Help me Here – How Can One Show Support, Love & Understanding to Single Parents(Moms)

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This post was inspired by a stirring in my heart. And so I take it seriously and really want to feel the pulse of people. So I need your contributions whether from personal experience or from observing a family member or friend.

Background to this
I was watching a movie last night and the story line centered on four struggling women. It is a story of friendship & support, family and career struggles. These women mirrored the reality of some women. Out of the four women, three of them had relationship issues, in fact one of them became a single mother of two after going through a divorce. The fourth woman in the group seemingly had a happy marriage and a great career. She was the envy of others and also gave hope to many. However all was not well. At the end of the movie she had to walk away from the marriage and build her life afresh.

Where I am going with this story :
I do not intend to waste your time. The issue here was my attitude to these women’s lives. I judged them quickly labeling them with titles I wouldn’t like to list here. This is not right. But to sum up my feeling I thought … “Their bad choices got them to where they were now”. I even felt that these women were bad examples for those of us wanting a well packaged life. I have no right to judge these women who are faced with issues beyond them. And so I am sorry for not extending an arm of love and kindness.

Hmmmn… When things are working for you, remember that you are only enjoying the mercies of God.

And bam! The Lord started to prompt me in my heart. He showed me how even in church we raise our noses at the single parents especially women… Wondering how they got left alone to take care of their children ; wondering whether she was careless and got herself pregnant! Again that judging attitude…

Questions that popped up in my heart were these:

  • How have I showed sincere love, care and support for the single parents in church and even in my circle? I must say not much or nothing intentional in my opinion.
  • Do we have programs that cater for the needs of our single parents/moms? I mean there is always programs for the married, youth, ministers etc but not for single parents.
  • What can we begin to do about reaching out to them? God loves them and has great plans for them.

This is where you help me:

Please share your thoughts on how we can better support single parents(moms).

This is not a data gathering post or just wanting to publish for publishing sake… I want to begin to do something about supporting single parents in my sphere of influence.

And if you are a single parent… I want you to know that you are not alone. You are strong, brave and doing your best with raising your children… Never forget that. 🌸🌸💝

Come unto me all you that labor and are heavy Laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

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How far Would you go to Make Someone Special Happy?

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I have done silly and funny things to make people special in my life Happy in the past. One that readily comes to mind is baking a special birthday cake for my brother’s 10th birthday. By the way the cake didn’t turn out as well as I wanted as I was still learning but we had fun eating it anyway.😀 By the way I gave up that hobby, maybe I will try again soon. So can you remember that extra effort made to make someone special Happy? Please do share with us. 

Recently I had to travel from one end of the town to another to find a Poultry Farm. My mission alongside a team was to collect a number of chicken donated to support the celebration of some senior citizens to commemorate the world elders day celebration coming up 1st October, 2017.

It was a walk through a water logged pathway through the Bush. 😀We got some tiny insect bites too. See more on our journey to the poultry farm and gists about how meeting some older persons moved us in a very emotional way.

Adebisi Adetunji (C) 

Little things matter – My Android Phone and I

Getting my Andriod phone was for me a matter of necessity. I didn’t buy one to show off or be part of the trend…although that is not exactly an out of place thing. I remember bringing out my old phone that could only take pictures, make calls and receive text messages amongst friends or a business meeting…oh…it was kind of embarrassing. Especially when you see everyone at the table in a meeting sliding their fingers across their Android phone while you struggle to press on the keypad of your “torch light phone” as we call it. 

And then someone will say are you on whatsapp? Definitely not, I didn’t own a smart phone that time. Good old Nokia phone…they are die hards. My small torch light phone has survived many falls into unthinkable places for the life span of a phone. I was to later miss this when my newly acquired Android which by the way I saved for to get suddenly refused to charge!!!

The diagnosis at the phone care center of the brand I bought  was that I had a charging port problem. At first, I was relieved but my quick fix was not going to happen as fast as I wanted. The company didn’t have the parts available…I stood looking at the customer care lady with a glare that said, “you guys can’t be serious”! But I was told to keep checking in until the charging port part arrives from wherever which had no particular date…frustrating!!

Even waiting at the reception of the phone care center felt like I was waiting to see the doctor at the hospital only this was a phone clinic. I went home disappointed that day and came back a few days later determined to get my phone fixed ,”sorry they said again, the parts are yet to arrive”.

That day I met a fellow frustrated phone user who had like three batteries all for one phone. He advised me to buy an extra battery and a strong desktop charger to solve my problem. So off I went shopping for a desktop charger and screen saver. After getting the desktop charger another challenge came up. I soon found out that Android batteries were more powerful than desktop chargers. So I would charge my battery for like 12 hours before I get a certain percentage of my charged battery which will quickly run down.

It wasn’t funny because I had come to depend on my Android phone to do my work on the go. God bless the brains behind this technology. I would send WhatsApp messages, attend to my emails; work on my social media platforms and even write on my blog all on the go!!

Lessons I learned while waiting to get my phone fixed
• Never be careless with your gagdet. Getting it is not enough even when you denied yourself to be able to afford it. You have got to take good care of it.
• Android phones don’t come cheap but they are not as rugged as good old phones that can withstand any pressure.
• When plugging your charger on your phone’s charging point handle with care. It can easily get spoilt as is the case in my experience.
• Plug the phone yourself and not your young children who can mishandle it
• Be patient seasons of phonelessness don’t last 

Today after three long weeks I finally got a new charging port for my phone but not without a fight(not physical). So I called the phone clinic and I get the good news that the much awaited charging port parts have arrived. I quickly rushed to the phone company fix it center only to be told that according to company policy I will have to leave my phone for a week. Reason…there many other phones under repair. “No way”, I said and then I got an idea to call the nice young man who happened to be one of the engineers I had been communicating with inquiring about the parts. Hurray! he offered to get my phone fixed and within an hour my Android phone had a brand new charging port.

I am so happy that my phone is back and alive…Grateful!! Funny how a small charging port problem became a big issue!!

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Sunday Musings: Being a Wife and Mother

So we finished worshipping God in church thanking Him for all his faithfulness for the past month being the first Sunday in April. It is always a thanksgiving day for us.

After the church service, my daughter had this idea that we should take her out to celebrate her birthday. Guess what? Her birthday is still some weeks to come in April but because celebrants for the month usually cut a cake and are prayed for she felt that her day starts today… Hehehe…

We all joked about it and laughed but she was serious. So we placated her promising to buy her snacks and drinks on the way home. All the while we were thinking of how much will still be spent in marking her 10th birthday…. So we played smart parents!!!

Guess where I am now? In the market trying to get stuffs for lunch. Now I wished I had followed my daughter’s wish to eat out. 

After this market stress… I am off to the kitchen. Oh… the joys and stress of “wifehood and motherhood”.

Happy Sunday.😀😀

Adebisi Adetunji (C)