Children Celebrate Nigeria’s 57th Independence: Proud to be a Nigerian

Be proud of where you come from. Teach your children about their heritage. How are you contributing to your country’s development? 

Adebisi Adetunji (C)


Success Tips to Kick Start Your Week #1

Team work at Spitfire Advocacy Training on FP in Ibadan (femininematerz photo)

Work for something because it is good, not just because it stands a chance to succeed. Vaclav Havelock, 1st President of Czech Republic.

Get your team to understand that what they do makes a difference. Richard Templer, Author of The Rules of Management.

Understand that your role and what you do is important; it makes a whole lot of difference in your job/assignment. Give your best shot this week and succeed.

Sometimes you loose your steam and passion for what you do.

Sometimes you wonder if it is all worth the effort and time you put in. And sometimes you just feel like giving up on your job, project or business. DON’T Give Up BECAUSE YOUR EFFORTS REALLY DOES MATTER. YOU ARE GOING TO SUCCEED.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)


Keep dreaming never give up. And hey… Don’t close your eyes😀. A beautiful piece by Jacqueline the word Smith. This girl keeps going higher… Please check out her newest book, “Unbridled’ on Amazon.
Never give up on your dreams!

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Today, I’ll dream with eyes open, so that I’ll see where life will take me and appreciate the steps.

Today, Dream, Aspirations, Inspiration, Life, Quotes,

Check out my latest book ‘Unbridled.’

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Two girls are excited about attaining womanhood soon they find out the bitter truth about the passage right. This story strikes a bug chord in my heart. It is a reminder that some cultural practices are really harmful to our wellbeing. Cutting the genitalia of girls has no health benefit. It instead leaves a lasting scar that affects a girl’s womanhood, health and reproductive system.

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Editor’s note: Hey people, how are we doing? Quick one, you all know I just completed a series on the cultural practice of Female Genital Mutilation in the name of Female circumcision. An ardent reader of this blog was inspired by that series to come up with this short story. I love it at first glance. It resonated deeply with the message we are trying to pass across. Let us end FGM in Nigeria. #EndFGMng

It’s the best experience any girl could pray for I was told

Mama says the best moment every girl wanted

The birth of the woman in me
Admiring my image in the mirror was all I seem to do daily

As I await my glorious day as mama called it
For weeks myself and Ougene talked about it

Making us the envy of the younglings

She would twist her neck and say “I will soon…

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Hurting – Fiction in Five Sentences

When daddy and mummy fights guess who is hurt the most? This fiction in five sentences by Jacqueline says it all. Create a peaceful, loving and safe environment for yourself and children. It is a choice worth making.

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Tears ran down the bridge of Jane’s little nose and fell on Captain.

Huddled near her best friend Captain she tried to drown out their screaming voices.

She never liked it when they fought and they seemed to do it more and more.

Dad would storm out and disappear for days and mum would go round the bend all teary and mad.

She wished she was back at her gran’s house.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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SPITFIRE Advocacy Skills Training for Media in Oyo State

When I first heard of the catch phrase “Spitfire”, I thought in Pidgin language…”Wetin this one mean now”? Analysing it further I came to the conclusion that it possibly means reinforcement and persistently talking about an important social issue or whatever issue. In this case spacing births in order to save lives, improve on the quality of lives of citizens and of course making governance easier for government.

I have been part of the Spitfire Advocacy training on how to effectively share family planning stories organized by DEVCOMS and NURHI holding in Ibadan, Oyo State.

As the training began it became clear what Spitfire Advocacy means. It is a tool for helping non-profit organizations develop high impact and effective persuasive communication. It is a Smart Chart for communications and the latest version is known as Chart 3.0

In advocacy efforts the Spitfire tool can be used at different levels of creating awareness and making impact about an issue. Some of these stages include:
1) Just starting a communication process: This is the planning stage where you determine your message; goals and objectives and what you intend to achieve.
2) Building on a campaign that is already on-going
3) Reviewing and wanting to scale up on an already executed project.

Spitfire is also a more effective strategic communication advocacy tool. It helps organizations and individuals who are change agents to make decisions that will produce high result. Read more about The Spitfire Strategies Smart Chart 3.0, a highly effective communication tool.

Why  the media is important here: Because it has the capacity to educate the public. The media is a potent force that can cause change positively or negatively.

Spitfire strategies helps you make:
Time Bound

Set SMART goals, decisions in achieving a change.

I learned that nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it. Team work and coalitions makes pursuing and achieving success at an idea more effective. As you can see in this photo

A group of participants in a tight interlocked hand holding exercise. Lots of laughter 😂😂😂 as they tried to untangle while still holding each others hands to form a circle. It looked unachievable at first but we ended up unraveling the mystery 😀😀😂

Facilitators at the training:
Mrs Stella Akinso – State Team Lead, Oyo (NURHI)
Mallam Kabir. M. Abdullahi – State Team Leader, Kaduna(NURHI)
Mr Samuel Rapheal – Senior Program officer, Advocacy & Demand generation (NURHI)

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Woman to Woman Talk #3 – If it is not a Diamond Ring then Nothing….

A girl graduates from college and sets her heart on settling down with the man of her dream. One should be clear about the kind of man one would like to marry. There is nothing wrong with writing down a few things about what you will like to see in the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. A typical list- A tall, handsome, six packs guy….hmmmn nice look! Then he has to have a Cadillac car, own his own business, and have a yacht and an airplane to fly you around the world in. Fantastic! Some girls are lucky to marry a prince or rich tycoon and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, it’s a good dream …money will not be a problem! A friend said he prefers six digits to six packs… 😀 Lol

However, girl, there are other indices to consider when considering the kind of man you will like to settle down with. I met a few ladies who say that their man has to be rich before they can wear his ring. What happens if he spoils you with all the money in the world but does that to many other women in his life…you are only wearing the ring plus he is always never around flying across the world doing business.

I am wondering …who says you can’t be rich as a woman. Is there a law against that…certainly no? Do not measure the comfort you can have in life by what a man can offer you.

In the name of looking for a rich guy some ladies have passed off would be billionaires just because they are not looking like it right now.

What you need is an honest, God-fearing and Kind man whether he has money or not.

Work hard, have big dreams and you can be successful too. The right man who will appreciate, love and respect you will come your way.

Don’t sell yourself, short woman. A man’s character is not defined by the money in his pocket. 

Adebisi Adetunji (C)