In the News : 37 year Old Woman Gives birth to 38 Children!!😱

A Ugandan Woman named Mariam Nabatanzi Babirye has the photo of herself, husband and some of her 38 Children splashed all over the pages of newspapers and social media.

As I stared at the photo of this “massive” family my jaws dropped open for a long while😱. Being a mother myself I can’t even begin to imagine having to go through birth pains 5 times not to talk of 38 times!! It is simply writing a suicide letter in my opinion. Expert says that having too many children increases a woman’s health risk

Mariam’s story is that she was given off in marriage at age 12 to a 40 year old man. A child abuse case, I mean I don’t understand the excuse that it Is because parents are ignorant that makes it easy to give away a child in marriage. This has to stop!

I believe it is only by sheer Providence that Mariam survived these births which were mostly probably delivered by a local midwife before she finally arrived at a hospital. Now the world knows her story. Haaaaa it is simply not a funny matter to me!!

By age 40 possibly the ware and tear of her body may soon start manifesting in form of one ailment or the other.

Medically the reason she has had multiple births is because she is hyper-ovulating. Meaning that she her ovaries releases multiple eggs monthly.
They say ignorance is costly and it is not an excuse. I can’t help but think about the what ifs of Maria’s case.
If only she and her husband had known better ; if only a family member or friend or neighbor had pointed her in the way of a permanent modern family planning method solution. Seriously somebody should have told her that her ovaries and even the uterus could be removed.

Anatomy – medicine. com

Somebody said the children didn’t look hungry or under nourished in the photo. Maybe because their father is a farmer? How big is his farm to be able to feed a family of 40 including making extra money to cloth and send them to school?

My what ifs returns… Seriously having too many children puts the mother, children and even the father at risk. High blood pressure from not having enough to care for them will set in.

Another angle to this is that government needs to better equip and strengthen primary health centers in villages and communities. It is my business; it is your business to save a mother and child.

Maternal deaths can be prevented through adequate health education and family planning.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Training Opportunity: Safe Motherhood Education

I wish I had had an opportunity to learn about safe motherhood as a young girl/lady. In preparing a girl to settle down in marriage mothers are expected to teach her to cook, clean, wash and manage a home. Then as your wedding day draws near you get a little gist about satisfying your man sexually…Bedroom matters that nobody even gives you detailed instruction about how it works. We usually stumble along the way finding out as days, weeks and months pass by. Well this is a story for another blog post.

This post is about how to equip young women single and married about safe motherhood. Trust me this is very important especially if you intend to have children. My personal story and journey into motherhood was a turbulent one. It almost cost my life and that of my baby. I simply didn’t know and my young husband didn’t know any better. We made a lot of unhealthy mistakes that even now I still regret.

Knowledge they say is power…here is an opportunity to get the necessary information and keys to a safe motherhood…it might save your life or someone close to you.

Who is organizing the Training?
Life Builders, a Non-profit Organization is facilitating this training

Theme: Safe Motherhood Education Training

It is a flexible two days (Saturdays) training spread across two weekends.

What to expect/Topics:

First Day – 8th April, 2017
Before Pregnancy: Know Yourself; Prepare yourself
During Pregnancy: Attending Ante natal; Periodic Pelvic Scans
During Labour

Second Day – 22nd April, 2017
Post-Partum Period: Breast feeding, Immunization, Exercises that will help the uterus return to pre pregnancy stage;
Nutrition: Know your baby; Weaning Class; Eating for two and still maintaining a good shape.
Family Planning/next pregnancy: Sex Post-Partum, Child Spacing/Contraceptive; Returning to work/day care/housekeeper; Cancer Prevention – Periodic check

Venue: Life Builders, Ikolaba Agodi G. R. A, Ibadan.
Time/Duration: 10am – 2pm daily

Facilitators:

Dr. Otolorin

Mrs Grace Oluwatoye – 08033745604

Mrs Kilanko

To participate in this training – Send your name to these numbers 07013141188, 08132338817 (50 Slots available)
Email: lifebuildersnig@gmail.com

Adebisi Adetunji ©

Interesting Take Away from the training “Effective Family Planning Projection on Social Media” Presentation by Mrs Stella Akinso

Family Planning is having children by choice not by chance.

Data/Statistics of maternal deaths is not just figures…these are real people…human beings.

Family Planning is able to prevent 40% of maternal mortality. Women of reproductive age at high birth risks include:
• Those who get pregnant too early in age.
• Giving birth at very short intervals
• Too old an age

Government and policy makers need to wake up and take necessary action to end maternal and child mortality. Family planning is key to the sustainable millennium goals.

It is time to stop the lines – “Only 1 woman/person died”. No woman should have to die giving life to another.

OUR Population is multiplying and not just doubling in Nigeria. We should ask ourselves do we have resources to cater for our increasing population? 2 million youths get churned out into the labor market every year and there are no jobs!

Family planning is not saying don’t have children but have only the number you can cater for. Men need to get more involved in making an informed choice about family planning for their family.

Benefits of Family Planning
• More working-age people supporting few number of children
• Access to sex education and contraceptive
• Slow population growth
• Results in better breastfeeding as the mother can give enough time for proper care of the baby without having a too early pregnancy.

How a young person should refuse sexual advances: Communicate NO properly. Use your facial expression, hands and tone of voice to say NO. If the other person insists on touching you inappropriately push if you have to and walk away…Don’t be passive and stand there…WALK AWAY.

Stella Akinso is the State Team Leader for Nigerian Urban Health Initiative 2, Oyo.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Guest Interview : Toyin Odedele-Odugbesan (WhatsupIbadan) / CEO Geomeridien

At an on-going training for Social Media Bloggers on Effective Family Planning Projection organized by DEVCOMS NETWORK, I met this fantastic Lady doing great things.

Her story is real, funny and inspiring for every woman out there and even men.

I will sum up her story with these words:

Where you think there is nothing, therein lies your future

Toyin Odedele-Odugbesan is the co-founder of a blog platform named: WhatsupIbadan where she works alongside her husband as Marketing manager. Toyin is also the CEO Geomeridien travel and tours business intertwined with community service.

How did she get here?
Toyin was offered a Diploma admission into the Olabisi Onabanjo University in Ogun State Nigeria to study Transport and Management. It was not what her heart was set on doing but you know how parents will want their child to start any available course instead of waiting at home to write JAMB again. This will mean another year of wait.

Toyin’s words: My first thought when I was offered this course (Transport & Management) was the “Agberos”(Bus conductors) or at best a Taxi Cab driver. For like three months I didn’t attend classes.

It was like she had been sentenced to the worst kind of course which had no future prospect little did she know that therein laid her dream career ticket.

Bisi: So what changed things for you?
Toyin: My first-semester result was bad. I barely passed, this woke me up. I, therefore, determined to study hard. As time passed by and I came to a realization that transportation covered is a wide field and offers me an array of career opportunities. I found out that there were different categories of transport such as Land, Air, Water, Cargo to Ship. I discovered that I could work in Customs service, VIO, Ministry of works and transport, tourism and much more. Soon I fell in love with my course.

Initially, she thought of studying Economics at the BSc level after finishing her diploma instead she went further with a degree in Transport and Management.

Bisi: What happened after your first degree?
Toyin: The Tourism aspect of my course struck me most and it became my passion this led me to do a Masters in Tourism and Hospitality Management in India.

Bisi: What did it feel like studying in a foreign country?
Toyin: At first it was difficult adjusting to the new culture. I found my way gradually and began to mingle. Where I come from we greet everyone but I noticed people kept to themselves. I started to take the initiative to say hello to people I meet every day from the security man to the gadner and my schoolmates too. People began to warm up to me. Over there in India far away from home, I engaged in community service visiting Orphanage homes and even organized a summer event that brought rich and poor children’s children together. This I did in collaboration with my colleagues in school, lecturers who bought into our idea. It was a rich rewarding and fulfilling time.

Bisi: When did you start your business?
Toyin: All these community service activities inspired me to start my Travels and Tours business back in India even as a student. Now we are also here in Nigeria. Our business name is Geomeridien Travels & Tours.

Bisi: So what is next for you?
Toyin: I continue to look for ways I can reach out more to my communities and make a difference.

Bisi: Your Life’s Motto/Inspiration

Toyin: What you give to life is what life gives back to you.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Fibi- Pregnant but must go Through a Rite

Fibi was eight months pregnant. It was time for the rite to be performed. She dreaded it but it must be done. Everything was set for the celebration. Her entire family was not going to be quiet about it…they wanted to show her off. Their eight months pregnant daughter must go the way of other women in their community.

The day finally arrived  and the circumciser was ready with her tools.

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Fibi’s screams could be heard miles away as she was cut. Dancing and celebration filled the atmosphere, Fibi had made them all proud. Her unborn child can now safely pass through the birth canal without fear of been touched by the forbidden clitoris.  The community’s belief is that it would cause the baby’s death. 

But Fibi started to bleed. She was later rushed to the hospital. No one was sure mother and baby would pull through.

Another case of female genital mutilation and cutting only this one endangers pregnant women as their culture demands that they get circumcised at 8months into conception.

As a mother I know what it is like going through Labour pains. Already without been circumcised, the  birth experience for any mother can come with a number of  complications so why increase the risk.  I have undergone surgery at the hospital during the birth of my first baby due to excessive bleeding. My  vagina was also cut (not circumcision) by my doctor as my second baby found her way into the world. She was a big baby. The after effect of these cuts is best imagined.

Why should a woman be circumcised one month to the delivery of her baby? This is simply a double torture.

As to the believe that the baby can die if the mother is not circumcised before birth… This is not TRUE. I am a living proof and so are many other mothers who were not circumcised and had healthy and living babies.

Please help spread the word:

Female Circumcision /genital mutilation and cutting has no medical, physical or Spiritual benefits.

Instead many girls /women struggle on with the negative effects years after it had been done. That is if they live to tell their stories.

Female genital mutilation and cutting is a known cause of prolonged Labour as the scared birth canal might be too narrow for the baby to pass through. It simply puts mother and child at risk.

#EndFGM.

Photo Credit : Unicef

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

A happy-healthy mother, A healthy baby

HAPPY MOTHER HAPPY BABY

Breastfeeding is important to the all-round development and well-being of every baby.
Evidence show that Malnutrition is a major cause of mortality in children under 5years old.

Every mother should eat a balanced diet in order to have necessary nutrients in her breast milk.

Maternal and child health must be a concern for all.

Encourage a mother to eat healthy and feed her baby healthy. Inadequate intake of food causes malnutrition in children which has an adverse effect on their future development.

Encourage nursing mothers to go for post natal-care and ensure that their baby takes all immunization dozes.

Mothers need to be better educated about feeding themselves and babies with adequate and nutritious foods.

A healthy mother, a healthy baby.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)