Hurting? How to Heal and Move On


When life puts your back on the ground don’t stay down get up.

Those who get up from a fall can begin to walk again. What if lt is a broken leg? At least you can start the process of mending and healing.

This post is inspired by a story I heard recently. A man breaks a girl’s heart or vice versa and the individual gets stuck In that experience. Sounds familiar right? Oh.. but I have moved on… Really? Check out how you treat yourself and the opposite gender.

Do other men or women have to pay for your past hurt?
Are you still having trust issues… I mean a bad case of mistrust?
Then surely you are still hurting.

How to stop hurting
* Acknowledge that you are hurt don’t live in denial.
* Understand that love does not stop with that person who had hurt you in the past.
* Understand that all men are not the same or women if you like.
* There are still good men/women out there in the world.
* There is someone waiting to love and cherish you.
* Sometimes relationship hurts happen because of bad choices. Pay attention to early warning signs the next time so you won’t get hurt again.
* Seriously Stop Punishing YOURSelf

For I Know the plans I have for you. Plans of good and not of evil, to give you a hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

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Adebisi Adetunji (C)

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So your Boyfriend Dumped you!

I stumbled on this piece while looking through my former laptop hard disk for a movie  just to relax my head… Its a piece i wrote some 4years ago. I’d like to share it…

How to handle hurts from a broken relationship

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So your boyfriend dumped you or is in love with another! It is not the end of the world and certainly not the end of your life. First lock up yourself and cry your heart out, not get drunk flat out on your face. I mean this guy might not even shed a tear if something bad happens to you. He might well say, “I knew something was not right about her”

After you have cried out some of your pain, get up and face the world again. Get busy doing something profitable for you. You could take up a new project, do something for others, and take up a new hobby, maybe writing.

If it’s too painful and you still have to see him, take a trip or holiday and get out of his zone for a while if you can manage to get away from work.

Meet and make new friends, but do not jump into the arms of the very next guy who finds you attractive. He is probably not the guy you are looking for because your heart is still hurting too much to allow you have a good judgment about the decision you have to make.

Take time to know yourself afresh and determine what you really want your life to be about. You may discover your ex didn’t fit in to the future you dreamed about after all.
Understand that you will find love again, better than you imagined!

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Adebisi Adetunji