In the News : 37 year Old Woman Gives birth to 38 Children!!😱

A Ugandan Woman named Mariam Nabatanzi Babirye has the photo of herself, husband and some of her 38 Children splashed all over the pages of newspapers and social media.

As I stared at the photo of this “massive” family my jaws dropped open for a long while😱. Being a mother myself I can’t even begin to imagine having to go through birth pains 5 times not to talk of 38 times!! It is simply writing a suicide letter in my opinion. Expert says that having too many children increases a woman’s health risk

Mariam’s story is that she was given off in marriage at age 12 to a 40 year old man. A child abuse case, I mean I don’t understand the excuse that it Is because parents are ignorant that makes it easy to give away a child in marriage. This has to stop!

I believe it is only by sheer Providence that Mariam survived these births which were mostly probably delivered by a local midwife before she finally arrived at a hospital. Now the world knows her story. Haaaaa it is simply not a funny matter to me!!

By age 40 possibly the ware and tear of her body may soon start manifesting in form of one ailment or the other.

Medically the reason she has had multiple births is because she is hyper-ovulating. Meaning that she her ovaries releases multiple eggs monthly.
They say ignorance is costly and it is not an excuse. I can’t help but think about the what ifs of Maria’s case.
If only she and her husband had known better ; if only a family member or friend or neighbor had pointed her in the way of a permanent modern family planning method solution. Seriously somebody should have told her that her ovaries and even the uterus could be removed.

Anatomy – medicine. com

Somebody said the children didn’t look hungry or under nourished in the photo. Maybe because their father is a farmer? How big is his farm to be able to feed a family of 40 including making extra money to cloth and send them to school?

My what ifs returns… Seriously having too many children puts the mother, children and even the father at risk. High blood pressure from not having enough to care for them will set in.

Another angle to this is that government needs to better equip and strengthen primary health centers in villages and communities. It is my business; it is your business to save a mother and child.

Maternal deaths can be prevented through adequate health education and family planning.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

A Breathing Space for a Mother

Life is already tough for most women so there is need for a woman to really pay attention to her health and needs.

Often in market places and on the street I see a woman backing her baby with a heavy tray filled with wares she is hawking in the hot sun. The mother and baby suffer from the heat and are stressed out at the end of the day.

We met this woman carrying this big heavy Basin looking all worn out at the corner of a street in a community while on a house to house campaign on family planning with the Nigerian Reproductive Health Initiative team in Ibadan.  After chatting with her she was happy to quickly ask for a card that she would take to the family planning clinic to get a method done. Our brief enlightenment was like a rope of hope to pull her out of the troubled waters of having too many children.

I looked at her and wondered what her own unique struggles were? How many mouths she had to feed and how much she earned per day to care for her children. One obvious challenge was poverty.

Giving birth to too many children one cannot cater for will only continue the circle of poverty especially for many women.

Therefore it is our business to encourage that woman who cleans for us; that woman who sells petty things across the street; that woman who struggles with caring for her family. She needs to know how to stay healthy and stress free through the use of family planning. Then we will have less maids or cleaners with ten children that are denied the best things of life.

Save a mother, help a woman to have a richer and stress free life. Let’s help reduce the burdens we bare as women.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Training Opportunity: Safe Motherhood Education

I wish I had had an opportunity to learn about safe motherhood as a young girl/lady. In preparing a girl to settle down in marriage mothers are expected to teach her to cook, clean, wash and manage a home. Then as your wedding day draws near you get a little gist about satisfying your man sexually…Bedroom matters that nobody even gives you detailed instruction about how it works. We usually stumble along the way finding out as days, weeks and months pass by. Well this is a story for another blog post.

This post is about how to equip young women single and married about safe motherhood. Trust me this is very important especially if you intend to have children. My personal story and journey into motherhood was a turbulent one. It almost cost my life and that of my baby. I simply didn’t know and my young husband didn’t know any better. We made a lot of unhealthy mistakes that even now I still regret.

Knowledge they say is power…here is an opportunity to get the necessary information and keys to a safe motherhood…it might save your life or someone close to you.

Who is organizing the Training?
Life Builders, a Non-profit Organization is facilitating this training

Theme: Safe Motherhood Education Training

It is a flexible two days (Saturdays) training spread across two weekends.

What to expect/Topics:

First Day – 8th April, 2017
Before Pregnancy: Know Yourself; Prepare yourself
During Pregnancy: Attending Ante natal; Periodic Pelvic Scans
During Labour

Second Day – 22nd April, 2017
Post-Partum Period: Breast feeding, Immunization, Exercises that will help the uterus return to pre pregnancy stage;
Nutrition: Know your baby; Weaning Class; Eating for two and still maintaining a good shape.
Family Planning/next pregnancy: Sex Post-Partum, Child Spacing/Contraceptive; Returning to work/day care/housekeeper; Cancer Prevention – Periodic check

Venue: Life Builders, Ikolaba Agodi G. R. A, Ibadan.
Time/Duration: 10am – 2pm daily

Facilitators:

Dr. Otolorin

Mrs Grace Oluwatoye – 08033745604

Mrs Kilanko

To participate in this training – Send your name to these numbers 07013141188, 08132338817 (50 Slots available)
Email: lifebuildersnig@gmail.com

Adebisi Adetunji ©

Dorathy’s Story – Promoting Women’s Health through Family Planning #getittogether

A friend of mine Dorathy (Not real name) has two boys. Often when we talked she admired my little girl and really desired to have a baby girl, someone she could dot on. A girl she could take to the salon to make her hair, fix all sorts of colorful ribbons and hair extension. We would often laugh about this.

Dorathy my friend soon got pregnant again and we were all very excited about this new baby but it would turn out to be a turbulent pregnancy. She was in and out of the hospital and almost lost her life. Dorathy had to undergo a Caesarean section. As soon as she was delivered of her baby Dorothy got a family planning method done. When I asked her if she still had plans to have more babies in the future she vehemently rejected the idea, saying that she wants to be well and alive to care for her children.

Every time I see my friend Dorathy she looks chicky, young, alive and beautiful! She has time to pursue her dreams and handle her business. Her boys are doing well too.

Family Planning helped my friend to handle the fear of getting pregnant again after an eventful pregnancy.
How Family Planning can help promote a woman’s health
• She can rest in between births. This allows her to recuperate properly before getting pregnant again.
• A woman/her family can choose to have babies when they are ready.
• Family planning gives a mother the time needed to care for and nurture her baby as she doesn’t have to face the challenge of been pregnant while still nursing a 3 -6months old baby. This can be emotionally and physically draining for her, her baby and the family.
• Family Planning is one sure way of saying “I have enough children”. This means that a woman can stop having children if she is satisfied with the number she has while still in her reproductive years.
• When a woman keeps having children with barely enough time in between births she cannot pursue her dreams and goals. With family planning, a woman can meaningfully contribute economically to her family and the society.

A healthy woman, a productive woman
A healthy woman, a happy woman
A healthy woman, a more relaxed and beautiful woman
Family Planning promotes women’s health and wellbeing.

Adebisi Adetunji(C)