Step Out of Your Title ; Surprise yourself and Others

Me & Dolapo Dosunmu

Meeting this dear woman, Mrs Dolapo Dosunmu at a development work review meeting left me feeling good and humble. She made us feel relaxed and generated so much laughter with her sense of humor. You wouldn’t guess her title, I mean her role in the office.

She was so down to earth as the moderator of the 2-Day Review Meeting with UNICEF and 10 States Media Partners that produced the Radio Drama Serial, “Pim pim pim”. It was an enter – educate format to generate social behavior change in attitudes of people and communities towards female genital mutilation FGM also known as female circumcision.

I and a participant were saddled with the responsibility of reporting all activities and discussion of the first day of the meeting. While crossing our “Ts’ and doting our “l’, we asked her to give us her designation in order to properly capture the correct information needed to conclude the report. Here was this woman telling me that she is the,”State Director of National Orientation Agency, Oyo”! I stood there thinking, “wow, so a state director has been the moderator”. Dosunmu was the errand girl if you like, because she was there to ensure that the meeting ran smoothly. She mingled easily and was humble about how she addressed everyone.

My take away and lesson:
*Step out of your title and make a simple difference.
*Wear your badge and title with humility.
* Mingle and keep people guessing about who you truly are😀. No need to blow your own trumpet, let others do it.

Women, we need to support each other more. Appreciate your sister, no need for the competition and unhealthy rivalry – paraphrasing a point from Dolapo Dosunmu

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Founder Beehyve Empowerment and Development Initiative. Media content provider, Trainer & consultant-@debisibusybeemedia, Behavioral Change Radio Drama, Communication4Development, Social Media Influencer, Principal Producer (FRCN) Catch me on Twitter – @DebisiBusybee, Facebook & email – bisimodupe1975@gmail.com

 

#NAWOJ Ibadan – International women’s day Celebration 2018 in Pictures

The Nigerian Women Journalists Ibadan chapter commemorated the 2018 International women’s day with a lecture which brought together women at the community level ; female politicians, Intellectuals, religious leaders and a good number of men who support women any day.

The event took place at the Nigerian Union of Journalist conference hall Iyaganku Ibadan today, 9th March 2018.
Theme: Progress For Women in Governance.

In a next post I will update you about the highlights and interesting points of view for now enjoy The Event in Pictures:

Honourable Mulikat Adeola – Mother of the Day /Chairman
Mrs Foluso Lala – NAWOJ president, Oyo state
Guest Lecturer : Mr Soji Eniade Executive assistant to Governor Abiola Ajimobi on administration
Mrs Adekiitan Adeegbe – immediate past chairperson NUJ Oyo and Mrs Morenike Tony-Esan National Vice president B Zone NUJ.

NUJ chairman Oyo State – Mr Adewunmi Faniran presenting an award to Hon. Mulikat Adeola

Mc : Jade Inspiration FM
A journalist from Premier FM 93.5 – Bukola Adesakin – reading the citations of Awardees

Me, Stella Oyebanji posing with Honorable Mulikat Adeola

Female Journalists posing in a picture with Hon. Mulikat Adeola

 

Adebisi Adetunji (C) Project Director Beehyve Initiative. Consultant Dev. Communication, Creative writer, journalist. 

Woman to Woman Talk #8 – Why Are we each Other’s Worst Enemies? Time to Change this!

I remember an election in Nigeria at 2011, PDP convention where the party voted to nominate their presidential nominee. Sarah Jibril, the only woman aspirant got only ONE VOTE and that was her own vote! I looked at all the women with head gears and the elitist women who were party card carrying members who had campaigned that more women should be allowed to handle more seats in the political arena of the Country and shook my head.

None of them voted for this fellow woman…rather sad in my opinion. Sometimes I think we are only playing lip service to our cry and desire to give more women a chance.

How can we get more women into leadership positions when we cannot support one another as women? We are territorial and operate a pull her down syndrome once it is not us that is vying for a post.

Often we gossip about each other pinpointing only the bad side to other women. You will hear things like, “who does she think she is?” “Is she the only one?” “I can do it better than her”. And guess who we are babbling this castigation to? The MEN O! How can they ever take us seriously?

If a fellow sister is occupying an office or has what it takes to handle that position support her. In the office some of us women will be unserious or lazy in carrying out the duties of our job. Then we will expect this boss woman to turn the other eye or we simply say, “But she should understand now, Is she not a woman too?! Since when has been a woman become an excuse not to do your job and then you want the men to give us a chance to handle things! Come on, women let’s wake up. Give your best shot at your job and stand out. I know we have to attend to other things in our lives but seriously stop making excuses; stop being lazy and get on with doing your job well. When you do really have to be excused from work let it be noted that something must really be wrong.

If a fellow sister is occupying an office or has what it takes to handle that position support her.

Then this one gets to me. Two women in an office, they are either bosses or colleagues if you like and then they have a misunderstanding …hehehe…work don stop be dat o!

Girl you really need to draw the line between carrying out the duties of your job and personal grouse. If there is a problem face the issue. Be matured enough and be the first to initiate sorting out the problem so that your work can go smoothly. You don’t have to be best of friends with everyone but you can be cordial/friendly after all we all have something we do those other people do not like about us. So stop keeping malice already and get on with your job.

You don’t have to be best of friends with everyone but you can be cordial/friendly after all we all have something we do that others do not like about us.

It is time to support one another as women; Time to change that style of pull her down syndrome; Time to see the good in other women.

Adebisi Adetunji (C)

Shout out to my girls who posed for the photo of this post. Abimbola Idowu & Ifeoluwa Akindele. Love you!!