What Kind of Legacy are you leaving Behind?

My grandfather laid the foundation stone of this Ago-Iwoye City Hall in 1979. 38years later his great grandchildren visits the place. I didn’t even know but it felt good to be a part of such a legacy.

What we do today, our children and their children will reap of the fruits.

What legacy are you investing time in for posterity? And it is not always about structures, buildings and wealth; Kind and good deeds last longer and yield a good harvest.

Have a great weekend.
Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Getting Your Hands Dirty in a Good Way – Story of Two Young Ladies

Two young ladies made an impression on me this week. I will call both of them Janet and Rose (not real names) respectively. Janet is a cleaner at an organization who needed this job badly at least from what I observed but she had an attitude problem. Often I hear of complaint that she spoke rudely to her supervisors each time she is queried for coming late to work or not doing her job well. I wondered how long she would last on this job.

Some time ago I remember having a conversation with Janet about not limiting herself to this cleaning job. I encouraged her to think of furthering her education. A few days ago I heard that Janet simply announced that she was no longer coming to work again as a cleaner…I was flabbergasted! Not that she didn’t have a right to leave this cleaning job but I knew it was about her not being ready to get her hands dirty to climb her ladder of success slowly but surely. I wondered what lay ahead, she may get pregnant again as she already had a baby whose father is nowhere to be found.

Never be ashamed or too proud to start small. Small things become big.

Rose on the hand is a Diploma student who came on Industrial attachment to the same organization Janet worked  in as a cleaner. While Rose was a student Intern she was up and doing learning all she could. Everyone spoke well of her as she was dutiful and respectful. Rose just finished her Industrial attachment and it coincided with Janet’s announcement of leaving.

What was baffling for me was that Rose quickly applied to be a cleaner to replace janet in the same organization to enable her to earn some money to further pursue her education!

Why I’m I surprised? It is not too often that I see a student willing to be a cleaner, washing toilets, sweeping offices and getting his/her hand dirty with dignity.

Many young people want to start from the top of the ladder of success instead of climbing up steadily like Janet.

I feel sorry for Janet and wonder what her life will eventually turn out to be. She is ill-equipped and ill-prepared for a life of independence with little or no education or skills. And instead of settling down to working her way up, she wants things to move fast. And as I observed her from afar, she has a lot of unserious men flocking around her and she is really enjoying the attention.

Getting our hands dirty in a good way, is a good thing.
Humility brings exaltation and promotion. There is dignity in labor.
Work is a good thing…It is a gift…It is a channel of blessings.

Adebisi Adetunji(C)

Great Posts to Inspire You from my Neighbors & Friends

I made a promise to visit pages of friends in the blogosphere and share my few take away posts with others. Here is a short list, I hope you find something to inspire you, I did. So dig in and click on the links. Have an inspiring week!

We all need that encouragement sometimes. So if you are feeling down here is one post that will lift your spirit – Sunday Giggles

Challenges everywhere, you are not alone, Margret says in this post Same for you

7 months into the Year be optimistic, start crossing off some things from your list and keep working. I enjoyed reading this post by Tikeetha – Welcome to July

Taking life as it comes. Check out Roos on her ranch taking it slow but still Working.

Imagine the stories that could come out of your time of thinking…a good musing here. How much do you appreciate the freedom you have? Visit Born providence – End- Title

Silence is not golden sometimes. When something is wrong speak up. Find out how Fola and some parents spoke up for their children when things went wrong. A House Divided

Are you a very busy person, sometimes you need to really slow down. A personal great lesson from Watching the daisies – Importance of taking it Slow.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Woman to Woman Talk #6 – “Je ki Oko o De” – Empower yourself Financially

This week let’s talk about empowering ourselves as women. “Je ki Oko o de” literally means “A woman who waits and depends on her husband to buy or pay for everything she needs personally or to keep the home running”.

Some time ago I heard of a woman whose husband set her up in a business two or three different times. I will call her Titi(not real name).
Titi enjoys sitting at home and watching movies, shopping for new clothes, visiting and chatting with friends. When it comes to running her business she isn’t interested. And so everytime she starts a business she ruins it losing both capital and profit. Titi is comfortable with just living a flamboyant life and sitting at home. Lucky for  her she has a man who is rich. However the man soon got fed up of having to help her set up any business and losing all the money. This became an issue in their family.

Another category of “Je Oko o De women are young ladies who are not even properly educated or come from a humble background.  They marry a man struggling to make ends meet and simply refuse to work.  The man is expected to take care of her, their 7 children and the home. If she wants to buy salt, sugar, food and even her underwears she waits for her dear husband to pay for everything! (Ridiculous). Such a woman is at the mercy of the poor husband who has to pay for everything. Unfortunately some of these men spend their money on other things and not on these wives.

So woman, lady here is the thing, It is time you make something out of your life! You need to be financially empowered!

It is time you pay attention to minding your business or career.

Lady forget that gist that a man us solely meant to be the provider. Some of my friends will say do you want to kill him in this economic recession! 😀.

And seriously you need to be free and able to meet some of your own financial needs. It is unfair to yourself and your husband to depend on him for everything. It is frustrating in my own opinion.

Why you need to earn your own money:
1) It enables you to be financially free,
2) You get that rewarding feeling that you can contribute to the upkeep of your family.
3) You have a sense of dignity being able to make some money no matter how little.
4) You are able to give your aged parents money without hassling your man to do it.
5) It eases money tension in the home and saves you the embarrassment of not been able to handle even simple money needs of your children.
6) God forbid anything happening to the man...I mean people die so what happens to you and your children. Especially if the man’s extended family are the type that will come and take over the man’s property leaving his wife with nothing.
7) Say your man even loses his job or business what will you all fall back on?Your own earnings can save the family financial embarrassment before your man finds his feet again.

The virtuous in the book of proverbs was a hard working business woman who provided for her household and her husband was respected in the gates of the city. STOP Being Lazy!

Time to pursue your dreams, time to mind your business and career.

In another post we will take a look at ways to make money as a woman. Till then enjoy your everyday life and know that you are special, woman.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

How to Build Anything Worthwhile that will Last

Building anything worthwhile requires a lot of hard work. Be willing to give time to building your life, relationships, children, family, career, business and even house.

Build with the right materials. Using substandard products to build is a disaster that will eventually happen.

So in everything build with love, patience, forgiveness, diligence and faith that it will all yield a good dividend… It will be worth your time.

How to Build and succeed

  • Spend time knowing more about what you have set out to build.
  • If it is marriage, read books and reach out to those who are succeeding at it.
  • If it is a career... Learn more about your job/business and keep learning.
  • Be prepared for the challenges that will definitely come while building. Make up your mind not to give up.
    Know when to change tactics but do not negotiate building with the best materials.
  • Build with honesty and integrity.
    Remember you don’t need to step on people or hurt them just because you are building.

Stop to lend a hand because you need people to help you build faster.

So what are you working on or building lately? How is it going? Share your little successes and discouragement. Thank you for sharing.

Photo Credit : Pixabay. Com

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

The In-between of Our Lives

While surfing through and visiting blogs to read new posts I came by this interesting post by Folakemi – “Children as retirement Plan”.

Fola shares the story of an 85 year old woman whose children seem to have abandoned. She has 5 children who can not be found except for 2 sons who still won’t take her in. Thankfully the state government took her in. The gist is that this woman now 85years old is troublesome and so couldn’t live with anyone. She has had 5 husband’s none of whom are available or willing to take care of her.

This woman’s story got me thinking. Our attitude, character and choices will have an impact on our lives even at old age. I am not judging this old woman… I mean every one of us have a fair share of lives upside and downside.

I read the story of an old man who died leaving not so much in terms of silver and gold for his children but left a lot of integrity, honesty and kindness behind. His daughter was particularly mad with him for not been like other fathers who left great riches. She ended up landing an inclusive big package job with a company owned by someone whom her father had shown great kindness to when he was looking for a job. She is earning a 7 figure salary now.

The In-betweens of Our lives matter. What we do now will affect our tomorrow.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)