That Story that Says – I Can Make it! Yes You Can!

As a creative person, story writer and producer I can smell a great story miles away. My ears are quick to pick up on a good story. Here we were in the office working and in comes a colleague. She had with her a copy of an admission letter to do her masters at the university. I was so excited for her because I had watched her grow from being a receptionist at the corporation to become an On-Air personality. I just had to get her to tell her story. I promise you,  It is indeed that kind of story that says – “YOU CAN MAKE IT, REGARDLESS OF YOUR BACKGROUND OR STRUGGLES”!

Her Story

My name is Lilian Onianwa(Née Ukandu)

My story is long I’ll try as much as I can to shorten it

I finished secondary school at  age16. I had everything planned out that is, get admission into the university to study medicine; finish up; get a masters degree and get married. Things didn’t work out as I planned.

I wrote the JAMB examination and got admission into Ebonyi State University to study Microbiology but only spent 2 years in the course and couldn’t continue. My father was in far away South Africa and somehow we were not getting any money from him because my stepmom was keeping it all for herself.

I had to drop out and moved to my grandmother’s house in Ibadan, Southwest Nigeria. I didn’t get tired of looking for admission because for me getting admission into school meant living…”How can I not go to school”?

I wrote many exams and got admitted into various tertiary institutions-OAU Ife, FUTA, and Wesley University Ondo. Each time the admission came through for me there would be no money to pay school fees. But I couldn’t just stop and fold my arms…NO. I knew that I didn’t have money to pay school fees but I just won’t stop! The joy in my heart each time I get these admission letters is immeasurable. I was hopeful and each time I’ll say to myself “at least it’s just money that is the remaining ingredient in my educational pursuit”. ‘I just wanted to go to school and I didn’t have a job either to support myself. I was living on a monthly allowance that I got from my Uncle.

In 2011, I finally got a job as a receptionist in a media organization, Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria (FRCN) with my Senior Secondary School Certificate and was earning 17,300 at the time barely enough to fend for myself. Life as a receptionist in FRCN was a different ball game. Half the time, people looked down on us a lot because to them “she is just a receptionist “. In fact, I was the staff with the lowest grade level and I was constantly bullied and degraded for that. There were times I would cry and cry but I kept telling myself that one day ‘I will bag a Ph.D.”.

Finally, I got an admission into the University of Ibadan to study Psychology in 2012. It was a Part-time course and I had to combine working at my job and studies. It was challenging especially when I became pregnant with my daughter. At times, I will be on duty and I’ll have to leave the office to go and write my exams and come back to work after the day’s exams…but I kept pushing.

In 2013, I wrote a letter to the management for Redeployment to the programmes department and with the help of  Mr. Gabriel Onafurume, the Deputy Director Programmes (DDP) at the time I was considered for it. I got redeployed to the Library because that was the only unit in the department that can take a low-level staff like me. I was a Level 4 officer. However, I knew I could do more so I joined a production team and began to feature on a programme called ‘Campus Beat’. This gave me an exposure to the art of presentation and programme production and it worked in my favor.

I have had 3 promotion interviews since I started working with FRCN. Each time I go before the interview panel and I’m asked to bring my credentials, and as I hand them my O’levels result, I die 30 times over. To the glory of God in the last promotion interview which held in January 2019, I went there with my B.Sc certificate! I graduated in 2018  with a 2.2. I was 0.1 shy of a 2.1.

After graduation, I wanted more, I had to go to the next phase and the Post Graduate school, the University of Ibadan will never take me with my Pass in Mathematics(which was graciously waved during my undergraduate level). So I went back to Secondary school and wrote NECO(July 2018) exams again after 14 years. Fortunately, I made all my subjects in that one sitting and now I’m on my way to studying a masters degree in Personality and Social Psychology. and I’m not stopping there as I intend to eventually bag a Ph.D.

What motivates me: Success
I want to be a very successful woman. I have a beautiful daughter and someday I want her to read the Newspapers and see something about her mother. There was no way that was going to happen if I didn’t go to school. No matter how wealthy I am as a ‘business’ woman with no degree I will never be fulfilled if I didn’t get my degrees.

All the while, I was alive but I wasn’t living. Getting a degree gave me a new life..now I’m fulfilled. I feel like I can tackle anything life throws at me now with confidence. But then some people may say ‘it’s just a degree’; to me, it’s not just a degree, it’s the key to a new life, a new ME and a breath of fresh air.

My dreams:

  • I want to become a Criminal Psychologist and I’m already working on that.
  • I hope to own a Television show that will focus on criminals especially the ones serving time for murder/homicide, investigation of the 24 hours leading up to when the crime was committed, what triggered that action and rehabilitation for the prisoners during and after prison. And this dream is very VALID!

You can Make it ; Yes you Can! 

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Broadcast Journalist, Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

#HappyNewMonth Celebrate Your Milestones

Just like that, the first quarter of the year 2019 is gone! It’s a new quarter and a new beginning, get yourself set mentally, emotionally and physical to make it count! How do you do that? Take a step back ; take a pause and appreciate your milestones. Be #Grateful.

There is always more and the best will yet happen for you! But remember –

If you can not appreciate where you are now then you will not be satisfied when you get to your desired destination!

Enjoy your week and have a truly blessed April.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Broadcast Journalist, Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

#MondayMotivation – Happiness is now not Tomorrow

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Happiness is now not tomorrow
Choose to be happy today for if you can not enjoy today’s little blessings, you will still not be contended when tomorrow’s blessings come.

Celebrate every mile stone
Celebrate everything and everyone in your life
Be happy today not tommorrow
Afterall you are only sure of this moment
Trust that your tomorrow will be alright!

Wishing you happy moments today and this week.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

#MondayMotivation – Make Your Disappointment a Springboard for Success

Welcome to a brand new week, full of new possibilities! Are you ready to go?! Do not let yesterday’s disappointments hold you back. Pick up the lessons, try again or move on to something else.

This will take about two minutes.

Have a productive and fruitful week!

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Broadcast Journalist, Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

#NuggetsforAProductiveWeek

Phones, Androids, Tablets have taken over almost every aspect of our lives. Yes, because it has become our relationship hub; business and work on the Go! So what happens if you forget your phone somewhere or lose it?! Moods are totally reset such that sometimes it feels like you are “naked”, “disconnected from the rest of the world” and so on.

We all need to switch off our phones sometimes & plan a phone free day. There is a lot that needs your attention apart from the phone world. Your calls and messages can wait…seriously you will come to find out that they do not need urgent attention as you thought. So set yourself free… Free up your fingers and ears… Plan a phone free day this week!

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Controller Programs (FRCN) Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

#GratitudeWeek Day 6 – A Cry in the Rain #Memories #Grateful

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If you trekked(long walk) and endured a lot during your NYSC(National Youth Service Corp) days then you must be greatful that you made it through like me😀

I remember the long walks from Roundabout Mokola to Dugbe(some kilometers) many times – no money

I remember walking home in the rain one day as I wept but no one could tell the difference between my tears and that of the rain

I remember that I had so much fun too.
I remember the day of our passing out after the one year service to our father land(Nigeria) . I held the certificate of discharge in my hand and wondered what the future holds for me.

Its been over 17 years now! My journey through the years has delivered to me opportunities I never imagined! Now I drive through those same kilometers and neighborhoods I had to walk through in the rain/high sunny day 🌞🌞⛈️

Tough Times Don’t Last… That painful and dark season will soon pass giving way to light and better days. DON’T GIVE IN.

So I am here today saying thank you Lord, Baba e seee! Glory to God!

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

#GratitudeWeek Day 3 : What Are you Grateful For?

Family Thanksgiving

I am grateful for the gift of family and friends.

I am grateful for every piece/post I get to finish and share ; sometimes it can be hard keeping up but I do it anyway.

I am grateful for the blogging community

I am grateful for every article that made a difference in someone’s life.

I am grateful for daily blessings of been able to get out of bed; clean and dress up; move my limbs; and cook.

I am grateful for the breath of fresh air

I am grateful for down times and times of been a little bit under the weather… He raises me up again.

Life is not beautiful because there are no challenges. It is beautiful because we can overcome & rise when we fall.

The one who is in my boat helps me through the storm… Jesus

So Grateful!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)