t want to ask anyone to donate. So here I am finding out that, that brainwave I gave into in publishing her story was the key to making a huge difference in this woman and her little girl’s life.
In the end the money donated covered for a whole school year’s fees for the little girl,meanwhile, her mother was only working hard to get just a term’s school fees.
God is awesome and knows how to show up for us when we are in need!
I feel humbled and privileged to be a part of the answer to this woman’s cry for help. Sincerely I am still in shock and just moved in a way that words cannot express.
You never know who your story can help, keep writing honestly and sincerely from your heart.
Apart from settling the little girl’s school fees, the donation also covered the school fees for a young visually impaired boy whom I and My Abiye (maternal & child health) team had been giving education support for some years now. Indeed it is a double help and support for these two vulnerable children.
God bless our donor mightly. I cannot mention her name as I believe she wants this giving to be discrete.
This morning I got to the officeand saw the little daughter of one of our cleaners. I asked her mum why she wasn’t in school and the whole gist centered around inability to pay the girl’s school fees for now.
I was kind of troubled by this news. Then I inquired about her husband and what he was doing about getting their daughter’s school fees paid. She said he had lost his job and the family was barely managing to survive on her cleaning meager salary for now. She was waiting to get paid so a part payment of the school fees can be made while they live on the rest. You can imagine how much her salary amounts to, not much.
While also chatting with her I found out she had also gotten a loan to enroll her oldest child in tertiary institution.So here is this hardworking woman and mother in between paying back a loan and fending for her family as best as she can.
I was really touched and want to appreciate every hardworking woman supporting their families as best as they can.
It is also heartwarming to see that this woman wants her children to get an education and have a better life than she had.
Encourage hardworking women around you and help support in your own little way.
Don’t mind your business, care enough to ask people how they are doing, you would be surprised at how that can help. It is an opportunity to show kindness and lend a hand.
Today when I look back I am amazed at how things turned out for me in terms of getting an education.
By the way I went to a public school and back then you could get qualityeducation unlike nowadays that parents enrolled their children in private schools and pay so much simply because the standard at our public schools have really fallen. Now back to my own story.
In primary five students start to write entrance exams to get into secondary/high school. So by the time you get into your final class you already had a number of schools to choose from judging by the number of admission letters you have in your hand. My parents wanted me to go to a particular popular school for girls in Kano. The girls who attended that school were brilliant and stood out. I wrote the exams and was one of the lucky ones selected. I was excited but alas one day at my head teachers office I found out that my place had been given to another girl. I was terribly disappointed. Since I didn’t write another school’s exam I had to wait a while and struggled to get into another secondary school. I ended up at a school somewhere in Borno state still in the North. I spent only one session in that school as I couldn’t cope with the life there. It was tough and rugged and the school was in the middle of nowhere out of town and in the bush.
Finally I was rescued and taken to Jos, Plateau state and my first school was Naraguta grammar school… Not the standard my dad wanted. I was always coming first and my dad felt there wasn’t enough competition for me😀
But most importantly it was there that I understood what it meant to know God in a personal way. Jesus found me and I came to know him in a very special way. Funny how the Lord leads our path.
After that school I went to Baptist High school in Jos stilland it was a marvelous time been taught by teachers like Mr Stone, Miss Gaines- I really still do miss her Bible lessons because it was full of stories, real life issues. Quickly the years went by and I was preparing to get into the university/college. I thought it would be easy but I was in for a bumpy ride and long journey. First I failed my physics and chemistry subjects. You see I was a science student and had the intention of becoming a doctor… Hmmmn the dream of every parent back then as it was a prestigious profession.
I wrote WAEC like four times and all my private lesson teacher’s coaching still didn’t help me to pass my science subjects. I remember going to a center to check my third WAEC result. As I looked through my list and saw that I failed my physics, chemistry and biology again I made up my mind that enough was enough. It was then that I made a u-turn and decided to register for art subjects. This time around I passed them seamlessly. It became clear that I wasn’t cut out for the medical line and I told my dad so.
It is important to study your child’s strength and guide him/her in the right direction.
Somewhere in between all of these Istill enrolled for a pre-degree course at the University of Jos with the intention of doing one of the science courses. You can guess what happened : I failed badly wasting another two years. At last I decided to seek admission to study law at the University of Jos. It was another struggle, they just wouldn’t admit me for so many reasons. All the while I was praying hard that God will show up for me. In fact I wondered why it had to be a struggle to move to each stage of my education.
For my thoughts are not your thoughts neither are my ways your ways.
God had a better plan and through all my delay and struggle He was working things out. His good plans for my life were unfolding. Everything I experienced and everywhere I had been were all part of the plan and necessary to make become the person I am today.
We may not understand why we have to go through things sometimes but God always has a better plan for his children.
Finally without struggle I got an admission into Bayero University Kano and I didn’t even want to go therebecause that was were I grew up and for other reasons. I got to study the course English and specialized in literature. One of the reasons Iit had to be that school was clear to me years later… It was there I met my husband 😀
Today I have a masters in Social Work and I look back still amazed at how the Lord brought me around in full circle.
You may seem delayed God is working. Your good and bad experiences will all work out for your good.
We don’t need to understand all the plans but we can trust him and He does really know what he is doing… Beautifying your life.
I don’t know your struggles and I know it can be hard, I am here to say have faith; fear not, it will all work out for your good.
It is easy to fix everything and everyone but yourself.
Remember to take time to relax. Watch that fatigue; that tired and exhausting feeling. Stop eating junk because you are too busy trying to meet deadlines. If you break down life doesn’t stop because of you. So stop and take care of yourself.
How to take care of yourself
Go play golf, tennis or watch a movie if you like the work load can wait.
Rest and yes sleep is good and necessary to be able to perform optimally at your tasks.
CEO time to take a break; your company will not crash before you get back.
Spend quality fun time with family, friends and loved ones.
Build meaningful relationships now because that is all that will be important a few years from now.
People slum and die often this days don’t add to the statistics.
Many times we are focused on things we desireto have and haven’t been able to get/acquire.
Many times we focus on our dreams and goals and forget to be happy with the little/big successes we have had.
I find myself complaining about my workplace and desire to have something better. And so instead of being grateful I whine and whine and lose my joy. I forgot that yesterday I prayed to have this job and I got it. Today is yesterday’s answered prayer.
Sometimes we compare ourselves to what others have and forget that some other people wish to have what you have. Be happy with what you have and where you are as you hope and Trust God to give you a better tomorrow.
So you are single and feeling lonely? Worse still all your friends and nieces you took care of while growing up have gotten married. You are even helping to nurse their babies and sometimes tears drop and you wish you had yours; look around you there is so much to your life that you can be grateful for.
Your child is physically challenged and you struggle daily to take care of him/her. You wish yours was a “normal” child who can fend for himself. God knows about your struggles and He has been standing right there helping you by bringing people and resources to help that child. Be grateful, be happy and celebrate what you have for then you will see hope rising. There is always a higher and better purpose.
So your marriage is turbulent and possibly didn’t work out. Painful I know but be grateful; be happy for everything works out for good to them that believe even if it was your fault. Be happy, be grateful for a better tomorrow will happen for you.
How can I say it? I simply am grateful and choose to be joyful and I want you too, reading this to be.
Your happiness is not in getting that new dream job
Your happiness and joy are not in that relationship you so much crave.
Your happiness is not tomorrow It is today, be Happy now.
Enjoy your everyday life (Joyce Meyer)
If you can’t enjoy your today; you might still not be happy tomorrow when your desires come true. It is about seeing today’s blessings even if they are small. Choose to celebrate today and all your blessings.
Change is coming and there will never be an end to what you want to achieve.