There is no medical or biological benefit in cutting the female genitalia. Instead It leaves a scar that brings a lifetime of complications to a woman and her wellbeing.
Cultures that practice FGMC belief it is a tight of passage to womanhood :
A woman is born complete and whole stop the cutting.
Another cultural belief system is the female circumstances prevents a girl/woman from being promiscuous but
It has been found that there are many sex workers who were circumcised.
Cutting a woman’s genital has nothing to do with promiscuity ; this is a matter of personal choice & character.
Bloggers & Social Media Influencers workshop organized by Young Men’s Foundation Against Sexual & Gender Based Violence.
Adebisi Adetunji (C)
We must learn to give back to society in every way possible and it is not always about money.
I had an opportunity, alongside colleagues in the media to help train young and upcoming media On-Air-Personalities.
The training included: Presentation Skills, Radio /TV production ; Scriptwriting, Pronunciation & Elocution, Handling of camera, Understanding the use of Yoruba language for the media.
My assignment was to train participants the art of Scriptwriting. This equipped them with tools for writing ; writing for radio/drama. It was exciting and fun to be able to share some of the skills acquired in my over 16 years working in the media.
It was a great time volunteering alongside some of my senior mentors in the industry like Gabriel Onafurume- Rtrd Deputy Programs Director, Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria; Omowunmi Adebola Bello- Assistant Deputy Director Programs FRCN and my very resourceful & creative colleague, Tolu Adepoju – TV/Radio media consultant.
Success is reproducing yourself in others as a manager.
Talent is not enough – John C. Maxwell
Adebisi Adetunji (C)
Two young ladies made an impression on me this week. I will call both of them Janet and Rose (not real names) respectively. Janet is a cleaner at an organization who needed this job badly at least from what I observed but she had an attitude problem. Often I hear of complaint that she spoke rudely to her supervisors each time she is queried for coming late to work or not doing her job well. I wondered how long she would last on this job.
Some time ago I remember having a conversation with Janet about not limiting herself to this cleaning job. I encouraged her to think of furthering her education. A few days ago I heard that Janet simply announced that she was no longer coming to work again as a cleaner…I was flabbergasted! Not that she didn’t have a right to leave this cleaning job but I knew it was about her not being ready to get her hands dirty to climb her ladder of success slowly but surely. I wondered what lay ahead, she may get pregnant again as she already had a baby whose father is nowhere to be found.
Never be ashamed or too proud to start small. Small things become big.
Rose on the hand is a Diploma student who came on Industrial attachment to the same organization Janet worked in as a cleaner. While Rose was a student Intern she was up and doing learning all she could. Everyone spoke well of her as she was dutiful and respectful. Rose just finished her Industrial attachment and it coincided with Janet’s announcement of leaving.
What was baffling for me was that Rose quickly applied to be a cleaner to replace janet in the same organization to enable her to earn some money to further pursue her education!
Why I’m I surprised? It is not too often that I see a student willing to be a cleaner, washing toilets, sweeping offices and getting his/her hand dirty with dignity.
Many young people want to start from the top of the ladder of success instead of climbing up steadily like Janet.
I feel sorry for Janet and wonder what her life will eventually turn out to be. She is ill-equipped and ill-prepared for a life of independence with little or no education or skills. And instead of settling down to working her way up, she wants things to move fast. And as I observed her from afar, she has a lot of unserious men flocking around her and she is really enjoying the attention.
Getting our hands dirty in a good way, is a good thing.
Humility brings exaltation and promotion. There is dignity in labor.
Work is a good thing…It is a gift…It is a channel of blessings.
How do you see those Naira/Dollar notes that flow through your fingers? It is more than just a paper you transact with. It more than just using it to acquire things.
How you view money will determine your attitude towards it. Your attitude towards money will in turn cause it to grow or disappear no matter how much passes through your hands.
While growing up we all don’t get to go to a school where we are taught how to manage money and make it grow. Like everyone else we learn the lessons along the way stumbling and making loads of costly mistakes.
Earning more or making more money is not the issue but how to manage and grow money is the thing. How do we grow our monies to become a tree that will sustain us at retirement? I am also talking about Money that will be a legacy for those who will come after us when we are gone. Now that is the kind of money I’d like to have!
More money can mean more frustration if you do not know how to keep planting some of it as seeds.
How to achieve successs at planting your money seed:
- Don’t spend all you make or earn.
- Save an amount daily no matter how small. A N100 or 1 dollar daily is a great way to start.
- Don’t spend all you have in acquiring things, invest and be disciplined now so you can enjoy your tomorrow.
- You don’t have to make a statement trying to be like everyone. Plan… Plan.. and spend less than you earn.
- Have a target amount you intend to save.
- Decide the time you want to have achieved this. For example, 1-5 year plan.
- Have a purpose for saving. What do you want to do with the money you are saving.
- When the money comes rolling in invest in the lives of others. Give back to the society.
These points are my personal Lessons drawn from reading chapter 1 of the book: Multiple Streams of Income by Robert G. Allen.
Adebisi Adetunji (C)