Different Isn’t Bad or Less Important or Superior #CultureShock

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Have you ever found yourself in a different place or clime from yours and you were confused, felt lost and shocked by the lifestyle of people in that place or society? It is called culture shock.

 

 

How do you prepare for or handle culture shock?

  1. When planning to visit a new place either for a professional or fun visit read up about the culture, beliefs, and practices of the people living in the place you are visiting.
  2. Find out from others who have been to such places or simply Google…the information hub for the modern day society.
  3. Get interested in and engage people living in the new culture about their way of life, soon you will make friends and you become more comfortable.
  4. Come to respect the culture
  5. You don’t have to lose yourself in a new culture; be yourself and show others what your own culture looks like by wearing your attire sometimes if appropriate in the setting.
  6. Know what is acceptable and unacceptable in the new culture in order to know how to behave appropriately and not come across as rude or offensive.

People are different and believe differently this doesn’t make them superior, less important or bad. Understand that your way of life is one out of many other cultures in the world.

As we celebrate another World Cultural Day, let’s reach out across our table and learn more about others.

Understanding and acceptance help to promote peace and development.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer
Catch me on Twitter @DebisiBusybee
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XX-FILES Debut on International Day of Zero Tolerance for FGMC.

Me interviewing our guest on radio for FGMC zero tolerance day.

I am excited to be a part of the ideas team for XX-FILES a radio program that inspires women to reach for the sky and beyond.

We wanted to do a special package to educate listeners about the negative impact of female genital mutilation and cutting on girls and women for the 6th of February. This is the international day of Zero tolerance for FGMC.

All the morning shows were not suitable so I shared the idea of doing a one-off women’s program only for that day with my bosses. The idea got a positive nod. However as we sat down to plan and give the program a title out came the phrase XX chromosomes and then XX-FILES! Everyone liked the idea and that was how I got myself into extra work o… Meaning that my work load had simply increased. Just when I was thinking of shedding something off *wink.

Right now XX-FILES is now going to be a weekly live program… All about the female gender. A splash of the different aspects of women’s lives ranging from lifestyle, leadership, politics, empowerment, fashion, relationship, family life, career issues and more.

So thanks to the International day of Zero tolerance for FGMC – we gave birth to a brand new program. My guest for the debut edition was Ms Abimbola Aladejare – Founder and Executive director of The New Generation Girls and Women Development Initiative.

Ms Abimbola Aladejare on red t-shirt, me, her team & radio stations staff

She is an FGMC survivor and is passionate about ending this harmful cultural practice.

Female genital mutilation and cutting is not a campaign slogan it is an issue that affects many girls and women. Many live with the consequences of having been cut. Let’s keep the discussions going; let’s keep educating those who hold tenaciously to this practice in ignorance.

Together we can end FGMC in a generation!

XX-FILES comes up every Tuesday at 10am on Premier FM 93.5.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

She Needed A Chance to Believe Part 2

Catch up on the first part of the story: She Needed A Chance to Believe Part 1.

Alexandra is the second born of her siblings. She saw her older sister, Esther get enrolled in the university while her closest younger siblings were getting ready to also get into college. She felt left out and a bleak future stared her in the face. She badly wanted to continue her education but this WAEC mountain refuses to give way to her dreams. To challenge her father’s plan to enroll her in learning a trade was out of the question. Her father was revered and his authority was not to be challenged. He wanted so badly that his children succeeded and Alexandra’s case left him feeling like all his hard work to provide was wasted.

If only I would be allowed to attempt the exams again”, Alexandra thought to herself but even she didn’t believe that she could pass any more than her parents.

Days, weeks and months pass by and then one day her father announced that she would be sent to her grandma’s place in the village to enroll in something. Alexandra’s heart was torn in a different directions.  To her it felt like a plan to abandon her far away from home. She was not ready to leave her siblings and all that was familiar to her. Her self-esteem took a deeper downturn.

One day in the midst of all this her older sister who was in the university shared a hopeful news with Alexandra. There was an opportunity at the university where her sister was enrolled in to do certificate courses that did not require scoring up to 7credits in WAEC. Alexandra had a few passes and probably one credit, she wondered if she would be admitted to do the course. Her sister insisted that it was possible but they had one hurdle to cross, convincing their father who by then had lost hope of Alexandra getting into the university.

Her sister, Esther summoned the courage to speak with their father but the meeting took place at his office. Convincing their father was not easy as he argued that Alexandra was terribly weak in learning and so it would amount to a waste of money. Her older sister, Esther pressed harder and had to promise that she will ensure that Alexandra pays attention in school. Esther had to agree to be held responsible if Alexandra fails again.

When Alexandra got the news that her father was willing to give the certificate course in Library science a try, she was ecstatic! Her siblings celebrated this news in their room. The next step was to actually get her admitted into the course. For some reason, the university didn’t give her any hassles as she was admitted. It was a lifeline for Alexandra, she gave the course her best shot, studying so hard and getting her brilliant course mates to teach her. Many nights she will sleep in the class studying and learning as far as she was concerned she was now a university/college student. Never mind that people wondered what good could come out of such a not so “prestigious course” of the times. It wasn’t even a degree or diploma just a certificate course. Alexandra did not care she kept at it and when her one year course was over, she scored 4points, she was an A student. Alexandra wept as she looked at her result, it was unbelievable.

She never believed that she had what it takes in her to succeed as a student talk more of coming out with an A grade. Her parents and siblings celebrated this victory and all voices and ideas that said,  she wouldn’t make it through school were debunked.

Alexandra went on to study nursing, midwifery and became the only medical person in the family. None of her brilliant science-oriented siblings ended up in the medical field and there were high hopes for at least one doctor…hahaha; although there were engineers, biochemistry who ended up as bankers and more.

Well, this story is not about her siblings but about Alexandra, a girl whom many thought couldn’t make it through school and she started to believe it herself too until she faced her mountain squarely in the face. Interestingly years later Alexandra would write her WAEC and scored credits and As in science subjects that she never did while in secondary school. She wanted to make her papers in one sitting and she did it.

Believe in yourself; Believe the best of your children and others. Never give up.

This is my immediate younger sister’s story and I am the older sister who had to face my father to get her to continue her education. I look at her today and marvel at the great woman she had become. Never give up on anyone, keep believing the best.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Did you ever Have a Female Physics or Chemistry Teacher👓📚?

Hello there, today 5th October is world teachers day. Yippee… Celebrate and appreciate all the teachers and mentors you ever had! 🎶🎶🎷🎺🎸🎹

On a humorous and serious note let me ask you this question : Did you ever have a female physics and Chemistry Teacher while in secondary school? I only had women as my biology teacher or home economics…. Haha where were all the ladies who studied physics and chemistry in college? Someone said that they landed big company jobs… OK now😀😀

But seriously I am curious,  was I the only one who didn’t have a female physics, chemistry or technical drawing teacher?

Please share the name of yours if you had one and give a shout out to her in the comments section. And if you are or were a teacher tell us what you teach/taught. Share your fondest memories from your teaching experience or about your teacher. 

My teaching memories/experience : I once taught English language and social studies in a secondary school. Those kids were a handful but I  had fun doing my job. Some work days were hard*wink 😀. Once I miss pronounced the word, “Bouquet”….my version of it “bucket”😀😀😀 Imagine o even as an English teacher! Not funny but it taught me to gain mastery of my subject.  Then I was a children Sunday school teacher. Now I teach/train/mentor others in the media profession. 

Of course we are celebrating every hardworking teacher on this beautiful day.

Here is a tribute to all teachers:
Teachers are molders, working hard to churn out great men and women into the society. Many times we forget and do not appreciate you. We want to say thank you for all you do. May you be rewarded grately for your many sacrifices.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

How far Would you go to Make Someone Special Happy?

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I have done silly and funny things to make people special in my life Happy in the past. One that readily comes to mind is baking a special birthday cake for my brother’s 10th birthday. By the way the cake didn’t turn out as well as I wanted as I was still learning but we had fun eating it anyway.😀 By the way I gave up that hobby, maybe I will try again soon. So can you remember that extra effort made to make someone special Happy? Please do share with us. 

Recently I had to travel from one end of the town to another to find a Poultry Farm. My mission alongside a team was to collect a number of chicken donated to support the celebration of some senior citizens to commemorate the world elders day celebration coming up 1st October, 2017.

It was a walk through a water logged pathway through the Bush. 😀We got some tiny insect bites too. See more on our journey to the poultry farm and gists about how meeting some older persons moved us in a very emotional way.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) 

GIVE Peace the Center Chair

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It is the International Peace Day every 21st of September.

When there is conflict women and children are the most vulnerable. Women are exposed to physical assault, rape and abuse. They struggle to watch over their children ; they go hungry while giving their babies and children the little food they can get.

When there is conflict children suffer malnutrition and are exposed to so much inhumane sights. They are out of school and loose time. Their education and future dreams suffer a huge set back.

When there is conflict men are out fighting and defending. Many families loose their men in conflicts living women to struggle with taking care of family members.

No one really wins a war for each side of the waring party suffer great loss. Rebuilding takes time and things will never be the same again.

Give dialogue a chance; Give peace the center chair.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)