Saying Hello… Where Have I been?!

Well Hello to you!
I know, it’s been a while! You know that feeling of wanting to write, publish and keep up with managing your blog but somehow, it is put on hold for so many reasons… Sometimes you need to just step back, catch your breath, sort out what is important at the moment, go into a “reset mode” and repackage.

Never feel guilty about taking a break when you need one. Take time to sort through stuff.

So my life has been a mixed bag of sorting out life! But I never forgot the reason why I started this blog…to find my voice, share stories, give a voice to women like me, and somehow impact someone positively.

Guess what?! After trusting God for a change, applying the strategies of planning, taking necessary steps to achieve my desired change I landed a new job position !! (I will be sharing stories about the new lessons I am learning with you here soon).

 

For now, I am simply grateful for you and everything that has happened in the last few months. It has been a roller coaster of mountain top and valley experiences, through it all, I am still here, going on strong. I am excited about a new horizon…great things loading!

You are stronger than you think, things will eventually work out for your good. Don’t give in.

Enjoy the different seasons of your life. Tears will always give way to joy, keep trusting, keep believing. Sending a silent prayer your way to pull you through whatever rough season, you might be experiencing.

 

Warm Regards,
Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Seize the Days in Your Week #MondayMotivation

It is a brand new week…Are you feeling fresh and ready to go?! I know for some your body aches probably because your weekend was busy with loads of tasks to finish.

Tips To Run With

  • Take a deep breath.
  • Maintain some minutes of quietness and make a list of things you are grateful for.
  • Pen your to-do list for today; the week…whatever works for you.
  • Take your tasks one at a time.
  • Stop worrying about whether the week will turn out fine. It will as you face each day with optimism and a can-do spirit.
  • Remember to rest in between your tasks. Have moments of me time

So go seize your week and make the best of it.

This post was inspired by the book titled- Seize the Day: Living on Purpose and making every day count written by Joyce Meyer. 

This woman inspires me a great deal. She survived her abusive childhood and through Grace that found her came through the journey of finding healing and hope. Today she is a blessing to many lives, preaching the love of God and has written over 60 books. Now that is living life on purpose! The book “Seize the Day” is loaded, motivating and down to earth; after reading my copy of the book I am more intentional about my daily activities.

Some quotes from the book:

If we are not willing to risk what we have now, we will never find out what we could have

Passion keeps us going even in times when we want to give up.

A positive mind leads to an energetic, enthusiastic life –Joyce Meyer

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Woman to Woman Talk #27 Stop Stressing Yourself About What You Can’t Change

We women are emotional beings and therefore little things can upset us. In a relationships women are the most hit when things take a downward turn or it doesn’t work out totally.

This is a short and straight to the point post that says to you : Stop Stressing yourself about what you can’t change in your man! People don’t change easily and so you are not responsible for his action but you can choose how you react to it.

Your peace of mind and sanity is important. Some of us try so hard to change our man but nothing is working. The nagging, frustration, tears and stress pile up.

My candid advice:
He may never change. Accept what you can but not when it is a physically abusive relationship. This one you must escape for your life!!

I am talking about issues between you and your spouse that borders on… He didn’t help with bathing the children; he didn’t give me enough money, he doesn’t care enough, he did this or that… Seriously ask him to help! Some men will see you doing all the work and just believe that you are fine… Ask him to help… Tell him you are tired and exhausted.

On other family issues please stop stressing yourself. Find a way around the issues and make yourself Happy.

No one is responsible for your happiness, you and God are. Human beings are so not perfect.

Be grateful for what you have; stop comparing your spouse with other people’s husband. Relax God is in control!

Stop stress yourself about what you can’t change woman. Enjoy your life.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Sunday Inspiration : That time When getting Admitted into School was Difficult for Me – Your Struggles & Pain Will Work out For Good

Just me looking back and grateful
A house my family & I lived in for many years in Kano.

Today when I look back I am amazed at how things turned out for me in terms of getting an education.

By the way I went to a public school and back then you could get quality education unlike nowadays that parents enrolled their children in private schools and pay so much simply because the standard at our public schools have really fallen. Now back to my own story.

In primary five students start to write entrance exams to get into secondary/high school. So by the time you get into your final class you already had a number of schools to choose from judging by the number of admission letters you have in your hand. My parents wanted me to go to a particular popular school for girls in Kano. The girls who attended that school were brilliant and stood out. I wrote the exams and was one of the lucky ones selected. I was excited but alas one day at my head teachers office I found out that my place had been given to another girl. I was terribly disappointed. Since I didn’t write another school’s exam I had to wait a while and struggled to get into another secondary school. I ended up at a school somewhere in Borno state still in the North. I spent only one session in that school as I couldn’t cope with the life there. It was tough and rugged and the school was in the middle of nowhere out of town and in the bush.

Finally I was rescued and taken to Jos, Plateau state and my first school was Naraguta grammar school… Not the standard my dad wanted. I was always coming first and my dad felt there wasn’t enough competition for me😀
But most importantly it was there that I understood what it meant to know God in a personal way. Jesus found me and I came to know him in a very special way. Funny how the Lord leads our path.

After that school I went to Baptist High school in Jos still and it was a marvelous time been taught by teachers like Mr Stone, Miss Gaines- I really still do miss her Bible lessons because it was full of stories, real life issues. Quickly the years went by and I was preparing to get into the university/college. I thought it would be easy but I was in for a bumpy ride and long journey. First I failed my physics and chemistry subjects. You see I was a science student and had the intention of becoming a doctor… Hmmmn the dream of every parent back then as it was a prestigious profession.

I wrote WAEC like four times and all my private lesson teacher’s coaching still didn’t help me to pass my science subjects. I remember going to a center to check my third WAEC result. As I looked through my list and saw that I failed my physics, chemistry and biology again I made up my mind that enough was enough. It was then that I made a u-turn and decided to register for art subjects. This time around I passed them seamlessly. It became clear that I wasn’t cut out for the medical line and I told my dad so.

It is important to study your child’s strength and guide him/her  in the right direction.

Somewhere in between all of these I still enrolled for a pre-degree course at the University of Jos with the intention of doing one of the science courses. You can guess what happened : I failed badly wasting another two years. At last I decided to seek admission to study law at the University of Jos. It was another struggle, they just wouldn’t admit me for so many reasons. All the while I was praying hard that God will show up for me. In fact I wondered why it had to be a struggle to move to each stage of my education.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts neither are my ways your ways.

God had a better plan and through all my delay and struggle He was working things out. His good plans for my life were unfolding. Everything I experienced and everywhere I had been were all part of the plan and necessary to make become the person I am today.

We may not understand why we have to go through things sometimes but God always has a better plan for his children.

Finally without struggle I got an admission into Bayero University Kano and I didn’t even want to go there because that was were I grew up and for other reasons. I got to study the course English and specialized in literature. One of the reasons Iit had to be that school was clear to me years later… It was there I met my husband 😀

Today I have a masters in Social Work and I look back still amazed at how the Lord brought me around in full circle.

You may seem delayed God is working.
Your good and bad experiences will all work out for your good.

We don’t need to understand all the plans but we can trust him and He does really know what he is doing… Beautifying your life.

I don’t know your struggles and I know it can be hard, I am here to say have faith; fear not, it will all work out for your good.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Tuesday Inspiration – Love, Time and Death (My Short thanksgiving Letter to God)

Lying down or sitting on a couch(really can’t remember which position) in my living room while watching a movie which mirrors three important aspects of life: Love, Time and Death

Every human being has a need for love; we all need time to fulfill our dreams and our time here on earth is short whether we live to a hundred years or more.

I looked back at my life and I saw that there was so much to be grateful for.

My short letter of thanksgiving to God:
I love you Lord
Thank you for creating me
Thank you for giving me life
Thank you for holding my hands through times of pain
Thank you for assuring me in my times of uncertainty
Thank you for taking care of my fears
Thank you for putting laughter on my sister’s lips again (Lost her husband and re-married)

Thank you for all you are doing in my sibling’s lives
Thank you for the gift of love and a home
Thank you for my husband and children
Thank you for all the good people you have surrounded me with
Thank you for clearing my doubts
Thank you for wiping my tears

Thank you for the gift of laughter
Thank you for not giving up on me
Thank you for abundant opportunities to grow
Thank you for making me, me

There is so much more I am grateful for…But I bask in your unexplainable love for me dear God.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)