A Note from Me to You… Missed you… Life Happened๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ

Hi,
How have you been? The year 2017 is speeding away quickly, I imagine you have a lot of end of year activities going on. Take things easy do what you can and let things sort themselves out one after the other.

I want to appreciate you – followers, friends in the blogging community, family, readers and everyone for been a part of my blogging journey and world. From my heart you make me to keep wanting to write. Thank you so much๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒน๐Ÿ˜

Reading & visiting other Blogs:
Please bear with me if I haven’t been able to visit your page. Most times I am only able to take a quick look at a few blogs. That I hope to change soon.

Why Blogging Slowed Down
I haven’t been able to blog for a over a week now or follow a well planned out blogging routine inspite of all the post ideas running through my head. Other life issues are demanding for my attention.

What Has been Up with me:
My life these past few weeks has been a roller coaster of office work, workshop, deadlines and caring for my family. And in between I had to nurse my daughter who was under the weather and we both got stuck at home for days. I had to work from home and even missed going to church on Sunday. At first I murmured and complained about the stress but then I discovered it was an opportunity to bond even more with my daughter. We read the Bible together and I got to answer a lot of questions bugging her young mind. We also laughed a lot together too as we did some fun things together while I was recording some effects for a radio drama I was packaging.

I learned the value and blessings of family time. Just yesterday my children told me that I was the best mom in the whole wide world *wink *…. I felt really loved and special when my daughter added that she was happy that I took really good care of her when she was I’ll. Suddenly all my stress was worth it.

Work will never be more important than your family. Be there for them and share fond memories.

I will find a way around my blogging schedule soon. I wish you and your family great blessings this season!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)
BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development.
Email :bisimodupe1975@gmail.com
Twitter : @DebisiBusybee

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The Last Lap of the Race…December 2017 is here!! ๐ŸŒ‹ #Encouragement

๐Ÿ‘Ÿ๐Ÿ‘Ÿ๐Ÿ‘Ÿ๐Ÿ‘Ÿ๐Ÿ‘Ÿ๐Ÿ‘Ÿ๐Ÿ‘Ÿ If you have ever been part of a long distance or miles race then you know that feeling when you look ahead and see the finishing line. Definitely your muscles will be aching and you are probably breathing through your mouth taking in as much air as you can. What keeps you going is that hope of finishing your race soon.

At the beginning of a race when the whistle goes off, all runners take off at once each still full of energy and the determination to win the race. Soon some will drop off the race for many reasons ranging from not been fit to endure the pain or simply just giving up.

Hope you haven’t given up on yourself and goals yet? Remember this journey of the year 2017 is your own race. There is no need to compare your successes or achievements with that of others.

Time to count your blessings as some other persons unfortunately didn’t make it this far but you made it. Be grateful and list your blessings, achievements and successes. Every little thing counts, celebrate your small and big successes.

I have so much I am grateful for that listing them will take the whole day but here is a few:

  • For the times when I failed and learned a few lessons.
  • For close doors though painful but led to new and beautiful opportunities.ย 
  • ย For strength to go on even when I am weak.ย 
  • My children’s school promotion and ability to learn and apply knowledge.
  • My husband’s new milestone of owing his own school and building his business.ย 
  • ย Gift of friends and family
  • ย Gift of work
  • Gift of life and health
  • The gift of blogging ๐Ÿ˜€
  • And so much more

So here is the thing... You made it this far, have faith; have hope. All will end well in spite of the unpleasant experiences.

Happy New month!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C) BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development. @DebisiBusybee

People, Places and Sights From My Travels

Meeting People, making new friends and catching up with old friends and family is the best part of our successes.

Visit to Spar biggest shopping mall in Portharcourt in company of family in-laws
Participants at media review meeting workshop on ending FGMC
Walking to the conference hall for media review meeting on Pim pim pim drama – ending FGMC with a dear friend – Joyce Unegbu
At Spar shopping mall in Portharcourt. Standing beside a television that costs over 2million Naira!! I had to take this photo๐Ÿ˜€

Places and Sights teach us a lot about the culture and life of others. And most importantly our eyes and minds are more open to the views of others.

A school on mid day break behind my brother in-laws house in Portharcourt. It’s a window zoom in picture ๐Ÿ˜€
Front view of the Tinapa Lakeside hotel in Cross River, Calabar.
People making jogging and morning exercise a habit in Enugu. I hear it’s the new norm in the state… Really nice.
Former Ebony TV live studios at Tinapa, Calabar
Dinning area at Tinapa hotel
About boarding the aircraft on my way again to another destination. This air line will have to pay for this free advertisement ๐Ÿ˜€

These are a few of the photos I took while traveling through the eastern part of Nigeria on an assignment.

Adebisi Adetunjiย (C)ย 
BusyBee Media for Social Change & Development
Phone: +(234)-07083403146, Email-bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

Help me Here – How Can One Show Support, Love & Understanding to Single Parents(Moms)

Pinterest : A free online magazine for Single Moms

This post was inspired by a stirring in my heart. And so I take it seriously and really want to feel the pulse of people. So I need your contributions whether from personal experience or from observing a family member or friend.

Background to this
I was watching a movie last night and the story line centered on four struggling women. It is a story of friendship & support, family and career struggles. These women mirrored the reality of some women. Out of the four women, three of them had relationship issues, in fact one of them became a single mother of two after going through a divorce. The fourth woman in the group seemingly had a happy marriage and a great career. She was the envy of others and also gave hope to many. However all was not well. At the end of the movie she had to walk away from the marriage and build her life afresh.

Where I am going with this story :
I do not intend to waste your time. The issue here was my attitude to these women’s lives. I judged them quickly labeling them with titles I wouldn’t like to list here. This is not right. But to sum up my feeling I thought … “Their bad choices got them to where they were now”. I even felt that these women were bad examples for those of us wanting a well packaged life. I have no right to judge these women who are faced with issues beyond them. And so I am sorry for not extending an arm of love and kindness.

Hmmmn… When things are working for you, remember that you are only enjoying the mercies of God.

And bam! The Lord started to prompt me in my heart. He showed me how even in church we raise our noses at the single parents especially women… Wondering how they got left alone to take care of their children ; wondering whether she was careless and got herself pregnant! Again that judging attitude…

Questions that popped up in my heart were these:

  • How have I showedย sincere love, care and support for the single parents in church and even in my circle? I must say not much or nothing intentional in my opinion.
  • Do we have programs that cater for the needs of our single parents/moms? I mean there is always programs for the married, youth, ministers etc but not for single parents.
  • What can we begin to do about reaching out to them? God loves them and has great plans for them.

This is where you help me:

Please share your thoughts on how we can better support single parents(moms).

This is not a data gathering post or just wanting to publish for publishing sake… I want to begin to do something about supporting single parents in my sphere of influence.

And if you are a single parent… I want you to know that you are not alone. You are strong, brave and doing your best with raising your children… Never forget that. ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’

Come unto me all you that labor and are heavy Laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Settling in at the Office after a Break

Hello,
Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read, comment, like or just being invisible but perusing my blog page. Really do appreciate you.๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

This week had me settling in and attending to work assignments after my annual vacation.

Vacation?

Ask me how that went? Oh well… A mixed bag of fun with my children and I on a visit to grandpa’s farm; building a tree house etc.

Then I sat down developing an FGMC radio drama serial script. In between, I published some posts on my blog

Then I started to feel bored staying at home and resting… Can you imagine… I should be grateful for the vacation o!

Resumption of Workย 

Guess what? ย Now that I have resumed work, ย I sincerely miss the relaxed schedule and time I had.

Now I am in the middle of working with a team planning for the 2017 world elders day celebration organized by my media organizationย – the Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria, Ibadan Zonal Station … Looking forward to giving our senior citizens a memorable day come 2nd October. You don’t want to know what this assignment entails… Lots of letter writing, brain storming session, sourcing for funds/sponsorship… Etc. The Theme for International Older Persons Day: “Stepping into the future: Tapping the Talents, Contributions, and participation of older persons in the society”.

Then I am back already co-presenting on a live family show. I so missed my “radio husband”… Together we mirror the stresses of couples/family life and get solutions from our dear audience

That’s not all… I seem to be saddled with producing all the health & fitness programs on my station… So here I am on resumption worrying about scheduling studio recordings for the physiotherapy group in Oyo State and this other gym guy who wants to wake listeners up early in the morning to exercise… ๐Ÿ˜ธ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿ˜€

Still trying to work with my story writing partner on the way forward with a new drama series… So you see resuming work after a long vacation is not something to look forward to sometimes๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

But hey work I must and I am grateful for the gift of work. So please bear with me if I am not able to publish as often. But as soon as I am done settling in I will do more Posts. Well, tomorrow might just find me ready to publish a post! Hahaha.

I will also catch up on reading posts from my blogging friends and community. Missed reading your engaging and fun posts.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Sunday Inspiration : That time When getting Admitted into School was Difficult for Me – Your Struggles & Pain Will Work out For Good

Just me looking back and grateful
A house my family & I lived in for many years in Kano.

Today when I look back I am amazed at how things turned out for me in terms of getting an education.

By the way I went to a public school and back then you could get quality education unlike nowadays that parents enrolled their children in private schools and pay so much simply because the standard at our public schools have really fallen. Now back to my own story.

In primary five students start to write entrance exams to get into secondary/high school. So by the time you get into your final class you already had a number of schools to choose from judging by the number of admission letters you have in your hand.ย My parents wanted me to go to a particular popular school for girls in Kano. The girls who attended that school were brilliant and stood out. I wrote the exams and was one of the lucky ones selected. I was excited but alas one day at my head teachers office I found out that my place had been given to another girl. I was terribly disappointed. Since I didn’t write another school’s exam I had to wait a while and struggled to get into another secondary school. I ended up at a school somewhere in Borno state still in the North. I spent only one session in that school as I couldn’t cope with the life there. It was tough and rugged and the school was in the middle of nowhere out of town and in the bush.

Finally I was rescued and taken to Jos, Plateau state and my first school was Naraguta grammar school… Not the standard my dad wanted. I was always coming first and my dad felt there wasn’t enough competition for me๐Ÿ˜€
But most importantly it was there that I understood what it meant to know God in a personal way. Jesus found me and I came to know him in a very special way. Funny how the Lord leads our path.

After that school I went to Baptist High school in Jos still and it was a marvelous time been taught by teachers like Mr Stone, Miss Gaines- I really still do miss her Bible lessons because it was full of stories, real life issues. Quickly the years went by and I was preparing to get into the university/college. I thought it would be easy but I was in for a bumpy ride and long journey. First I failed my physics and chemistry subjects. You see I was a science student and had the intention of becoming a doctor… Hmmmn the dream of every parent back then as it was a prestigious profession.

I wrote WAEC like four times and all my private lesson teacher’s coaching still didn’t help me to pass my science subjects. I remember going to a center to check my third WAEC result. As I looked through my list and saw that I failed my physics, chemistry and biology again I made up my mind that enough was enough. It was then that I made a u-turn and decided to register for art subjects. This time around I passed them seamlessly. It became clear that I wasn’t cut out for the medical line and I told my dad so.

It is important to study your child’s strength and guide him/her ย in the right direction.

Somewhere in between all of these I still enrolled for a pre-degree course at the University of Jos with the intention of doing one of the science courses. You can guess what happened : I failed badly wasting another two years. At last I decided to seek admission to study law at the University of Jos. It was another struggle, they just wouldn’t admit me for so many reasons. All the while I was praying hard that God will show up for me. In fact I wondered why it had to be a struggle to move to each stage of my education.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts neither are my ways your ways.

God had a better plan and through all my delay and struggle He was working things out. His good plans for my life were unfolding. Everything I experienced and everywhere I had been were all part of the plan and necessary to make become the person I am today.

We may not understand why we have to go through things sometimes but God always has a better plan for his children.

Finally without struggle I got an admission into Bayero University Kano and I didn’t even want to go there because that was were I grew up and for other reasons. I got to study the course English and specialized in literature. One of the reasons Iit had to be that school was clear to me years later… It was there I met my husband ๐Ÿ˜€

Today I have a masters in Social Work and I look back still amazed at how the Lord brought me around in full circle.

You may seem delayed God is working.
Your good and bad experiences will all work out for your good.

We don’t need to understand all the plans but we can trust him and He does really know what he is doing… Beautifying your life.

I don’t know your struggles and I know it can be hard, I am here to say have faith; fear not, it will all work out for your good.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Hard or Soft Toothbrush, Which do you Prefer?!

I choose soft Toothbrush anytime any day! So the other day my son forgot his toothbrush at the sleep over party of his cousin. As a good mummy o, I gave him mine “wink’. Then I decided to change everyone’s brush in the house so I went shopping.

I ended up at a neighborhood shop not my usual practice and I regretted it. There were these nicely packaged brushes looking like what I needed. I made the purchase and was very happy about it.

I opened my own pack and my teeth felt the harshness. I decided to use the one I bought for my husband with the intention of getting him another one later. This brush left me with a wound in my mouth. That was it… I had to go back to the big shopping mall with “correct soft toothbrushes”!

I am happy with my new toothbrush only still nursing the sore in my mouth.

Take my advice go for soft toothbrushes. Your gum and mouth need tender loving care.

Seriously who makes this hard toothbrushes that look like wire?!
Enjoy your weekend ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Adebisi Adetunji (C)