My heart pounded fast as I listened to more of mother’s sob. Tears flowed down my check as I wondered whether her resolve not to give in to the rites of having to sleep with her late husband’s brother in order to allow father’s spirit to rest. Would she stand the pressure been mounted on her by his family? It was believed that failure to carry out this rite as was the custom meant that family will be under a curse, which meant more deaths in the family.
Mother had been through a lot. Only the arrival of my brother Obinna gave her relief from the pressures of father’s family. I remembered uncle Ebuka taunted her with the fact that she had no inheritance if she couldn’t bear a son. It was only through father’s support and his refusal to take another wife that gave her hope for the 9years she had to wait after giving birth to me. I finally slept off only to be woken by grandma’s early morning chanting to chi, the family god. I heard her pray that her son’s spirit would find rest in the land beyond. She prayed that chi would drive away evil from her clan. Mother got up at about this time too. Her face was swollen and I knew she hadn’t slept through the night. I greeted her and she answered with a sigh. We both knew it would be another day of sitting down on the mourning mat, receiving sympathizers from all over the village.
Meaning of Word
Cleansing Rites – Purification ritual – In the context of this story, a widowhood ritual expected to be performed by a widow in some cultures to wade of certain evil occurrence.
-An excerpt from one of my short stories collection.
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If you trekked(long walk) and endured a lot during your NYSC(National Youth Service Corp) days then you must be greatful that you made it through like me😀
I remember the long walks from Roundabout Mokola to Dugbe(some kilometers) many times – no money
I remember walking home in the rain one day as I wept but no one could tell the difference between my tears and that of the rain
I remember that I had so much fun too.
I remember the day of our passing out after the one year service to our father land(Nigeria) . I held the certificate of discharge in my hand and wondered what the future holds for me.
Its been over 17 years now! My journey through the years has delivered to me opportunities I never imagined! Now I drive through those same kilometers and neighborhoods I had to walk through in the rain/high sunny day 🌞🌞⛈️
Tough Times Don’t Last… That painful and dark season will soon pass giving way to light and better days. DON’T GIVE IN.
So I am here today saying thank you Lord, Baba e seee! Glory to God!
It is easy to focus on what isn’t working in our lives so much that we forget yesterday’s mercies.
So here I am celebrating today as a gift
I am celebrating the peaceful night rest I had last night and this feeling of freshness.
I celebrate His love for me;
I celebrate His faithfulness ;
I celebrate the fact that He fights my battle for me;
I celebrate the fact that he saved I and my family from accidents & moments of destruction!
I celebrate today and the great future to come.
Yeeees my tomorrow is alright! WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?
One time I made a mistakein boarding a wrong bus headed for a destination far from where I intended to go. It turned out to be a long journey back to the hotel I was lodged plus the I had to be in the freezing weather for one hour before getting another bus that was going my way.
LESSON: Be CAREFUL of the choices you make in life; don’t ignore the warning signs in your heart.
GRATEFULfor the lesson I learned with this experience. Even in my mistake or taking a wrong turn, God protected me and didn’t allow me fall into the hands of people that could take an advantage of me. Eventually He got me safely to my destination. EVEN When we take wrong turns He is there guiding us. #Godlovesyou WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?