Hurting – Fiction in Five Sentences

When daddy and mummy fights guess who is hurt the most? This fiction in five sentences by Jacqueline says it all. Create a peaceful, loving and safe environment for yourself and children. It is a choice worth making.

a cooking pot and twisted tales

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Tears ran down the bridge of Jane’s little nose and fell on Captain.

Huddled near her best friend Captain she tried to drown out their screaming voices.

She never liked it when they fought and they seemed to do it more and more.

Dad would storm out and disappear for days and mum would go round the bend all teary and mad.

She wished she was back at her gran’s house.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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SPITFIRE Advocacy Skills Training for Media in Oyo State

When I first heard of the catch phrase “Spitfire”, I thought in Pidgin language…”Wetin this one mean now”? Analysing it further I came to the conclusion that it possibly means reinforcement and persistently talking about an important social issue or whatever issue. In this case spacing births in order to save lives, improve on the quality of lives of citizens and of course making governance easier for government.

I have been part of the Spitfire Advocacy training on how to effectively share family planning stories organized by DEVCOMS and NURHI holding in Ibadan, Oyo State.

As the training began it became clear what Spitfire Advocacy means. It is a tool for helping non-profit organizations develop high impact and effective persuasive communication. It is a Smart Chart for communications and the latest version is known as Chart 3.0

In advocacy efforts the Spitfire tool can be used at different levels of creating awareness and making impact about an issue. Some of these stages include:
1) Just starting a communication process: This is the planning stage where you determine your message; goals and objectives and what you intend to achieve.
2) Building on a campaign that is already on-going
3) Reviewing and wanting to scale up on an already executed project.

Spitfire is also a more effective strategic communication advocacy tool. It helps organizations and individuals who are change agents to make decisions that will produce high result. Read more about The Spitfire Strategies Smart Chart 3.0, a highly effective communication tool.

Why  the media is important here: Because it has the capacity to educate the public. The media is a potent force that can cause change positively or negatively.

Spitfire strategies helps you make:
Time Bound

Set SMART goals, decisions in achieving a change.

I learned that nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it. Team work and coalitions makes pursuing and achieving success at an idea more effective. As you can see in this photo

A group of participants in a tight interlocked hand holding exercise. Lots of laughter 😂😂😂 as they tried to untangle while still holding each others hands to form a circle. It looked unachievable at first but we ended up unraveling the mystery 😀😀😂

Facilitators at the training:
Mrs Stella Akinso – State Team Lead, Oyo (NURHI)
Mallam Kabir. M. Abdullahi – State Team Leader, Kaduna(NURHI)
Mr Samuel Rapheal – Senior Program officer, Advocacy & Demand generation (NURHI)

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Woman to Woman Talk #3 – If it is not a Diamond Ring then Nothing….

A girl graduates from college and sets her heart on settling down with the man of her dream. One should be clear about the kind of man one would like to marry. There is nothing wrong with writing down a few things about what you will like to see in the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. A typical list- A tall, handsome, six packs guy….hmmmn nice look! Then he has to have a Cadillac car, own his own business, and have a yacht and an airplane to fly you around the world in. Fantastic! Some girls are lucky to marry a prince or rich tycoon and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, it’s a good dream …money will not be a problem! A friend said he prefers six digits to six packs… 😀 Lol

However, girl, there are other indices to consider when considering the kind of man you will like to settle down with. I met a few ladies who say that their man has to be rich before they can wear his ring. What happens if he spoils you with all the money in the world but does that to many other women in his life…you are only wearing the ring plus he is always never around flying across the world doing business.

I am wondering …who says you can’t be rich as a woman. Is there a law against that…certainly no? Do not measure the comfort you can have in life by what a man can offer you.

In the name of looking for a rich guy some ladies have passed off would be billionaires just because they are not looking like it right now.

What you need is an honest, God-fearing and Kind man whether he has money or not.

Work hard, have big dreams and you can be successful too. The right man who will appreciate, love and respect you will come your way.

Don’t sell yourself, short woman. A man’s character is not defined by the money in his pocket. 

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Meet and Greet: 4/1/17

At Drey’s blog connect with others. Its a great time in the blogging community

Dream Big, Dream Often


It’s the Meet and Greet weekend everyone!!  Strap on your party shoes and join the fun!  

Ok so here are the rules:

  1. Leave a link to your page or post in the comments of this post.
  2. Reblog this post.  It helps you, it helps me, it helps everyone!
  3. Edit your reblog post and add tags.
  4. Feel free to leave your link multiple times!  It is okay to update your link for more exposure every day if you want.  It is up to you!

  5. Share this post on social media.  Many of my non-blogger friends love that I put the Meet n Greet on Facebook and Twitter because they find new blogs to follow.

See ya on Monday!!

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Guest Post: Wearing Different Hats on a Shoe By Adebisi Adetunji

I met Ashley from Pockets full of Love blog. She juggles school with blogging and I simply love the fact that she has it all planned out. Thanks for the privilege to share some of my thoughts on your page.



At a dinner party and awards event I attended once, the host and CEO of the organization also played the role of MC at the event. He won over the crowd. He was a natural. That night, I started to admire our host because of his willingness to play different roles. If you would like to be a jack of all trades too, here are a few pointers.

How to fit into different roles comfortably

  • Never underestimate what you can do, or who you can be. Try out a new role, and apply for a new job position. The role just might fit you well.
  • Be on time to act out your role or else someone else will take your place and possibly do it better.
  • Don’t mix up your different roles. Play and act out one role at a time, so you won’t get overwhelmed and your roles don’t…

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Shout Out to My Blogging Community and Friends

Where have I been? At the phone clinic trying to fix my Android. It hasn’t been funny and its why I haven’t been able to visit your pages and read all your juicy stories and post. It is difficult posting as well as my battery isn’t charging due to a bad charging port. Really frustrating.
I hope  my “technical doctor” can fix this problem ASAP. Miss you all.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)